For anyone looking on how to make a killer first impression and get yourself a better job, this video I recently put together will get you there.
This should help with networking events and first days on the job.
I think it will help some of you nail the "fit" part of your interviews as well.
Enjoy!
P.S. If you want to skip the intro, you can go right to 9:20 of the first video and get straight to the meat :-)
See video 2 inside the post...
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This is pretty good
Surprisingly not bad, though planting a big wet juicy kiss on an interviewer's cheek might send some mixed messages
Or one very clear message ;-)
In all seriousness, you're quite right. In business settings, the single handed hand shake is your best bet for introductions. Handshake + shoulder pat is good for saying goodbye at slightly less formal meetings.
-1 on the haircut
+1 for the advice
Ugh, I know. I asked for tighter on the sides and the barber took the buzzer straight up the back of my head. Part bad Portuguese (I'm living in Brazil), part haircut assassin.
Glad you were able to get something from it despite the cut :-)
I learned to "smile with my eyes" from an old coworker. It's been an invaluable skill. It helps to have a few happy images in your head you can revert to, to generate the emotion.
I htink all this comes with a caveat, though. While it's helpful to smile on command, too much and you may be regarded as someone that can't be trusted. Feel free to disagree, as I'm super jaded.
Make sure the images aren't too happy otherwise you might have some other organs smiling as well
SB for you sir. That had me laughing haha
A bit of constructive criticism - you've taken some of the concepts of 'charisma' a step too far. Flinging your hands around all over the show is not 'positive body language', it's a common trait of a beginner who has read a book or taken a toastmasters class but still hasn't a clue what they're doing. I watched the first minutes of the first video but can't recall a word you said.
The great speakers and presenters command the attention of the crowd. They don't necessarily use their hands a lot, nor do they always speak slowly. But the crowd (or viewer) gets lost in time while they're speaking. The trick is understanding how they do it.
A few excellent examples:
Similarly, watch Ed Viesturs talk for two minutes. He jumbles his words on a few occasions, has his hands in his pockets from time to time, but still has total command of the audience. Ed now does corporate speaking.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OHWiRe6UL8A
I'll play devil's advocate here.
I think most/all of what you say is true. But public speaking and "interpersonal" speaking are two different things.
And I think hands in the pockets are fine, as long as it's not your only move. More importantly, he (Ed) speaks using his diaphragm.
The examples you show highlight something I very much agree with: you can be charismatic in a variety of ways. You can mumble, speak quickly, keep your hands in your pockets, make halting eye contact and STILL give an incredible speech that moves people. Each of those things can even enhance your communication if done artfully.
There are no hard and fast rules. But generally speaking, I'm definitely of the opinion that the most charismatic speakers TEND to use a wide range of gesticulations. (Bo Eason is a guy I particularly like for this:
)
Hey Charlie, I am extremely interested in this type of topic, and the psychology behind self-confidence and personal development. Are there any books you recommend reading about this subject matter? Thanks for sharing this--I have found this video very helpful!
firm handshake and look at them directly in the eye, also do not lean over to the person
Charlie,
Thanks for doing this..Would really LOVE to see the "Inner Game" aspect as I find myself to be a highly charismatic person around people who know me, but if you throw a powerful executive in the room, or a really hot girl, I tend to shy away. It won't be for a bit until I can get a feel for the person where I start to slowly blossom again, but it never works as smooth as it would if I were known to the person or comfy with him/her if that makes sense...Would love to here about this!
Please & thank you!
we call that a high and tight haircut in London
Awesome video Charlie. SB+
That was such a goofy move by Will Smith - picking up a grown man and twirling him around? Maybe that's the norm for that show though, I've never seen it. Honestly, the fact that your target is to make someone else FEEL a certain way, AKA manipulate them emotionally, just throws trust right out the window. Perhaps focusing on making yourself a person that is worthy of a person's respect and trust would be a more worthwhile pursuit.
I hope this isn't too soon, and I mean this with 100% sincerity, Elliot Rodgers could have used some lessons from you guys.
Thanks for sharing this Charlie, this is a pretty rad video! Definitely helped me
How do I make a lasting first impression? (Originally Posted: 10/15/2016)
It is the period where most interviews are occurring for winter or off season internships. I am about to go for a couple of interviews so i thought that It would be wise to check with the community here on the best way to go about creating a positive lasting first impression without coming off too aggressive or eager to impress.
What are your tips?
Any memorable first impression you thought you gave during your interview? Or perhaps remembering a distinct first impression of an interviewee you interviewed?
First five minutes and last five minutes are the most important one's . Start with a genuine and interesting story how you got to the point where you are so that the interviewer wants to know more about you & likes you. Last five minutes, close with questions that go beyond "What do like about your job / how does a day in your job look like and all that bs" - include something that was mentioned during the interview for example, so he / she knows you listened carefully...
First, be prepared on technicals and expected behaviorals so that you don't become nervous.
Patrick Bateman makes a good point about first and last 5mins - the first 5 are especially important because at that point you are very in control and operating in charted territory. They will ask you to summarize how you get there. You can rehearse that. You can make it perfect. With the last 5min, be careful so that you ask an interesting question but it's also something that sounds good and genuine - don't use this opportunity to try sounding smart by asking convoluted questions full of jargon.
This is harder advice to follow, but: try enjoying the process of interviews. This will make you seem interested and let things flow comfortably. People will remember you as a good guy who was fun to chat with, as opposed to a ball of sweat and flat out guesses.
How to make an everlasting impression? (Originally Posted: 10/24/2017)
How to make an everlasting impression? Yes! I am talking about men's fashion. I'm very self conscious. That's why I needed to know about this.
I feel like this is only possible if you dress slightly obnoxious. Your'e personality, body language, tonality are things you can work on to real stand out.
Wear the best possible suit that fits perfectly, but leave your zip open and casually have a ball hanging out. I guarantee it will be an everlasting impression. No one will forget you
Whenever you meet somebody for the first time, walk up to them with your finger sticking out of your fly. You will not have to worry about what you are wearing anymore and they will surely remember you.
Thank you so much friends. :)
Making a god impression for lev fin and sponsors (Originally Posted: 12/30/2015)
I have requested to be staffed in lev fin and financial sponsors during my summer at a BB bank. I've been told that I have to make a great impression on the staffer due to the popularity of the groups, and I have a call scheduled with him in the upcoming week. Do you guys have any tips on what to say and what not to? How do these calls work? Is it just a friendly chat or is it more like an interview to to see if you fit the group?
Thanks!
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