Sometimes you just need a clean slate...

Thanks for clicking and taking an interest - I'll keep it brief. I am looking for advice as I feel at a crossroads in my life and perhaps someone here can relate or advise. 


I'm in my final year of undergrad starting in a few weeks and so far, my life has been challenging but I have loved every minute. The summer began for me with an internship at a MF as a SA which was a major stroke of luck for me to land and I couldn't have been happier. At this point, I am living with my best mate and calling my beloved girlfriend every day for a couple of hours. Occasionally visiting the folks and sending something home to keep them going. Feeling excited for what is to come. 


During the summer, for various reasons, I severed ties with my parents, long-term girlfriend, and my best friend of 10 years in the span of 10 weeks and it felt like being hit by a baseball bat again and again. I have felt like shit on more occasions this summer than ever before in life. Although some of my best moments have also been during the summer, I am now heading back to uni and evaluating my situation. 


Part of me wants to fix everything and pick up where I left off but simultaneously I feel completely free and refreshed. Another part of me thinks I should just completely restart my life from scratch and never look back. I have been feeling shitty lately and decided I need to decide on a direction and stick to it. 


Hoping for some words of advice and wisdom at this crossroads - thanks again for reading. 

 
riskymanager

During the summer, for various reasons, I severed ties with my parents, long-term girlfriend, and my best friend of 10 years in the span of 10 weeks and it felt like being hit by a baseball bat again and again. I have felt like shit on more occasions this summer than ever before in life. Although some of my best moments have also been during the summer, I am now heading back to uni and evaluating my situation. 

I understand not wanting to share on the Internet but you're going to have to be a little more specific here. This isn't just a one-off relationship falling apart, this sounds like it could be part of a bigger problem. No one can really give any advice without some more context as to what caused this chain of events (I'm assuming they were related in at least some way)

 

For various reasons you severed all of the close relationships in your life? Something isn’t adding up, alienating that many people is not a one off. Suggests the problem is with you vs them honestly unless there’s a huge extenuating circumstance 

 

I could drop a never happened, but this doesn’t read like something out of left field.

I don’t know you or those whom you had relationships with. However, I do know YOU were in those relationships. Before you get the bot farm to MS, take a sincere look at how you carried yourself in each of the aforementioned relationships. There is a chance you were not the Ghandi peaceful type counterparty you may have conjured up in your mind.

The world is small and life is long. Best not to completely sever ties, especially with family.

 

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