Is Tinder/Online Dating Really This Bad?

Friend sent me this showing article showing how attractive guys pretty much do whatever they want on Tinder. I have sucked on Tinder ever since getting to college but have always been a stable gf type of guy. All you other banker bro's out there, how is the Tinder and online dating game in general in New York or just big cities and do you think quarantine has anything to do with how much it's changed? Buddy of mine tells me that getting girls has become easier since quarantine and stuff but I just don't see it.

Link to article: 

https://illusoryrulecom.wordpress.com/2021/01/13/…

Comments (15)

 
  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jan 16, 2021 - 11:41pm

But I have friends who aren't even that bad looking and they still can't land anything. I've yet to meet any girls at my college that are this easygoing. Is this just the nature of online dating as a whole? Just hookups? Don't mean to sound naive, just a bit impacted by it all.

 
  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jan 17, 2021 - 12:00am

Just read the article, it's not the attractive thing, it's that these girls throw themselves and are acting really promiscuous or excessively sexual; I mean these people don't even know each other in person.

 
  • Analyst 1 in IB - Gen
Jan 16, 2021 - 11:50pm

Wow attractive people attract people! On a semi-serious note, if you're fit and have a few nice pics there's like no way you get no matches living in ny unless you are legit 2 standard deviations from the mean unattractive. Offline dating is a numbers game and online dating is just slightly moreso

 
Jan 17, 2021 - 12:01am

In my experience girls use two filters for guys on online dating sites: (1) looks/height (2) status. Outside of major cities most women will think Credit Suisse is a mortgage broker. This is probably a good thing even if it's a major ego bruise to most people on this site. Since if a woman matches with you she probably won't initially give a shit that you are at Carlyle/KKR because 99% of her friends haven't heard of it. 

 
Jan 17, 2021 - 4:09am

Based on my experience, the travel feature is really good. If you are on a business trip or vacation and want to meet a cute girl: all you have to do is use the app and at least 3-4 are available. You pick the one you like best (based on a digital profile) and meet her for dinner. Girls seem to like men from other regions, regions they have never been to before.

 

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Jan 17, 2021 - 4:09am

Dating apps are a total waste of time. Males way outnumber females and have to right swipe everything because it's a numbers game. Women are inundated with matches and messages and are afforded the luxury of being insanely selective. If you are an average to below average male you will get basically nothing. If you want to meet women you have to do it Irl.

 
Jan 17, 2021 - 4:09am

I'm not particularly attractive and had great luck with Bumble specifically. Tinder can be good depending on the city. It's a #s game so get on every app. I think the biggest problem is that most males use half assed pictures, I was guilty of this too. Have a female friend or your sister help you take good ones. 

 
  • Analyst 2 in IB - Ind
Jan 17, 2021 - 4:09am

I have been on bumble for almost three years and it is not the place to meet quality guys or get relationships, at least from my experience. Looks are important I admit. But as someone who has been hooking up for long, I stay away from extremely good looking people because they're mostly arrogant like the guy in that article and terrible in bed. You dont have to be only attractive. You just have to be fun, show interest and also very persistent. That is because for me I get matches almost every minute, some of them sometimes get lost. I understand it is not the same for guys so keep that in mind. Also, they say hinge is a great app for relationships. I have been off tinder for so long because most guys are losers there. Thats my two cents. Im like the exception here, most girls want a nice guy to be dating/bf, just make sure you're not giving the wrong vibes from your profile - maybe ask a friend. I helped my friend and his matches have improved since

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