WORST Boss Experience? Can You Beat This?

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I AM A GIRL - just putting this in there bc everyone is assuming this is coming from a guy's perspective

My Instagram was public with Venture Capitalist in the bio. Only reason for this was because it was more along the professional side. I got a follow from a guy who's bio had VC too so I figured I had found a connection. I requested to add his private account and as soon as I opened his page it was a picture of a guy getting a bottle of champagne poured on him by another guy. I wasn't sure who either of them were and forgot about it.

He messaged me for all my posts and stories and was super weird. I though about blocking him but decided not to in case I ever saw him somewhere. The VC area I am in is not a big as you would think. And I was absolutely right about that. I was in the hiring process with a firm and had a great first day. A larger boss.... let's call him Steve... walked me around. He told me my direct manager would introduce himself after a meeting with a client. Little did I know it was the champagne guy.

He walked up to shake hands and recognized me immediately. It was insanely awkward and Steve picked up on the vibe. He pulled me over later and said um do you two know each other some how. I didn't want to get someone fired or anything on the first day so I had just said I had seen him around somewhere. Well I shortly regretted that. Steve said if there's anything to tell me let me know, we then changed the subject and I met his lovely wife.

Champagne guy got WORSE and every weekend told me to go out and constantly stared at me. One time he told me there would be a team event, and I figured if it's for work it can't be that bad right? I walk in and there's 20 guys. Chain smoking and blow on the table and I instantly regret my decision but didn't want to just walk out. I then go into another room planning to make an escape, to see Steve with ANOTHER WOMAN. He invited some 25 yr old tramp when I had met his wife earlier that week. We made eye contact and I walked straight out. The weekend went by and I got no messages from either of them. I figured they were too effed up to even remember seeing me but I was wrong. Well that made coming in Monday even worse.

They tried giving me a raise and were so shady about it. They said I was doing "a great job". Basically some nasty way of trying to get me to keep my mouth shut. I put my 2 weeks in and never looked back. Worst bosses imaginable.

What about your stories?

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Jun 2, 2019

WTF? I can't believe that actually happened. Was this a smaller firm? If it was bigger you should report it. I am not one for being a rat but that's awful. My story is very different since I am not a girl (assuming you are).

My boss used to be in the army and his attitude and personality was basically like we were scum. He wanted you to respect him and shut up like he was a lieutenant. At first he was totally normal and the longer I stayed the more psycho he was. I started to think he was on coke and steorids. He was always pumped got mad for basically nothing and always had a vein poking out his forehead. He got bent out of shape for everything. I felt so bad for the intern. He would rip that guy a new one just for standing on his left side instead of the right. The intern was basically learning nothing and I could tell he was miserable and I really liked the kid so I started teaching him some stuff just for him to shadow me. I guess Mr. Bossman didn't like that and started to treat me the same. At a certain point I just got sick of him being a total psycho. He would do pushups in his office with the door closed but his office is glass and clients could see him. He would ruin sales and pitched by coming in and being a weirdo but would blame the rest of the staff. I left but I heard he fell off the map. My suspicion is he got fired and went to rehab or something. When I went somewhere else I realized what a healthy dynamic was and couldn't believe I actually put up with it for so long.

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Jun 2, 2019

In all honesty the way I like to handle things is to let everyone have what's coming to them. I don't want to affiliate with it or spend more time on it so I put it in the past. I have been working my a$$ off for a while to get to where I am and I have a long way to go so I don't want to waste time entertaining that but if it happened later on in my career where I was where I want to be with more time I might've done something.

Anyway your story surprisingly does NOT surprise me bc I have seen a few posts about crazy guys like that. I wonder if all of you work for the same place lolol

Jun 2, 2019

I hope this wasn't your first job because then ur view of finance is from the worst part of it.

I have had a few crazy bosses. Nothing that bad though. My friend though had a guy that would walk barefoot Michael Burry style and eat a nasty raw egg mixture at work.

I've been lucky enough to spot the weirdos from the interview but I know some people can hide it until you r already on board

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Jun 2, 2019

It definitely was not my first and I am working with much better people. I stick with Linkedin now to avoid the instagram mistake. Although a lot of people still treat it and Shapr like match.com LMAO.

I love the Michael burry reference he's a favorite of mine for sure. The line between weirdo and genius is thin so if he could perform in numbers let the man be barefoot hahaha

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Jun 3, 2019

I worked for a complete psycho first year out of school. High-level real estate debt/equity brokerage, one of the top 3 producing teams in the country. He was an ex-professional sports player who got drafted but never made it and was perpetually bitter about this. Would stay at the office until 9 or 10pm to hide from his wife and kids all the time, heavy drinker with rage who would take it all out on the analysts. Almost broke his phone slamming it after a CMBS lender re-traded pricing. Constantly alluded to cheating on his wife, being annoyed with his family.

Would kill a 12-pack of beer on a Friday but worked insanely hard and would have to go through his massive amounts of comments while being expected to finish the package in full on a one day turnaround. Got hazed by being forced to drink everclear margaritas at lunch then head back to the office and crank on packages and models. Typical constant behavior of withholding comments until leaving at 7-8pm with an expectation to turn around the package by the next day.

The EMD's cleared about $7m apiece while he cleared about $3-4m. Analysts were paid $45-50k all-in at the end of the year - two of us left very shortly after while another stuck around for another year then bounced. Revolving door of analysts each year to this day.

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Jun 3, 2019

It is always the ex army and ex sports pros that I hear about on here. I was just telling @anotheronett either this is a common thing or a lot of ppl hear have worked for the same person lol.

And Everclear margaritas? that's death. And I have noticed a great indication of a psycho is the turnover rate

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Jun 3, 2019

Yep mine was ex military and I have seen a lot of posts hear about a really similar person. Could be a coincidence that a lot of them turn psycho tho

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Jun 4, 2019

In my experience the ex military guys have consistently been some of the best to work with. They have more of a common sense approach to things and a chill attitude, which I assume is because military service showed them what real stress is like.

Never worked with an ex pro athlete but I image its kind of like working with the college laxers because, just like the ex pro athlete, it seems to define them long after they hung up the cleats.

Jun 4, 2019

Everclear margaritas are the worst part of this story.

Jun 4, 2019

I've gotta agree with you and that one

Jun 5, 2019

LOL holy shit this sounds awful and I definitely need to know who this is because I'm never going to stop trying to pin down the context clues.

Also, those guys sound cheap as fuck who pays their analysts that little for that much work... while making that much money... Scum.

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Jun 5, 2019

You'd be surprised honestly. Ik a big ass PE firm that starts interns at 11$ an hr, and after bachelor's they pay analysts 17$....... like wtf.

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Jun 4, 2019

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Jun 4, 2019

Some people are really inflexible and always think their way is the best. I will never understand that especially if asking for assistance will please the customer

Jun 4, 2019

This sounds like Tobin & Company

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Jun 5, 2019

TOBINITES ASSEMBLE

"Work ethic, work ethic" - Vince Vaughn
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Jun 4, 2019

What the fuck did I just read

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Jun 4, 2019

A horrible experience hahhaha

Jun 4, 2019

OP - not trolling, genuinely curious; are you a man or woman? This story has a much different connotation depending....

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Jun 4, 2019

I am a girl hahahah

Jun 4, 2019

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Jun 4, 2019

OP,

All you have to do is say the magic word "MeToo" and all you'll problems will be gone.

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Jun 4, 2019

I put I am a girl there bc everyone kept assuming I was a guy lol

Jun 7, 2019

Not true. The reason finance has largely gone unscathed in the "Me Too" era is due to the secretive nature and aggressive legal contracts. I was aggressively pursued by an analyst/PM at large HF, even to the point that he single handedly had me moved across the country to work with him exclusively so we could have "one on one" meetings, even though we had been working just fine with me remote in another city for months...When I rebuffed his advances he even went as far to physically bear-hug block me from going to HR and threatened to get me sacked. I did eventually go to HR after I secured my bonus and then was mysteriously and suddenly pushed out of the organization (as in "move to different office or leave") despite having nothing but positive performance reviews. During my exit interview I was very candid about my experience. They brought in a third party law firm and, sure enough, found video-camera and other evidence that backed up all my claims. Furthermore, I was able to definitively prove he was inappropriate because he used to call me into his office when he was half-dressed and he wears a concealed weapon that I was able to identify...Despite all this, I spoke to multiple law firms who straight up said the legal contract I'd signed upon joining makes doing anything akin to taking on the Manhattan Garbage Union. Ultimately, I decided I didn't want to be the "Ellen Pao of hedge funds" and have that, opposed to my work, define my career, so I moved on...Consequences for him? My contacts on the inside told me after he was spotted cozy-ing up to another female analyst that they barred him from having any future female direct-reports. That's it.

nicole

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Jun 5, 2019

What a roller coaster of a ride you had, must have be really uncomfortable and awkward geeee

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Jun 5, 2019

It definitely was!!!!

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