how to become more social?
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on 10/11/10 at 8:42pm
Hi, I'm a freshman at a target in a major city. I want to get into IB, but I want to work on my soft skills before i become a junior.
Any way to do so?






cell phone conversations with
cell phone conversations with people you only meet on a forum :)
go to parties and meet
go to parties and meet strangers, helped me a ton
You have to be born with it
You have to be born with it but practice always makes perfect, good luck!
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Go read The Game by Strauss.
Go read The Game by Strauss. Just go to parties and hit on women. Best practice in the world. You will have to think on your feet, deal with rejection and show value.
Maybe get a PWM internship when you are a freshman and do a lot of cold calling. Familiarity on the phone is a huge asset.
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Although you may strike out a
Although you may strike out a few times, you may get lucky a few times. Hit on woman at parties. Make it your goal to once a day meet someone new. It helps a lot. You will make new friends and eventually through experience, you will earn your social skills.
Become more social? I don't
Become more social? I don't know, join a frat possibly, go out and get drunk and hit on girls. Being social is not really a sill that is learned, I feel like it is something that comes natural. In the context of networking, I would definitely hit up some alums and talk to them on the phone and meet some for coffee. Networking becomes easier and easier the more you do it.
Start drinking. Heavily.
Start drinking. Heavily.
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^^^ best advise
^^^ best advise
"Climbing a mountain that's only getting steeper"
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Anthony . wrote: Go read The
Go read The Game by Strauss. Just go to parties and hit on women. Best practice in the world. You will have to think on your feet, deal with rejection and show value.
Maybe get a PWM internship when you are a freshman and do a lot of cold calling. Familiarity on the phone is a huge asset.
Can't believe you recommended this book. I literally just got done reading this book this afternoon. It's so bad it's not even funny. Honestly some of that shit may work, but applying their hair brained pseudo science to your interpersonal relation ships seems like a horrible idea. I will admit that there's a couple good points in there:
1. Always smile: not like some silly fuck but polite and inviting
2. When you talk with people give them your undivided attention, or at least fake best you can.
3. Join a frat.
4. Learn how to do this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4_kZmglyw9U&feature...
Anthony . wrote: Go read The
Go read The Game by Strauss. Just go to parties and hit on women. Best practice in the world. You will have to think on your feet, deal with rejection and show value.
Maybe get a PWM internship when you are a freshman and do a lot of cold calling. Familiarity on the phone is a huge asset.
I was going to suggest the same thing.
looking for that pick-me-up to power through an all-nighter?
There are two types of
There are two types of socially inept person. The first is the most common: they're just scared of making a fool of themselves and so avoid the situation all together. They act very conservatively and are afraid of putting themselves out there. They would never stand up and make a speech or even tell a joke. The second are people with actual personality problems. And there's a plethora of types. Helping them become more sociable is extremely difficult and sometimes even impossible (even with therapy and/or medical treatment - e.g. xanax).
So you have to decide what branch you're in. Mosty likely the first. If that's the case I agree with those above. Go to campus parties, industry conferences, school club meetings, etc and try to engage strangers in conversation. (Don't use alcohol as a crutch) And remember that you're just a young guy- it's okay to make a fool of yourself. In fact it may even be good for you. Making social mistakes now and realizing that it's not a big deal will make you more confident in your adult life.
Stringer Bell wrote: Anthony
Go read The Game by Strauss. Just go to parties and hit on women. Best practice in the world. You will have to think on your feet, deal with rejection and show value.
Maybe get a PWM internship when you are a freshman and do a lot of cold calling. Familiarity on the phone is a huge asset.
Can't believe you recommended this book. I literally just got done reading this book this afternoon. It's so bad it's not even funny. Honestly some of that shit may work, but applying their hair brained pseudo science to your interpersonal relation ships seems like a horrible idea. I will admit that there's a couple good points in there:
1. Always smile: not like some silly fuck but polite and inviting
2. When you talk with people give them your undivided attention, or at least fake best you can.
3. Join a frat.
4. Learn how to do this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4_kZmglyw9U&feature=related
Advice in that book is legit dude. I literally had the exact same reaction as you did when I first read it. Now I am no shy person to begin with, but I was looking for a way to sharpen my talons. Basically increase the kill ratio so to speak. I read that book and thought it was complete bullshit. Then I started slowly working that shit into my day to day. Absolutely 100% spot on.
This stuff really works once you are done with college. All you need in college to get laid is sports letters or a frat. Once you get into the wild the game changes and you need some serious hunting abilities. Women are a lot smarter, experienced and you need to adapt your abilities. Getting laid in college spoils a guy.
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Anthony . wrote: Go read The
Go read The Game by Strauss. Just go to parties and hit on women. Best practice in the world. You will have to think on your feet, deal with rejection and show value.
Maybe get a PWM internship when you are a freshman and do a lot of cold calling. Familiarity on the phone is a huge asset.
Ah Anthony, you beat me to it. "The Game" is an absolutely fantastic resource. Everyone thinks it's just about how to run stupid games to trick women into sleeping with you at bars. Yes, that is a part of the book. But 75% of the book (and the culture it describes generally) is about self improvement and confidence. It teaches you what types of things people respond to subconsciously without realizing it (eye contact, self confidence), and how to cultivate those behaviors and beliefs in yourself.
The general theme of the "pickup" community in my opinion is about relating to people, and it works equally well on men and women - it's only that the outcomes are different. When a woman sees you as a high-value guy who's got his shit in order, she wants to sleep with you. When another guy notices that, it cultivates friendship and respect. That lesson has helped my career more than anything I learned in a classroom.
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Thanks CaptK. Key thing is
Thanks CaptK.
Key thing is this. No one wants to be around someone who sucks. Even people who suck themselves don't want to be around other people who suck. Don't suck, that is the goal.
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drink heavily. get a pwm
drink heavily.
get a pwm internship cold calling.
hit on chicks at parties.
get laid by hot girls. (this works the best)
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Anthony . wrote: Key thing is
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