advice: girl using me to get a job - what to do?
I'm an investment banking associate, and met a hot girl on a dating app Tinder. We started messaging and eventually agreed to go out for drinks next week.
After setting up the date she messaged me saying "just to make you aware before meeting, I'm not interested in hooking up. I only matched with you as I saw you're an investment banker and I'm looking to build a network with you as I'm interested in applying to your bank's graduate analyst programme and would appreciate your advice and if you're impressed with my experience and skills to see if you would be able to recommend me to HR?"
I was really caught of guard with this, and I was also quite hurt inside because we met on a dating app and just as I thought a hot girl was finally interested in a potential relationship with me.. it turns out she was only interested in networking for a job. So I replied quite bluntly "well yes I can recommend you if I wanted to, but I don't want to waste my time.. I only want to meet if we can hook up"
Then she replied saying "you only think about hooking up because I'm a woman and ignore the fact I can add value, you should widen your recognition and perspective and stop only thinking about hooking up."
I replied saying "Well we met on a dating app, go to LinkedIn if you want to network"
She replied "yes you're right - but I would still love to meet from a networking perspective, and maybe after if there is a connection between us we can go on a date in the future"
I really have no idea what to do here. Any advice?