How tf do i control a stutter?

Yeah I face the same problem but not as bad. If it doesn't happen when you're talking to your friends/family, then you definitely know its a pressure/anxiety related problem, which can probably be fixed. My buddy used to have an issue with public speaking so he would pop a beta blocker before big presentations at work (though surely there is some kind of consequence/side effect to use a drug for public speaking). 

For coffee chats though what can help is just getting comfortable with doing them, so try to get in a lot of reps. having some preplanned questions can help, as it gives the conversation more structure and avoids less awkward silences. 

if anyone else has some more concrete solutions please share 

Tell them beforehand, they will appreciate the honesty and bravery. And if you want to fix it, try to talk slower and enunciate each word. It takes practice but it works. Source: A Former Stutterer

I also have trouble getting certain words out of my mouth at certain times. I used to be very self conscious about it but after 6 years in the industry I've just got used to it. Other people have stutters too. I know it's so much easier said than done, but try not to focus on it.

My boss at a previous hedge fund has a visible stutter. He's also the most successful guy I know and is probably one of the most respected guys on the street in his coverage. I think you'll be fine, echoing other commentors but don't let it hold you back.

Either find a speech therapist or own it, as the others said. My dad had a stutter growing up and he apparently got rid of it with speech therapy. If you're talented, though, you'll do great either way.

I grew up my entire life with a stutter and was in the exact same position as you when I started college. I was able to land an offer at an EB and stumbled my way through hundreds of coffee chats during recruitment, so I hope my perspective can be of help.

I was able to overcome it starting with low stakes exposure therapy (things like raising my hand in class). First few times you might stutter or mess up, but once you start getting more confident with your speech (like how you feel around your parents) it will translate into other more stressful areas of your life. This technique can be applied to other things like volunteering for presentations or scheduling extra coffee chats. I also took beta blockers before presentations to slow my heart rate down but I rarely use these anymore.

This worked for me but obviously everyone is different. I still struggle on occasion and will slip up, but knowing I’ve had success in the past helps me maintain confidence. Hope this is helpful and feel free to pm me

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I grew up my entire life with stutter and was in the exact same position as you when I got to college. I ended up at an EB and stumbled my way through hundreds of coffee chats so I hope my perspective can be of help.

When I first got to college I thought it would restrict me professionally but I was largely able to overcome it through exposure to uncomfortable situations. For example, I used to never raise my hand in class due to a fear of stuttering, but I began forcing myself to raise my hand and even though I’d stumble through my speech I eventually got more and more comfortable like how you feel around your family and friends. This logic works the same way with things like coffee chats (start networking early with firms you don’t care about) and work your way up to feeling comfortable speaking in these environments. This will feel super super awkward at first but trust me once you doing it you will see the change quickly.

I still stutter occasionally, but knowing that I’ve had prior success gives me a ton of confidence. Feel free to pm if you want to talk about this

Don’t listen to anyone who tells you to just put up with it. That’s defeatism. Go see a speech language pathologist. That’s literally their job and some are very good at it. My sister has similar issues in a role that’s very similar to banking and completely resolved them. Took a year of practice. Not too bad it seems, and she’s thrilled. 

I also have a stutter. Like yourself, I initially hated doing coffee chats because I didn't want to appear "awkward", etc, and had some rough moments.

I've worked very hard on accepting my stutter in the last 5-6 years - Growing up, this was initially very difficult to do. This has been the best thing I have done in my stuttering journey, even though it of course isn't easy and I still struggle from time to time. I've gotten much more comfortable speaking in coffee chats/interviews, and it has turned into a very minor hindrance, if at all. When I initially started doing coffee chats in my freshman year of college, I had a much more negative perception of it and thought it would hold me back. Over the years, I have realized this is not the case, and my interactions in coffee chats / interviews have gone much better. Once I started accepting my stutter more, it became much less of an issue, and I realized that others did not seem to care at all.

To echo some of the other comments, it really is not as big of a deal as you may think. There are many successful people in all fields who did not let it impact them.

I've had a stutter for as long as I can talk, so I don't anticipate it will ever fully go away, but working on your self confidence/self esteem will do wonders for both the severity of your stutter as well as the mental toll it will have on you.