Moving to a new city by yourself? Can anyone share experiences?
Has anyone moved after university to a totally new city for work by themselves without knowing anyone? Was it difficult to make new friends? Did it get lonely? Did you end moving back home after a while? I am from Toronto, and may be moving to Boston in June for work. I know no one who lives in Boston, all my friends will be in Toronto, or NYC or Los Angeles.
It can really suck... but it pushes you to become a better individual. You'll learn how to focus on the most important things, especially like calling your family and working hard at your job.
Things you can do to start building up a life in Boston:
Join a gym with group classes like crossfit or whatever... great way to meet new people and exercise killing two birds with one stone.
On that note, get on meetup.com and start going to events for new people in Boston, events where you share hobbies and interest, and its going to be weird at first but it's actually an effective way to quickly build up friends.
Most importantly, be friendly at work and say yes to whenever anyone there asks you to go out. Slowly you'll build things up for yourself.
Recently made a big move and left a lot of friends and a girl behind all for a better career in a bigger city.
I can tell you it definitely 100% SUCKS. At least at first. Learning a new job and trying to fit in at the office is mentally draining. Then having no friends to talk to or get your mind off of things on the weekend makes it even more stressful. "Hey man what are your plans this weekend?" Oh you know just netflix and beer with myself. The first couple months can make you wonder "Why the f**k did I ever do this?"
Then after couple months you will make friends, you'll get a routine, and work becomes a little easier. Stress comes down and you start to find things about this new life that you weren't able to enjoy or didn't have in the last place. Even more importantly you begin to realize what the things are in life that really matter to you (e.g. family, savings, being healthy) vs. the things that don't (e.g. deadbeat friends, hangovers).
People don't do it because it is difficult. Overall though I'd say it's a major career boosting experience and to not stress it because you can always go back to Toronto.
Bro, if you are cool, hit me up. A solid friend of mine just moved to Boston and I would be happy to make an introduction. I've moved to a new city twice and the key is to put yourself out there. Get involved in ACG, TMA, CFA, CFA real, real estate events, young people in finance, alumni events, anything. If you aren't out at least 3-4 nights every week you are doing it wrong. Goal should be to network, but along the way you will make friends.
Boston is an amazing city (although the white trash in that city is absurd). Enjoy yourself and get out there. We've all done it before, just reach out and plug on.
.....But ONLY if you're cool. Lmao +SB for the post though
ITS AWESOME, THE WORLD IS YOURS FOR THE TAKING. YOU WILL GROW AND MAKE NEW FRIENDS AND LEARN TO NOT GIVE A FUCK. SORRY CAPS LOCK IS BROKEN.