FT Recruiting/Finishing college with terminally ill parent

My mom has been fighting cancer for ~4 years, her brain tumors have advanced and the tumors throughout her body are growing also. We are incredibly close and have been through a lot together. My dad went through something similar and ended up losing his D1 football scholarship - He won't discuss it, but I DO NOT want to do anything brazen and fuck up anything, because I know she wouldn't want that. I came home from college last week and frankly give zero fucks about classes currently.

I just wanted to see if any of you guys have been through anything similar while trying to recruit for FT/finish college or have any advice. Anything is appreciated, not looking for any pity, just some advice on dealing with this situation.

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Went through something very similar and have many regrets that I think about almost every day. Spend every free moment you have with your mom. Nothing else comes remotely close to mattering as much as that. That's all I can tell you. Wishing you the best. 

 

Going through something like this right now - and I definitely agree with everyone else in that you need to spend as much time as you can with your mom. Talk to her, make her feel happy, ask her about all of her life experiences (maybe some new stories you've never heard yet), etc. It's completely OK to let go of some of your "big boy" responsibilities right now, the health and happiness of your loved ones should always come first. Take long walks, listen to music, cry it out, do whatever it takes to get through this situation, and I hope that you are able to deal with this man. My thoughts are with you

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