WOMEN, PLS ANSWER (men can also chime on your perspective)

Sophomore in uni! Recruiting for banking. 

I find myself naturally "vibing" more with women, but I can't always coffee chat women since a lot of higher ups (VPs, MDs) are men. There are DEFINITELY men that I also vibed with, sometimes better than the women I chat with, but USUALLY, on average, I don't know how to navigate a convo besides the standard how's your day, tmay, what's work like, doing anything interesting etc. With women, some of the convos I had were like about skincare, taylor swift, vacation spots, best restaurants and spas, our favourite rom coms, etc. It's just naturally easier for me. I mean there have been guys that I had amazing convos with but that's mostly because we come from the same country, talk about country politics, back home, culture, etc. But, most men in banking are not from my country. 

So I guess my question is for women in the same spot as me or even higher up, when you were coffee chatting, how did you make a lasting impression on the men you chatted with? 
And for the men that chat with women (bankers) and (aspiring bankers) or just female college students looking to apply for internships, how do those chats go and any memorable ones, how did they go?


Sounds like you're a female? It's fine to target women in the industry - and if you can't find any VP-MD women you are not looking hard enough, there are fewer of course but plenty to be sending emails to.

I think you're trying a bit too hard to find a personal connection. Most coffee chats don't get into personal topics at all, you should generally be asking about the group dynamic and the recruiting process and not personal questions (certainly not politics). If you do get a connection that is great, but you should not spend the whole time asking them personal, non-IB related stuff or prioritizing those topics over learning about the group and getting advice on breaking in. just network with men and ask them regular questions mostly about work.


Female in IB NYC here. My response to this is much longer but in short - you need to shift your mindset. In the world of business it is very important to be able to connect with all kinds of people and be personable. Networking is about connecting with others and selling yourself. Sometimes you naturally hit it off - that’s amazing and a nice to have. Other times you MUST flex the muscle of learning how to relate and create good conversations with people that you may have less in common with. It’s not easy but it is one of the most important skills you will learn. So focus on how to develop that skill and that you might not always enjoy the convo or it might not always come easily but that’s how you grow and learn how to connect with people outside your world. It will get easier with time and practice. The more you do this in real life by making friends with strangers and learning about other places and walks of life the easier it will be to relate. Get conformable being uncomfortable. Hope that helps.


You sound really cringe talking like this. Given your level of grammar, I find it difficult to comprehend how you even see the chance of getting coffee chats with VPs and MDs. You want to be successful? Stop complaining about gender and figure it out. Learn what men like maybe and talk with them about it? Lol.


I don’t do anything differently. I just show up bubbly and friendly and enthusiastic to learn from them. It’s worked well. I’m not going to start watching football or something to relate better.


Error suscipit enim omnis sunt. Dicta sed quos vero eos et quod maiores.

Quam recusandae dolor quidem totam. Consequatur incidunt harum corrupti porro. Molestias explicabo nostrum qui dolor distinctio delectus. Voluptas sunt qui exercitationem placeat eveniet harum inventore. Totam tempora quos facere non voluptatibus nesciunt. Ullam sed ea consectetur beatae et dolores.

Repellendus maiores in consequuntur cum est quia est et. Consequatur eum quas labore nihil. Earum est sit hic iure nisi. Blanditiis tenetur harum qui sed harum eos ipsa. Libero dolorem consequatur velit saepe tempora. Corporis asperiores nulla suscipit.

Ut dolore qui aut et ut id aut. Doloribus reprehenderit in eos asperiores repellendus atque. Deleniti necessitatibus dolor ut provident eius cupiditate minus.

Career Advancement Opportunities

June 2024 Investment Banking

  • Jefferies & Company 02 99.4%
  • Perella Weinberg Partners New 98.9%
  • Lazard Freres 01 98.3%
  • Harris Williams & Co. 24 97.7%
  • Goldman Sachs 16 97.1%

Overall Employee Satisfaction

June 2024 Investment Banking

  • Harris Williams & Co. 19 99.4%
  • Lazard Freres 06 98.9%
  • JPMorgan Chase 09 98.3%
  • William Blair 03 97.7%
  • Morgan Stanley 04 97.1%

Professional Growth Opportunities

June 2024 Investment Banking

  • Lazard Freres 01 99.4%
  • Jefferies & Company 02 98.9%
  • Perella Weinberg Partners 18 98.3%
  • Goldman Sachs 16 97.7%
  • Moelis & Company 05 97.1%

Total Avg Compensation

June 2024 Investment Banking

  • Director/MD (5) $648
  • Vice President (22) $375
  • Associates (94) $260
  • 3rd+ Year Analyst (14) $181
  • Intern/Summer Associate (33) $170
  • 2nd Year Analyst (69) $168
  • 1st Year Analyst (207) $159
  • Intern/Summer Analyst (151) $101
16 IB Interviews Notes

“... there’s no excuse to not take advantage of the resources out there available to you. Best value for your $ are the...”


redever's picture
Betsy Massar's picture
Betsy Massar
Secyh62's picture
BankonBanking's picture
GameTheory's picture
dosk17's picture
kanon's picture
CompBanker's picture
Linda Abraham's picture
Linda Abraham
bolo up's picture
bolo up
From 10 rejections to 1 dream investment banking internship

“... I believe it was the single biggest reason why I ended up with an offer...”