Dating options in 30s for women in finance in NYC?
Hi. Haha I’m going on a rampage here on wSO today after years of not posting. Feel so burnt out by work and dating (recently broke up). Finding a new job and newly dating ( it’s been hard to get over my last relationship but trying) at the same time feels so overwhelming. How can I meet non-married guys in their mid-30s in NYC? Feel like everyone’s already married while I was busy helping my family financially by working round the clock. Its not hard getting dates, but I just keep getting hit on by younger men and then IRL older single guys in NYC seem non existant?
Would you propose this question to your 19 year old cousin Jimmy, who’s a freshman at Indiana University? Because that’s essentially the demographic here
Is this really true? Where are the experienced financial professionals? Ive seen quite a few threads from those folks
This comment confirms this is a troll post.
It’s partially true. There are some experienced professionals on here. One frequent poster on here is a mid to late twenties virgin, as an example. Another frequent commenter in his mid 30s recently posted a thread on moving to New York City. He was going to buy / live in a 425 square foot co-op in FiDi and keep his Porsche in a nearby garage. Experienced professionals - yes. People you want dating advice from? No.
It’s one of those weird things where it’s actually better to ask non-finance professionals where to meet finance professionals. Go on the call her daddy subreddit or something (only half joking)
How old are you?
Isaiah moving in for the kill I dig it
You first lol. Actually strike that. Based on the post above I am afraid it may not even be legal for me to ask you your age hahaha. So nah
He’s a good dude. Catholic and all if that’s your thing
Non married guys in their mid thirties don’t really go for mid thirties women unfortunately. Best bet is probably meeting someone at a common hobby
How about late 30s? Early 40s? Still same?
I am not sure if guys honestly have a max age where they can’t get girls who are in early/mid 20s. Have seen some sugar daddy arrangement where the guy is 60+ and the girl is early 20s.
the military
Interesting. I have a date with a former airforce pilot this week
sup. are you into casual sex? if not, I'll wear a tie.
Nah
Seen a handful of mid 30s medical specialists out there IMO. Usually fresh out of training or been an attending for a few years. Make $300-500K+ and living in a nice apartment in Manhattan. I would hit lounges in places like Murray Hill. That's one particular demographic where I've seen a lot of single people -- especially men. Good chance some would have had an ex-wife or something. Seen some very high earning surgeons ($600K+) get divorces in their mid 30s.
Solid financial situation and the majority of these specialists likely have better hours than the majority of Wall Streeters.
Im not really interested in the money. Ive crushed on guys making less. But single and divorced older guys sounds nice (weirdly all i need is a good eq and a cute dress sense which is so cheap to do- why are men wearing tank tops in all these app pics?)- beats younger commitment phobes. I will try Murray Hill. I would never have guessed since its usually full of first years.
Yeah sorry, realized now it was weird to state how much they make but I wasn't sure if that mattered to you. Good luck!
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I’ve provided ongoing dating advice to a number of my female friends in their 30s (or otherwise just let them rant to me). Arealanalyst34 really nails the absolute #1 issue in almost every case. The women are trying to find a man that is equal to them career wise, but is also super attractive, kind, compatible, and ready to settle down. Unfortunately the competition for these men is fierce and the younger women have an extreme advantage.
My recommendation is to target divorced men in their 40s. Divorce is pretty darn common and there are plenty of good guys out there who got married and realized that they married exclusively for looks instead of compatibility and don’t want to make that mistake the 2nd go-around. Also, people in their 40s tend to have a much better idea as to what they want in a partner and are more stable in life. Your odds of success are definitely higher with this pool.
Finally, and this is really tough these days given how chased women are on dating apps, but Arealanalyst got it right when he said you have to lower your standards. Yes, there are probably 100s if not 1000s of guys on apps who are going to swipe right on you because they would sleep with you, but the pool of men who are interested in getting married is significantly smaller. If you come across a guy who checks 75%+ of the boxes you’re looking for, don’t break up with him over something trivial. Women are so quick to dismiss guys (and the reverse is also true) over the smallest flaw because the expectation is that there are 1000s of other people out there interested in dating.
Every woman I’ve ever told to lower their standards (based on the above) has gotten really mad and defensive; but these same women churn through men like there is no-tomorrow and are perpetually looking for Mr. Perfect as their dating pool continues to dwindle. It’s a tough pill to swallow.
I wonder if fishbowl has a thread for this. It feels like that audience might be older on average. Also, there’s probably more women and a balance of people vs WSO where it’s probably mostly younger dudes. Other women there might be able to provide suggestions for what worked / didn’t work for them.
lol fishbowl is liberal feel good HR approved nonsense. If you are OP do you want the truth or do you want to be coddled? The posts above nailed it.
As men age, gain education, and climb professionally their dating pool grows. As women do the same, their dating pool shrinks - because their standards increase while their own value diminishes or stays constant.
I disagree a bit with the harshness of "if you are 30+ and a single female you are screwed". But you do have to start making concessions and understand what you find attractive in a man (status) they dont care for in a woman.
Wrong forum to be asking this question (if you are a lady). Most of the folks working in finance, that age are either married or looking for someone much younger.
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