Do you ever feel insecure next to people who are better than you?

Most of us on this forum are pretty well-off. But let's say you're at a bar talking to a girl, and then a multi-billionaire hedge fund owner walks in at the stool next to you guys. Do you ever get a little jealous, still, or are you at the point where you're confident in yourself/income and it doesn't matter?

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I think it's all relative. Some people couldn't give two shit and some people would. For me, I probably would be a little envious hence why I deleted Instagram, Facebook and other social media. Because honestly, all people do is boast about their life (not that I care), how they bought a house, a car or got married but never the negative in their life and it makes you think a lot. So I deleted it because I didn't want to feel that way and shortly after, I've read an article that Facebook does make you depressed. I think it's better I stay focused and do it at my own pace.

And i know this is outside the topic of this posting but one thing that made me think twice was when I was working in Manhattan and I got on the bus or subway, all you see us people glued to their phone... on Facebook and Instagram and it was just depressing and if I'm going to give up social media, I rather use that time to read and better myself, whether it be programming, product knowledge, mathematics and etc

 

Multi-billion dollar hedge fund execs dont go to the same bars as me.

Even if this situation happened, I wouldn't necessarily feel bad. That person would be so astronomically above me where it's like asking if I would feel inferior to Bill Gates. Like yeah, duh, but there's nothing I could possibly do about it.

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Idk but I imagine nicer bars than me. Honestly if I had a billion dollars I wouldn't even feel the need to go out. I would just throw massive parties at my house or apartment.

Dayman?
 

No one is better than me. I am not better than anyone.

Now if you mean insecure next to richer people....no I don't care. There's always going to be someone richer than you.

Get busy living
 

This multi-billionaire is not better, he is richer than you. In this case, I would like to talk with him rather than with the girl, I would like to know about his experience and outlook on life.

 

If you tell me how much you’re worth, I’ll tell you how much I’m worth.

My entire self worth and self esteem is completely tied up in my net worth. If I ever meet a guy who is worth $1 than me I’ll go drive for Uber to earn more and show him how much better I am.

“The three most harmful addictions are heroin, carbohydrates, and a monthly salary.” - Nassim Taleb
 

Do you feel insecure next to people who dress better than you? Do you feel insecure or jealous next to people who are more attractive or popular than you? This question is probably a reflection of deeper issues than just socio-economic, and you're hoping that a large paycheck will make you feel better about yourself.

 

Eh...just because a person is successful or has a lot of money doesn't mean they are happy. Maybe the quality of their relationships aren't as good or as genuine as yours. Maybe their health isn't as good, maybe they suffer from some type of ailment or mental issue. So to answer your question, no, I don't feel insecure around more accomplished people because A) there's no guarantee that they are even happy and B) I can only control my own life and my own happiness.

 

A little bit of envy pops up, I do marvel at the thought of what their lives could be like. Inevitably, I realize that their lives aren't like what I assume, and I carry on with my own life. I would strike up a conversation with them though, that shit would be so cash. Probs would copy them in some regard, or remember things I liked about them. There's probably a lot to learn on that bar stool.

 

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