Dream Job vs. Relationship
My boyfriend and I are both in finance. I’m doing IB and he’s doing PE. For now, we’re lucky in that our junior year summers are in the same location. However, I have a long term goal to rerecruit for a role in a specific firm that is across the country. Assuming two key things that I hope I’ll be in a position to have, 1) that I am successful rerecruiting, 2) that I get a return offer from my IB firm: is it worth it to take the return offer in order for us to be together? Or should I pursue my dream job even if it meant LDR for at least 2-3 years? I don’t want to sound ungrateful, because truthfully, whichever job I take FT, I’ll be okay career wise.
For context, we’ve been together since freshman year & I adore him, values, goals, & financial aspirations all align, and we basically have talked a lot about marriage. LDR is always an option, but we’ve had to do that so much with covid, etc... and I’ve heard how hard it is to make time to nurture a relationship especially in the Analyst years.
Pursue your dream job. If you can last 2 years LDR, maybe you were supposed to get married anyway.
Dream job. A dream relationship should support your dream job anyway and survive the LDR challenge. Good luck!
Take the dream job. You're relationship will last if it's meant to; long distance will also very quickly tell you if your relationships isn't great because it will require a fair amount of work. I actually did long distance my first year in banking and it worked really well. We didn't have the pressure to hang out several times per week like we would in the same city and then get disappointed when work was too much to see each other. We spent a fair amount of time talking on the phone and would visit at least once per month (and we blocked off the weekend from work). I'll give the caveat that we broke up eventually but it was after we were living in the same city; long distance didn't end it.
Take the job. As others have said, if it's meant to be, it' meant to be. Also, you're young and clearly on a high trajectory, now is the time to continue to put career first. Your partner will/should understand. He will likely do the same for himself and if he expects you not to, major red flag.
I started dating my now partner a few years back and she left about six months in to go home while she prepped for grad school. We did about a year of distance. It was actually kind of nice. Since we were both so busy, we would usually spend one weekend a month together and it was completely together. No work fire drills or anything, sort of like a weekend get away once a month. Even if we didn't necessarily travel and were just visiting one another, we had a weekend planned. My colleagues didn't mind me being away that weekend once a month because they knew I was going to be around the rest of the month, for better or for worse.
It definitely takes work but as long as you're on the same page and communicate well I say give it a shot and take the dream job
I'm of the same opinion as everyone else in this thread BUT the answer you're going to get from WallStreetOasis is going to be skewed a certain way, as you probably already know.
If you're truly torn about this decision, are actually worried about an LDR not working put (But you really want the relationship to), and want balanced feedback, please also ask those around you who are not in finance, etc. for advice as well.
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