Has anyone else who's really attractive never been approached by a girl

Context: I'm a real pretty boy (9/10 at LEAST) in a city known for hot women (London, Monaco, Paris) and I've never been approached by a woman in public before (granted, I'm not the sharpest crayon, so there might've been a couple of scenarios where someone was trying to flirt with me). I like to think that I'm hygenic and I dress well, in addition to being of above average intelligence, charisma and overall personality. 
 

Does anyone else have this problem where they're physically, socially and mentally amazing, but women don't seem to be attracted to you? I never approach women due to ego problems so I don't have a benchmark of success rates to measure myself with. 
 

Side note: I'm at a top group (GS TMT, PJT RSSG, CS Industrials, MS M&A) which I don't bring up when dating, would it help my attract women if I start wearing company branded clothing?

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gufmo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

If this isn't a troll, rest assured the source of your problem is due to the high likelihood that your personality is ass. Case in point: this thread.

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bottombuckethardo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I'm 6'1 and 186lb, i style my hair exactly like patrick bateman and i'm clean shaven, i exclusively wear hermes tie, lobbs cap toes and hamburger or eagle cufflinks to signify that i am american. i iron my shirts (spread collar) during lunch at my desk while shirtless. i make approximately 19x the median income in the country i work in and 16x in the us. i am able to procure cocaine not laced with fentanyl on a regular basis, something that speaks to my relationship building and deal sourcing abilities. i have bought a dog of unknown breed that i let my niece take care of and only bring the dog to parks once a week to have a conversation starter with the females. my suits are all bespoke and made by an italian sounding brand i do not know how to spell for 20k (usd). i have the biologically ideal shoulder to waist ratio of 1.614:1 and have visible, symmetric abdominal muscular tissues. i have a minor in philosophy, so i am able to discuss the intricacies of society, civilization and the cosmos with the more intellectually ambitious females.

now explain why females are not attracted to me.

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rudyha, what's your opinion? Comment below:

If not a troll, why are you associating the rate at which women approach you to how attracted they are to you? Generally, it should be something you feel and pick up on AFTER engaging with them a lot of the time. If you're as handsome as you say, I reckon there are women really into you that you aren't even noticing.

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financeabc, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Any male who describes himself as a pretty boy, has to have some issues or is just a troll.  

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I'll further say that anyone describing himself as a PRETTY BOY is doomed to a life of sexual frustration. Women want MEN.

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Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:
bottombuckethardo

Context: I'm a real pretty boy (9/10 at LEAST) 

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bottombuckethardo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

but i look in the mirror and imagine im a female, and id crawl all over the guy in front of me, im pretty sure im not ugly

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Kevin25, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I think most ugly people know they're ugly. and most good-looking ones probably know too. it's really not that complicated to judge yourself more or less objectively.

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Did you ever make it into IB

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iercurenc, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I'm really attractive and I'm barely approached by girls. They clearly show an interest in me but they are never direct because they're obviously too intimidated. I have to do all the leg work.

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Assuming you're not trolling, my experience has been the exact same as you--I'm objectively attractive, and girls always glance at me, but it might be intimidation that's preventing them from approaching me

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I quit this site because of censorship, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Assuming you're not trolling, my experience has been the exact same as you--I'm objectively attractive, and girls always glance at me, but it might be intimidation that's preventing them from approaching me

Women don't even see me. So many instances women have walked me off of the sidewalk because the "female filter" doesn't even see me. Literally, if I didn't jump out of the way they would, at 3 miles per hour, run into me. It's actually kind of a consistent problem and one of the reasons I hate walking in cities. 

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NatRes, what's your opinion? Comment below:

My guess is that they naturally expect to take the man to take the lead + are somewhat intimidated by your looks.

I know that back in the day when I was in shape and single, I made a point of approaching the hottest women possible, because they are, surprisingly more approachable, because men are so intimidated by them.

I was approached by women quite a bit, but I was not model-tier, but a 6''+ well-built bald guy with piercing eyes who worked in the nightlife industry, which, I guess correlates to aggressive gorilla sex in the minds of some women.

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Whatever1984, what's your opinion? Comment below:

bottombuckethardo

thanks for putting an image of jason statham as a bouncer having gorilla sex in my head

People who are better athletes than Statham that look like accountants (and a bar bouncer) 

The only difference between Asset Management and Investment Research is assets. I generally see somebody I know on TV on Bloomberg/CNBC etc. once or twice a week. This sounds cool, until I remind myself that I see somebody I know on ESPN five days a week.
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Kevin25, what's your opinion? Comment below:

yeah, that's normal. I am also probably 9/10 and also very rarely have girls approaching me. I do see girls smiling at me, but they never make the first step. I also notice receptionists/servers being super nice to me, but they never actually approach me. for example, one cute receptionist at the gym always smiles and acts shy with me. and then another cute server at a restaurant I get takeout from regularly is always extra friendly and seems eager to chat. but none really openly approach. I did actually get one girl approach me when I was buying furniture. she was the salesperson and when serving me she was super sweet and gave me her number on the cheque and asked to text her. but that's really the only instance I can remember in recent years of a stranger approaching me in real life. I do get girls approaching me online though sometimes, but also not super often, maybe like 2 girls a months or so.

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ConfusedGuru, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Has anyone else noticed this pattern? Every time some guy describes himself as an 8/10, 9/10, even 10/10 online and/or IRL and I see what they really look like, they look ugly AS FUCK. Goofy looking even. But any time some guy describes himself as "decent-looking", "slightly-above average", "pretty good but nothing special", they end up looking like a straight up male model. OP definitely has a face that only a mother could love. If you were truly a 9/10 like you described, you would openly have girls coming up to you and low-key sexually harassing you (touching you, your arms, "accidentally" bumping into you) etc.

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financeabc, what's your opinion? Comment below:
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Has anyone else noticed this pattern? Every time some guy describes himself as an 8/10, 9/10, even 10/10 online and/or IRL and I see what they really look like, they look ugly AS FUCK. Goofy looking even. But any time some guy describes himself as "decent-looking", "slightly-above average", "pretty good but nothing special", they end up looking like a straight up male model. OP definitely has a face that only a mother could love. If you were truly a 9/10 like you described, you would openly have girls coming up to you and low-key sexually harassing you (touching you, your arms, "accidentally" bumping into you) etc.

There is some truth in all of that.  You can say whatever you want on WSO and no one is going to know whether it is true or not.  No one is going to post a pic on WSO.  Well almost no one. 

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Whatever1984, what's your opinion? Comment below:

We all live on anonymity.  No, at 135 though I'm definitely a 7+  I might be pushing beyond 8 given my age. As the architect I'm trying to date said "we all grow old and decrepit, intelligence is forever"

The only difference between Asset Management and Investment Research is assets. I generally see somebody I know on TV on Bloomberg/CNBC etc. once or twice a week. This sounds cool, until I remind myself that I see somebody I know on ESPN five days a week.
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