How do you meet new people in bars

There's something I don't quite understand: how are you supposed to meet new people in bars when the music and ambient noise are so loud that you can barely hear yourself talking? Many times I found myself literally yelling at the people I was with in order to be heard. In those conditions, how can you even meet new people?

Are bars places to meet new people, or are they just places where groups of people who already know each other go? Please help an autist out

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Go to a quiet bar (jazz bar if that's your thing) and find two girls who are chatting. "Hey ladies, my friend Mike and I are first time here, any drink recommendations?".

I almost never approach a person who's alone at a bar, but if the girl seems lonely, go for it.

 

Thanks, that makes sense. How are you supposed to find quiet bars though? Most if not all of the bars I've been to don't really qualify as "quiet". Yet it's nearly impossible to determine if a bar is quiet from the outside, and leaving as soon as you enter and realize it's noisy and loud is not really efficient and a bit awkward. Do you just ask the people you know for recommendations?

 
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Clubs have way too loud music, but bars? I’ve rarely been to a bar where I have to yell.

If you’re good looking, it’s relatively easy to strike up a convo with a girl.

This worked for me 90% of the time in terms of striking up a convo and not getting the evil eye when I was single. If there is a girl you like, try to catch her eye and make eye contact, smile and look away for a few seconds. Then look back and if she is still staring at you, wait a few mins and then walk over and ask her if she or her friends would like a drink.

 

Ask her what she does for work - get her talking. The more she is talking, the better.

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