How to avoid gold diggers?

Nowdays it seems like any asshol* is bragging on his instagram or facebook things he can't afford, such as 10 bottles of dom perignon/night, or the expensive boat trip, or the pic on the fast car on 10yrs lease, etc...

Am I being paranoid if I try at all cost to hide my wealth and I don't want a woman to be with me just for the money?

On the other hand, if I don't show and don't tell, she will think that I'm somewhat an average boring guy (i.e. loser).

Have any of you guy played to be poor and got a hot+smart+not-crazy-AF woman for at least a couple of months dating?

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seedy underbelly
PIGSI have been dating my girfriend for about 5 years now
PIGS Status: Other Sex: Female

^ Interesting.

How about a simple pre-nup?

Yes, good to see I'm not the only one to notice this...

OP, just get a prenup in the meantime. No need to get all worked up over it.

 

just get her to sign a prenup and make sure that you get married in a state in which a prenup helps you to get around many of the laws that concern you

I'm talking about liquid. Rich enough to have your own jet. Rich enough not to waste time. Fifty, a hundred million dollars, buddy. A player. Or nothing. See my Blog & AMA
 

just get her to sign a prenup and make sure that you get married in a state in which a prenup helps you to get around many of the laws that concern you

I'm talking about liquid. Rich enough to have your own jet. Rich enough not to waste time. Fifty, a hundred million dollars, buddy. A player. Or nothing. See my Blog & AMA
 
wanderer
SHORTmyCDO dude, you need to talk to an attourney, not a forum full of college kids and some banking analysts

jdoasis.com?

^ lol

P.S: jdoasis is a total ghost town

 
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seedy underbelly
wanderer
SHORTmyCDO dude, you need to talk to an attourney, not a forum full of college kids and some banking analysts

jdoasis.com?

^ lol

P.S: jdoasis is a total ghost town

Yeah, what's with that?

As for this chick: she never dated you for the money to begin with, so she is by definition NOT a gold digger, but if you want to isolate her from the money then find a good lawyer. You might also want to talk to a psychologist if you're considering talking to strangers on the internet before getting a prenup before you inherit the money before you marry the girl.....you just tripped half a dozen red flags and I'm merely suggesting you check yourself.

Please talk to family, friends, counselors, teachers, whoever and everyone.....this is a big deal and your decisions now will ripple outward in ways that you may not understand yet. It's impossible for me to even tell you to or not to get a prenup b/c there are too many variables that can't be addressed in this post. (Is she rich? Does she even CARE about money that much? Is she faithful? etc, etc, etc) Please ask around....you'll thank yourself for it down the road.

Get busy living
 

Dude she obviously loved you before you had any money and she doesnt even know about it now and still wants to marry. Why dont you stop being a douche and open our life up to her.

You will be much happier and more fulfilled in the long run.

Right now you sound like a stereotype fuckin banker who is gonna be divorced 4 times and die alone. Dont let that happen.

 
dmackorthDude she obviously loved you before you had any money and she doesnt even know about it now and still wants to marry. Why dont you stop being a douche and open our life up to her.

You will be much happier and more fulfilled in the long run.

Right now you sound like a stereotype fuckin banker who is gonna be divorced 4 times and die alone. Dont let that happen.

Dude, nothing lasts forever. You might be all lovey dovey now but who knows what can happen down the line in 5-10-15 years. Nothing wrong with preparing for the worse case scenario.

 

FUCK YOU AND YOUR INHERITANCE. yes, i am jealous and only have 4k in my bank account : (

"Look, you're my best friend, so don't take this the wrong way. In twenty years, if you're still livin' here, comin' over to my house to watch the Patriots games, still workin' construction, I'll fuckin' kill you. That's not a threat, that's a fact.
 

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