Instant crush on stranger?! What is wrong with me
Has this ever happened to anyone else? I saw this girl and just could not get my eyes off her. In hindsight, I could have easily talked to her in the setting that we were in, but I didn't and now I'll never see her again. Feels bad.
I'm still feeling butterflies in my stomach, though. It honestly reminds me of my first ever crush in elementary school. Can't stop thinking about her. What the hell is wrong with me. This has probably only happened a couple of other times in my life, where I experienced that instant attraction.
The thing is, she wasn't even conventionally "hot" like the types of girls I usually find attractive. She seemed more...alternative and mysterious. I think that's where the allure came from. The irony here is that I do well on the dating apps in the city but have never developed these types of feelings for any of the many people I've gone on dates with. Yet this stranger suddenly made me believe in true love again. Wtf.
I know I'm projecting all my ideals onto this person and she could never live up to what I imagine in my mind, but I have to admit it's kinda exciting to feel like this after going years without feeling it. Life was getting kind of dull, but now I feel like my brain chemicals decided to suddenly change things up. Anyway, even though it feels good, I know it's unrealistic to expect a Hollywood type of romance. It's probably better if I just move on and let my brain chemicals go back to normal. Probably still gonna hope to run into this person on the street for a while though...
I mean yea I have had those feelings but bro you two didn't even talk don't think you know the first thing about her or that yall would fall in love. I mean you surely find her attractive physically but everything else is just your imagination and generally you will imagine people being better than they are.
BUT I WANNA BELIEVE
use your motivation to believe to fuel you, workout, get stronger, and become such a Giga Chad babes like her just wont be able to stay away.
Just say hey and introduce yourself next time. Pickup lines are overrated - just be real.
Why were you scared to approach her?
I don't know. Keep asking myself the same thing...
I would recommend therapy.
what was she like? where did u see her
It feels kind of good in a hopeless way. There was this really pretty Asian girl I saw on campus once maybe twice who wore these really tight jeans and I really wanted to do something about it but didn’t. Never saw her again.
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"feels good in a hopeless way" is a great way to put it actually. It's sort of like the thrill of the chase that feels really exciting
Congrats. You just proved you're human. You'd be weird if you never felt that way at some point in your life. And like Isaiah said, just be yourself if you get to see her again. And no, you're not a creeper if you think about what it is that put you in the same room as her and see if you can't make it happen again. When you do, no acts, no gimmicks. Except maybe a gimmicky opener to get her attention.
lucky man, only get feelings when im drunk about to smash. get some thoughts about getting her pregnant and having kids then how beautiful that would be.
but then I pound that shit and nut and look at her like she's some kind of nuisance
went through 15 last month. I don;t know who i see when I look in the mirror
Don't look as rejection as a possible outcome. View success as you trying. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
One of the benefits about dressing the best you can when you leave the house (social acceptance). It builds the confidence to approach others, and smile!
Shoot your shot, but do so in your best possible status.
I know that feeling. Happened to me when I was 14 (yeah, I know, hormonal teenagers, but this is different). I was on a one week exchange in France and we were spending a day in a French middle school and suddenly, I see this girl walk across the yard. In this moment, I thought to myself “this is the one”. I’d never had that feeling before and I haven’t had it since and I still feel it every time I see pictures of her or hear of her.
Because there’s actually a lot more to the story: on the school exchange, she befriended one of my closest female friends because both of them wanted to do a more long-term exchange. So two times, this girl came to my school in Germany and went to our classes for a month and naturally, I had a lot to do with her because she was always sitting with us, but you know how 15 year old teenagers are. I was one of the popular kids but when it came to her I was really shy, so we texted a lot but didn’t talk much, as in, just the two of us. So she became angry because she thought I was some kind of macho trying to seduce her and she was just one of many. So she stopped texting but we still saw each other a lot in school, although the language barrier always made it a bit difficult to have real conversations like you would have with a friend.
Then, because her sister and my sister were interested in doing an exchange as well, it actually came to the point where her sister stayed with us for a month a couple of times and when her family came to pick her up the girl that I have that crush on always came along as well. We could never talk alone though, because I had in the meantime lived in France for a year and spoke French so I always had to translate between the two families.
Now, I am currently on my year abroad in Paris and she lives in Paris as well. I literally saw her once across the street when I was sitting in a café with friends. I have contemplated a lot contacting her but I haven’t spoken to her in years. We only follow each other on Instagram. Last August, her sister lived with my family in Germany for a couple of weeks but I wasn’t there so I haven’t actually seen her in years either (both of the sisters live in Paris). Also, I think that even though my crush’s German is actually really good and my French is rusty but okay as well, I am not sure whether we could truly have meaningful conversations if we met each other.
Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Maybe you just need to open up to new people, go looking for people who look similar to hang out with, see if there's a "scene" you fit in with that you never knew about. Go on an adventure is the gest of what I'm getting at.
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