Is it selfish of me to (srs responses only please)
Is it selfish that part of the reason why I want my friends to do well is so that I can network with them in the future as well? I mean, I obviously mostly want them to do well is because they're my friends, but I've realized that a part of me also wants them to succeed since they may help me out since I've helped them in the past. Is this wrong in your guys' opinions, because upon realizing this part of ms, I feel like a horrible person. Btw, I'm looking for serious responses, so please give honest, non-sarcastic responses please.
Well, if you're a REAL friend, you'll be friends with them, regardless of their financial/career success. That being said, I have to be honest with you: you very selfish. Think of how success will impact THEM, not how their success can rub off on you. I mean, the success isn't yours, and to some extent, you're willing to “use” your friends to reach YOUR career goals. And just because you've helped them out doesn't mean their obligated to help you in return. If you help someone (ESPECIALLY A FRIEND), it should be because you want to and because they're your friends, not because you will need something from the in the future and you're just “stacking up the chips”. I've had the pleasure of meeting many wonderful people, whom I've had the pleasure of calling “friend.” They run the gamut, form being waiters, to entrepreneurs, and artists, and doctors, lawyers, and I even know a few investment bankers. If I could network with them, I would, I mean, I'd be a fool not to. But their ability to help me further my careers is probably last on the list of things that I like about them.
Yeah I understand what you're saying. Like I said, it's not my only reason, and i'd still be friends with them regardless, but just the fact that I am even thinking about this is making me sick. I think I really need to sort out the priorities in my life. There's a lot of qualities I really don't like about myself, but this is really disgusting IMO.
Dude, can I adopt you or something. Your hopeless posts are starting to depress me. You go to a school that isn't top 10, it isn't as if your family died or something equally as tragic. Go work construction for a summer and see how people without your education and opportunities bust their ass for crap pay while you come on here acting as if you life is over because you cant get into IB and make 6 figure so you will have to settle for a job making 50K without breaking a sweat.
Is it kind of dick to only be thinking about them hooking you up in the future, yes it is. Is it a major character flaw, no. I want you to go out and find someone who has it worse than you and help them. I think that will take care of some of your issues. Furthermore, yes, if you work something other than IB on this board you will get laughed at. Go anywhere else and you will be an upstanding member of society. Think of how many kids who go to Ivy schools and major in art or medieval literature who are working at starbucks right now. Life really isn't that bad.
Oh and change your name. Ibankingreject is like walking into a whore house with a name tag that says "Icantgetitup"
Bravo. Bravo.
Yeah, I have to agree. OP: why are you on this site if you've given up hope? Your life doesn't suck dude. I know people from high school who aren't even at a university because they wanted to pursue the arts/writing. Do you think they're crying about how they can't get a job that makes $100K+ out of university? Nope. They're on their grind, trying to make the best out of what they have. That's what you should be doing. Think about it: you're a damn sophomore thinking about a career, you could be out with your friends, or trying to enjoy your time at university. Try being “looser”, and more “open”, pop out of that fucking shell already. Unclench that fist.
Do you have a girlfriend? Get one. Do you have some homies you can chill with? Smoke a bowl of Acapulco gold with them.
I hope you are a parody poster. You would be a bad one at that, but at least we don't have to imagine this scenario.
There are friends and there are "friends". Friends, which you should choose base on those who share your interests, with whom you enjoy spending your time, and who you will care about regardless situation. Hoping that your help to your friends will be reciprocated is definitely understandable, but using them for your personal gain without truly caring for them (if they're seriously hurt and in a hospital and you had a final interview tomorrow, would you skip the interview? the answer should be obvious). These are the ones you need to lean on in such times as now when you are struggling, and I sincerely hope for your own good you have these options.
"friends" can be loosely termed for people with whom you maintain positive relationship and occasional interactions. They may be more likely to help you than others should they be given a choice, and if you're interested in finance, then sure, it's good to know people in or going into the business such that they can help you learn, prepare, or break into the world. But please, please don't confuse these connections with the close friends who you should not in any way pick based on future earnings potential.
No it's called Friends with Benefits.
That's the only reason I have friends at all.
Haha what a funny thread. Always pouring our heart and soul to anonymous strangers on the Internet.
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