Jealously

Does anyone else get really jealous when they see other people in really prestigious elite jobs at the best firms? It's so much worse when you didn't make it and you constantly see all these people earning more than you probably ever will.

Even just scrolling through Linkedin can be absolutely rage inducing when you see people in a superior position doing so much better than you are.

Anybody feel the same way?

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Sure maybe a little bit, but we each have our own path and spiritually they say "store your treasures in heaven." So I believe each work of mercy I do has a reward in heaven, which is eternal. LinkedIn is only temporary. Lots of people with prestigious backgrounds are in fact unhappy. Social media mostly just contains the good points in life. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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Taylor Swift better

I’m not familiar with her music. What jealousy song does she have?

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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Does anyone else get really jealous when they see other people in really prestigious elite jobs at the best firms?

Only when their last name matches the firm's name, their grandfather was the founder, and their dad is the CEO. Always figured that must be nice. 

Seriously though, what is the point of being jealous of someone else's hard work and/or fortunate luck? What does it accomplish? Does it make you happier? Clearly not. Does it make you more successful? Nope. 

Go out and improve your own station in life. 

It's so much worse when you didn't make it and you constantly see all these people earning more than you probably ever will.

And with that mentality, you won't. I know quite a number of people who were nameless corporate drones until their 50s and they finally found their thing and hit it big. You're what - 23? 24? Why are you already giving up because some large company didn't like your resume formatting on the automated HR screener? Regret is something for your deathbed, not your early to mid 20s. 

Again, go out and do one thing improve your situation tomorrow. Then do something else the next day. 

Even just scrolling through Linkedin can be absolutely rage inducing when you see people in a superior position doing so much better than you are.

Who scrolls LinkedIn? Is this genuinely something people do? 

LinkedIn is nonstop cringe slop, posted by people who aren't actually as successful as they present, for people who are idolizing the wrong heroes. 

Use LinkedIn to look up background info on people before you meet them and to see job postings. Do not use LinkedIn for mindless scrolling or entertainment. 

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Does anyone else get really jealous when they see other people in really prestigious elite jobs at the best firms?

Only when their last name matches the firm's name, their grandfather was the founder, and their dad is the CEO. Always figured that must be nice. 

Seriously though, what is the point of being jealous of someone else's hard work and/or fortunate luck? What does it accomplish? Does it make you happier? Clearly not. Does it make you more successful? Nope. 

Go out and improve your own station in life. 

It's so much worse when you didn't make it and you constantly see all these people earning more than you probably ever will.

And with that mentality, you won't. I know quite a number of people who were nameless corporate drones until their 50s and they finally found their thing and hit it big. You're what - 23? 24? Why are you already giving up because some large company didn't like your resume formatting on the automated HR screener? Regret is something for your deathbed, not your early to mid 20s. 

Again, go out and do one thing improve your situation tomorrow. Then do something else the next day. 

Even just scrolling through Linkedin can be absolutely rage inducing when you see people in a superior position doing so much better than you are.

Who scrolls LinkedIn? Is this genuinely something people do? 

LinkedIn is nonstop cringe slop, posted by people who aren't actually as successful as they present, for people who are idolizing the wrong people. 

Use LinkedIn to look up background info on people before you meet them and to see job postings. Do not use LinkedIn for mindless scrolling or entertainment. 

Yeah it took Ray Croc until his 50s to become successful IIRC.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

No because that isn't what I want for my own career. I prefer smaller companies vs. the brand names out there.

Everyone's different. If you're a good person and I genuinely see that in you regardless if we get along or not, I'll route for you and would love the chance to work with you across firms if it ever become feasible. If I find you two-faced / fake, I just don't care what you do with your career. I just would never do business with you if our paths ever crossed. Probably would say ~97% of my MBA class would fall into the first bucket. There are a few classmates I simply would never want to deal with in the professional world.

 

No matter how well you do, there will always be someone doing better. Find happiness and meaning in your accomplishments, and strive to be better not so you can post it on LinkedIn one day, but for yourself.

I’m assuming you’re young and just out of college. You will feel differently about these things as you grow older. Specifically about your career, do not worry about the earning difference between you and your peers at this stage. Most of your earnings will come from your 30s onwards, especially your 40s and 50s. Work now to build the foundation necessary to capitalize at that time.

 

Judging by your title spelled with an extra "L" "Jealously" ... it seems you have poor attention to detail and do not yet deserve to succeed like the others you see on LinkedIn... good luck with that. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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Excuses, excuses...

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

The problem is viewing yourself as a statistic like "I'm in XYZ position at age 25, that guy is in some baller position at age 25, people in that baller position have much brighter prospects than people in my position." 

That's flawed on a few levels.

First of all, a big reason the people in baller positions on average go on to more long-term success, is that its a stronger pool of raw talent.  If you're the similarly talented person who slipped through the cracks and is in a less impressive role, the averages aren't applicable to you. For example very few basketball players from small schools make the NBA, but if someone with NBA talent finds himself at a small school (e.g. Dwyane Wade), he still winds up in the NBA and quite predictably so.  Averages just don't apply well to individuals.  

Second: success today feels like a game of climbing to the best rungs on the ladder (best school, fanciest role etc) but long term success is about individual achievement.  The most successful 25 year olds are defined by the brands on their resume.  The most successful 40+ year olds are defined by highly individualized accomplishments.  How many people on the Forbes 400 got there by progressively landing the most prestigous roles?  I'd say none.  And very few even started there.

 

Bro just do an MBA and go into a regional IB and then lateral or something. Hopefully you at least have a decent uGPA.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

True.  There are better examples than Wade.  Wade came to mind because he wasn't some kind of cinderella story coming out of Marquette.  He was identified as an NBA talent pretty much as soon as he started getting minutes at Marquette.  The point is just that these feeders (top college hoops programs, top prestige jobs for young people, etc.) get a lot of credit for their success rates but it's really mostly about how good the indviduals are.

 
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