Lesbian Coworker
A few questions for you:
1. There's a girl on my team, very smart and competent. I never even thought she could be gay, because she wears makeup and dresses and heels - all very feminine. Obviously I know not all lesbians look like dykes, but I don't even think she's femme. Could she be bi?
2. What do you think of a lesbian coworker, professionally? Asking because I never had to deal with one (or one that I know) at work. Are they more like dudes (so no female bullshit stuff) and just easier to deal with at work?
Enlighten me!
Why don't you talk to her and find out what she's like instead of asking a bunch of strangers who have never met her? That is likely to be much more effective.
Dude. Grow up.
what part of OP's question reflects immaturity? many people have legitimately never met anyone of LGBT orientation before
Really?
Fine, if this isn't trolling.
Lesbians can look like people, because they are. Sexuality is a continuum, she might also enjoy relations with men.
Does she act professional? Do you? If you didn't know her affinity for woman would you say or do anything different? If yes, you might not be professional.
Treat her like any other coworker. All people are different, gauge how she reacts to your statements and build an opinion from there. Why the hell would you try and extrapolate what kind of person she is without trying to get to know her?
Lets make this very simple. Unless she happens to be out and open about being out, she's just another coworker. If she happens to be out and open about it, she's still just another coworker. Just accept it as that and don't give it a second thought. Judge her on her ability as a banker and who she is as a person and you're fine. The moment you don't and you're setting yourself up for failure. And if you are trying to sleep with her - don't. Just don't. It has bad idea written all over it.
I'm cool with anyone except furries
you have expressed racist views towards pokemon in the past as well i remember
My new intern went nuts over a lesbian. Am I too anal here or is she an immature brat? (Originally Posted: 05/19/2012)
One of the new interns working under me and I were working together today and had a bit of down time so we talked about life for like 10 minutes. She's 21 years old and was talking about her dorm room situation for summer classes. I asked her what's wrong and she goes fucking ballistic because she found out that her dorm floor has a lesbian on it. I asked her if she's met her and she said not yet. She hasn't even moved in yet, much less met ANYONE on her new floor. I asked her what was wrong with having a lesbian on the floor and she said she's just "scared as fuck" of going into that public bathroom to take a shower or brush her teeth or walk around the hall in a towel because she things the lesbian girl will secretly tape her showering or do something worse (the lesbian is a school athlete and way bigger than her). she said she "can't believe NYU is putting a lesbian on a girl's floor"
anyways, she says she's not a homophobe (three of her best male friends are gay) but she was 100% serious when she flipped out on me about that lesbian and i mean, the way to told me about it seems like she almost had a heart attack.
maybe i'm being too uptight here or maybe she's absolutely crazy. is this normal? i can't fucking stand her. i can't even imagine staying up late till 4am with someone her cranking out excel spreadsheets. long-term-wise, i want to ask my management to switch her off the team just for this. am i being unreasonable to feel this way?
Time for punishment
Fire the intern girl and hire the lesbian? :)
While she sounds somewhat bat-shit crazy, I fail to see how any of her opinions affect you. In any case, take her out for drinks and introduce her to one of your blatant lesbian friends. Alternatively, also hire her lesbian dorm mate as an intern to get some admin duties off your shoulders.
Fuck her, thats an irrational hatred of someone she hasn't even met yet. Don't know why you would want to keep around such a judgemental person in your workplace, egos like that are definitely not needed in the finance world right now.
"Alternatively, also hire her lesbian dorm mate as an intern to get some admin duties off your shoulders."
This, just make sure you film her reaction when you introduce her to the "new girl"
Op, your username is spectacular. Nothing of value to add. However, most women are crazy.
hahaha thanks man. women are nuts
like ma boi pauly d said lesbian-ist here guys yo intern a hater, need 2 stop hatin start appreshatin
but pls send me the shower video if u get it
Solution: haze the anti-gay out of the intern.
This sounds like the most interesting option.
hahahaha oh whew, so im not the insane one here. alright! man i know i should just ignore it but i'm gonna have to work with this girl for the next 3 months, many times 20 hour days/nights. she drives me nuts, and not in the good way
I agree with hiring the lesbian from her dorm room to teach her a lesson about keeping her bigotry to herself. That would be awesome! You should ask her what the name of lesbian is and then recruit her.
This girl has no office saavy.
OP, it's time for you to choke a bitch (intern).
Make sure you get her off your group.
You need to sit her down and, in no uncertain terms, explain to her that personal bias or opinions have no place in the office. What if your MD's daughter was a lesbian and heard that? How do you think that would reflect on you for not jumping on it right away? What if someone in your office overheard and made an issue out of it.
Take care of that shit now and set the tone.
But is she hot?
Wow, someone's full of themselves. I would have given her a look and told her, trust me, you don't have anything to be concerned over when it comes to being hit on by lesbians.
I am playing devil's advocate here, maybe she told you that because she trusts you? She thinks she can confide in you somehow? This of course does not justify her disgusting behavior, but she's a 21 year old girl...and most probably, she had live a sheltered life so far and doesn't have much exposure to anything.
In a non-formal setting you should tell her that you were very uncomfortable with what she said and tell her to never repeat such things because they will come down and haunt her until the day she turns gay.
Also, slap her. Twice.
Make her eat box?
i love that I got shit for giving an actual answer instead of some stupid joke about vaginas. This place is becoming a joke.
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