My gf cheated on me after going out with a bunch of random guys this weekend.

We've been together for 3 and half years now. We're long distance but see each other regularly. Sometimes she'll come spend weeks over here or I'll go see her. If there was one thing I could say about her was that she loved me and that she would never cheat on me. Despite the ups and downs in the relationship dispute her immaturities, I stayed because I thought that.

We talked about our futures all the time. Well she was gone when I got out. I didn't hear from her at all Saturday but I heard from her mom who was apologizing to me. She had told her mother everything that happened and apparently she hung up on her ken daughter. She tried calling me over 20 times Saturday but I was still just not there emotionally. I thought I had ended this strongly, completely over her instantly but here I am today with nothing but her on my mind. It's just now starting to eat me apart inside and it sucks! I don't know what happened to the strong me that was just there but now I'm a wreck. What am I supposed to do here? Try talk to her? Try rekindling this thing?

FUCK NO. I've always said I'd never take back a cheater AND she's always hated cheaters with a passion! Every time I think about it I despise her.

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Bat signal received.

My goodness, this precious oasis is turning into a cesspool.

 

She cheated because she wanted to. She tried to say that I was not paying enough attention to her all that bullshit. Bold face lie. She lied to me and she fucked another dude. It was her decision to mess our relationship up. I would never do that to anyone I love, that’s inexcusable. Case closed

 

Break up and move on. You're young, in a year you'll realize it doesn't matter and you will find someone better. There's plenty of fish in the sea. 

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Go No contact.

Delete number from phone.

Do not acknowledge her EVER again. in person, through phone  etc.  ZERO CONTACT.

If you have anything that she owns at your place put in a box and mail it to her mom.  no notes

DO NOT CONTACT HER

DO NOT ANSWER HER PHONE CALLS

DO NOT TEXT HER

Most guys fail and start beta texting her back(which validates her).

HOLD STRONG AND GO NO CONTACT.  it will drive her insane!

 

I agree with this. Be cold. Don’t leave any loose ends. Don’t know the situation but that’s unacceptable. If she wasn’t happy with you, should’ve just left you. 

 
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Go No contact.

Delete number from phone.

Do not acknowledge her EVER again. in person, through phone  etc.  ZERO CONTACT.

If you have anything that she owns at your place put in a box and mail it to her mom.  no notes

DO NOT CONTACT HER

DO NOT ANSWER HER PHONE CALLS

DO NOT TEXT HER

Most guys fail and start beta texting her back(which validates her).

HOLD STRONG AND GO NO CONTACT.  it will drive her insane!

Hard disagree. Just ghosting is child shit IMO. Tell her you know, you don't accept it, and as a result you now reject her. Then you can block her if she tries to spam contact you and move on with your life. Confront your problems, don't just block and pretend they don't exist. 

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If you take her back be prepared to get cheated on again. Why would she go out with so called "random guys" knowing she was in a relationship with you. If I had to guess it would be she cheated with a guy she thought she could replace you with for some reason and he did not reciprocate her wishes so she came back with her tail between her legs to ask for you forgiveness for this "mistake".

When girls cheat they usually cheat with guys they think will be a worthwhile replacement and I believe you that she did in fact love you but that does not change the fact that she wanted something more and went out looking for it.

If you take her back, you'll fulfill her wishes of not being lonely and provide the emotional platform she needs to have to feel strong enough for when she cheats again or even worse she wouldn't tell you she's cheating this time and you either end up raising another persons child or getting divorced when she finds someone who she likes and you'll be stuck paying child support and alimony to a man who is fucking your wife and raising your kids to call him daddy. 

 
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"we've been together for 3 and half years now"

"we're long distance"

lmao bro she was sucking cock and getting railed well before this weekend

 

So sorry to hear this man. IMO try to separate yourself from her - no calls, texts, Instagram, Snapchat etc.

Focus on yourself, get in the gym, find some hobbies you enjoy and ultimately you’ll find a better girl. No one deserves to be cheated on, and fuck every girl like this who blows their shot with a stud banker guy to fuck some random dude in Miami one weekend. Keep your head up pal it gets better

 

This isn't the first time she cheated, just the first time you found out. You don't go from being super faithful to riding dick overnight. I'm sure there were plenty of signs you were either too stupid or too cowardly to pick up and call her out. Cheating is often a gradual process that starts with everything from flirting over messages or Social Media, to giving hand jobs to a coworker in the parking lot. I don't mean to be harsh, but once you accept that there's no going back, you can start to heal. Talk to her, tell her you know, and you want nothing to do with her. Then go ghost.

 

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