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Is Japan really as you describe it? From what I read most males are incels unable to get laid

 
"Prospect in S&T - Equities" Has anyone here had any success with online dating in Asia?

Where are you out of - Bangkok?

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Dating apps is where you're bound to get the most pull/attention as a female. If you're not finding quality there then you're better off just going on Insta and sliding on guys that you like.

I'm not sure about what apps are available where you are at, but CMB and Hinge apparently (never used either) have good quality of dates because they're based on your Facebook friends (i.e. you get hooked up with friends of friends).

 
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As a guy (who would clearly get a lot less attention than the OP), yes I had success on the apps in Asia (I used to be HK-based). It was brutal at times, but the key is just to go in positive and keep an open mind.

Person not your type (ethnically, body-wise, job or whatever), BUT you see some interesting things in their profile? Swipe right, start messaging, get a casual drink/coffee/walk and see how it goes. But I would get on that first date pretty quickly so you don't waste time mindlessly messaging. This is also a great way to try out all kinds of cafes/bars (which is what I did). I mean it's no lose, right? If the date doesn't go great, you've tried a new place and that's a plus. Double bonus if it ends up being a good place. Literally no lose situation.

Was your time better than a 5? Go on a second date and then you can make a more informed decision. At the least you'll meet interesting people and maybe make some friends (I did). It's also how I met my current partner We joke that we are not each other's type at all, though we have shared interests, and would never have picked each other out at a party or whatever.

The other thing is that I wouldn't limit just to the apps. Parties, going out, junk trips, work connections (hopefully not within the company), hobbies etc are all ways to meet people.

It's never easy...

Good Luck

I used to do Asia-Pacific PE (kind of like FoF). Now I do something else but happy to try and answer questions on that stuff.
 

Girl here. When dating as opposed to hooking up I like to keep messaging for one week before suggesting a date because it weeds out all the people who aren't serious. I definitely go on fewer dates but I like to believe my hit rate is higher (going on first dates with 2-3 people for 1 relationship). But I know I'm in the minority and I can't convince my friends of this strategy.

Also, what is a junk trip?

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"lotsofhotwater" Girl here. When dating as opposed to hooking up I like to keep messaging for one week before suggesting a date because it weeds out all the people who aren't serious. I definitely go on fewer dates but I like to believe my hit rate is higher (going on first dates with 2-3 people for 1 relationship). But I know I'm in the minority and I can't convince my friends of this strategy.

Also, what is a junk trip?

I never segregated my goals. I just dated people. Some became hookups, some became relationships, some became friends and the vast majority became nothing, so I can't really comment on that. On the texting, perhaps I am a bit older than most on this board but I find texting lame, meaningless and frankly way too potentially scripted. It gives me little to no idea about the person and is generally a waste of my time. My current partner is an awful texter, and I'm not very good either, frankly, even though I am loquacious and a bit of a social butterfly (though not a socialite!).

That said, I'm not a woman and so don't face some of the safety concerns or other issues that you, the OP (and other women around the world), do.

OP, if your strategy is higher hit rate and you are comfortable with it, then work it. Forget about what your friends think, because you are not them and they are not you. If you don't like your approach then radically change it (just like anything else in life).

A junk trip is essentially a food and booze cruise around the islands with friends/family where everyone splits the cost. Good fun and a great way to meet people. Give "Hong Kong Junk" a google. You'll get invited soon enough, I am sure (assuming they are still going on or COVID slows down in HK).

I used to do Asia-Pacific PE (kind of like FoF). Now I do something else but happy to try and answer questions on that stuff.
 

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