I dated a girl and we were both a year out of school. I was working late hours but made up for that over the weekends. Eventually we basically moved in together (unofficially) but the relationship started to lose its spark even though things had been great. This stressed me out and hurt my job performance significantly. Eventually things crashed and burned despite trying everything to hold it together. I moved cities and switched jobs (got a random great offer) and things have been 10x better. Moral of the story.. stop thinking with your dick and use your head. It’s one of your first relationships, you’re fresh out of school, she’s still in “party mode,” the relationship hasn’t been as great lately.. and you’re considering “sacrificing your career”? If you switch to a lesser job so you can focus on saving a relationship that may or may not work then that’s foolish, in my opinion.

 
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Here I was, thinking OP would be in his late 20s or early 30s and talking about a girl he’s been dating for half a decade..

Sike. Dude is like 23 and this post Is about a girl he’s known a fucking year lmao 

 
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If you sacrifice money for women you'll have neither. 

If there is anything I’ve learned about women, they generally want all your time and all your money. 

The funny thing is though it takes time to make money so ……. 

And for the women that say they don’t want all your money, they are lying. They want to be showered with dates and gifts and think that they are free. They think these are inconsequential amounts of money. Dinners ain’t free, in fact if you’re going out on dates, shit adds up quick especially if you’re going out 2x per week. Oh and she wants you to cover drinks on Friday and Saturday? Yeah all that shit adds up to a lot. 

I went on one date with a girl in finance, we were gf bf and it was a fancy French place in DC with a celebrity chef that said hello to our table. When all was said and done, I picked up the tab and asked her just for fun how much she thought it was. We had 2 bottles of wine, appetizers, entrees, and dessert. It was $290 + $60 tip. She thought it was $150. Shit ain’t free and she was in finance too - girls just don’t realize how much stuff adds up. And that wasn’t my most expensive date either - that would be Jean Georges NYC.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

To be honest, I won’t say all chicks are money hungry per se - I have had some relationships where we split things and I feel more comfortable in those situations. It’s a lot more balance if the girl has a full time job and earns well.

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