Should I ask this girl out (NEED HELP PLEASE)

Hi guys, I recently met a girl that goes to my really prestigious top target school (Harvard / Yale / Princeton / Stanford), and I was wondering if I should ask her out. However, there are a few issues; I will be working at in a top group (PJT RSSG / GS TMT / MS M&A), while she will be following an unprestigious career path (Tech / Medicine). Do you know how much her level of prestige will drag my own prestige level down if I do decide to date her, especially given that she went to a public high school, whereas I went to a boarding school (Deerfield / Andover / Exeter / Choate). 

Based on my calculations, I can assign my college a max prestige level score of 10, and my bank group another score of 10, and my high school another score of 10, giving me a maximum possible prestige score of 30. However, since my dad is an MD, I get bonus prestige points, giving me a prestige score of 35. 
 

Now, when looking at the girl's prestige score, she gets 10 points for the college, 5 points for the unprestigious career path, and 1 point for her high school's prestige. This gives her a prestige score of 16. 

If we average out our prestige scores, it comes out to 25.5, which is a drop from my own raw prestige score of 30, and obvious a bigger drop from my total prestige score of 35. This hurts my reputation a lot, and I'm unsure if I'm willing to jeopardize it by engaging in an unprestigious relationship. Please let me know how I can best proceed.

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Yeah of course you wouldn't be laughing when your overall prestige score is 5

 

Firstly, she's a 10, and you're a 1. Secondly, she's got friends, and you've got none (you get 1 pt here and she gets another 10). Lastly, you're 100% going to be a bottom bucket, versus she's likely a top (1 for you, 10 for her). adding that up, and she's settling by being with you.

Why should she stay with you?

 

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