tinder/bumble opening messages
best opening line when messaging a woman on tinder/bumble? epic fails? anyone actually ever marry someone they met on the services?
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“Hey there! [mild compliment, relevant question]” always worked wonders for me.
Check out the OkCupid blog, they’ve always written up cool insights gleaned from their data. Older entries are meatier. What You Should Be Saying in a First Message – The OkCupid Blog
straight forward, simple, i like it. just began trying it out for the first time.
Enjoy! I’ve met a lot of amazing women through OkC and Tinder. I’m currently 3 years into relationship with the last one I met.
My only other general bit of advice I have is to be normal. Sadly many men on those apps reveal themselves to be emotionally unavailable, pathetic, verbally abusive, or an unholy mix of the three. I’m just making this stat up, but if women find 90% of the men online repulsive, you immediately join the desirable 10% simply by not exhibiting repulsive behaviors.
PS don’t ever reference hooking up. If you hit it off online and have a good date it will happen. Not that you would, but I know guys who have said, “just looking to hookup.” Would you tell a client “I’m just here to bill you”?
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I met my wife on Tinder and wrote a blog about Tinder: http://arthuxtable.blogspot.com/
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I actually have an awesome opener I used successfully a bunch - including on my wife. But if I reveal it, it will alter the NYC dating market permanently. theaccountingmajor will ruin it for everyone.
Incredible success rate with this one..."Do you like pancakes?", next message "Great, how about IHOP on that ass and then after we can go grab some pancakes/waffles/etc at insert good breakfast place"
Shit like this only works if you're a Ryan Gosling looking motherfucker. I feel like by "incredible success rate" you mean 'it worked once and I'm so stoked I'm no longer a virgin"
Funny you say that, I have been told I look like Ryan Gosling. But yes, shit like this works, so does a simple greeting and relevant question. It honestly all depends on the girl and the type of girl you are looking for. I for one, preferred girls with a sense of humor so jokes like this that weren't overly perverted/crude worked well. Have to remember though, chicks go through so many dudes on these apps, you need something to stand out/catch their eye. Key is to do so without being coming off too perverted/creepy/etc. Once you get their attention, you can take it all from there.
Incredible success rate with this one:
my abs.
Oh lord I imagine your profile is all indoor-beanie bathroom selfies, with maybe a bicycling pic tossed in for good measure
Tinder is somewhat annoying for me. Its funny/entertaining at times, but sometimes I check my phone and have 50 new matches and 20 new messages and it just seems like a lot of work for me. A lot of vetting, getting rid of annoying chicks, etc.
I do hope to make meaningful connections on there, but am more geared towards playing the long game.
No, m_1, I am not hiring my butler to filter out messages - lol
A younger, less good version of Goldie made a video about this:
WTF it really is a different world for some people. I've used it off and on for a couple years and have a couple hundred matches over that time but this just seems absurd. I'm in a tier 2/3 city too.
^typically I get a lot of messages like this from the 19-23yr old crowd
Stuntin hard there. I won't lie, I'm a little jealous
Yeah, I mean my biggest asset is my time. There are a couple rules here that will save you lots of it in the long run:
a) don't stick your dick in crazy
b) if a chick can't keep a schedule, I drop her
I'm not re-scheduling if we can't even make a first meet. My schedule is wacky as hell and to actually make a gap in it to 'grab coffee' or 'lunch' necessitates changes in my training or sleep or nutrition, which is also a pain in the ass.
Girls generally need more time with me than I need with them. One ex-girlfriend called me "Mr. Ambitious," because I was always working on something or training for something, which meant less time with her. She would be like "oh, you're going to go hang out with Mr. A". She worked in finance at a fund.
My point being, I have to filter all of these chicks out. The needy chicks. The above chick wasn't needy, she was pretty cool. But, the chicks that can't keep a schedule, it goes on and on. Then if a girl gets to the level of dating, she soon finds out that I have broken up with nearly every single one of my past girlfriends and then she gets insecure and goes from 'when are you going to break up with me' to ... 'are we going to get married'. The first question doesn't bother me that much, but I have been honest in the past with the second one and if I don't think its going to happen, I'll say 'we are not getting married', which brings on a whole new level of neediness/insecurity/clinginess, etc etc.
So to avoid the time suck of all of this BS, I spend a lot of my time filtering, vetting, etc. Its not all 'gravy' in terms of me reaping huge rewards from all these matches. It just means I have more variables in the equation. More options, per se. More options don't always mean a better outcome, or better result. The girls I am seeking are typically 9s, not used to being rejected, and some are used to lots of attention and flattery, but if you're dating one of these chicks, you have to spatter the flattery so that you're not completely putting her on a pedestal as these really hot model chicks tend to lose their mind when ego takes over and are just an ass to be around, so you have to be quick to put them in their place. That, and all the attention you get when you're around other random guys or drunk guys, how many fights you almost get in because some dude said something very inappropriate about your chicks' tits or something, but she liked it and you're just on edge.
The way to avoid all of this, is to get a girl that is balanced, respects herself, is not ego driven and takes care of her body (the 25-35 jump just ruins some girls).
I'm pretty picky and content being single rather than with someone who drains my zen and peace, so will meet/filter/date until I find someone who builds me up, rather than brings me down, and is ok with my energy levels or can at least keep up a little bit.
Wait hold on. Don't chicks message first on Bumble?
I'm like 2 for 100 on Tinder. I use one of those auto-like programs to rake in matches, but chicks just flake on me within 2-3 messages. So I've tried every variation of every opener.
Anyways. for some reason the 2 i managed to snag came off this line:
"Prove you aren't a spambot so that I can take you someplace nice tonight"
Both were hookups.
I'm too ugly to even get matches in the first place.
Time to start lifting, and maybe swiping on some 4s and 5s.
I used to just do the "How You Doin" Friends GIF to everyone. Wide appeal, non-controversial, if they fuck with you it has a decent, not great, response rate. Then I also came up with a couple pick-up lines, really clever and just enough quirkiness, and I get responses way more often time.
Personally, I'm a college student with about 1600 matches, probably 1/3 of whom are beat and I'm not sure why I swiped right on. If your school is a HYPS type school, some girls will swipe right you on you just because of that, believe it or not. For every 10 girls I match with, 1 MIGHT be down to hang out, 4 will entertain conversation and then eventually will stop replying, and then 5 just straight up won't even reply. And then the 1 girl who is down to hang out has about a 50% chance of flaking on me.
Tinder naturally attracts girls looking for self-validation as well. There are some girls who will add you on Snapchat, send you nude pictures and videos, but will never, ever link up. They're a category of its own.
Past two gfs from tinder, most hookups as well. Current gf dating over two years. I have a perfect pick up line that has a 100% success rate that I only share with close friends. I know this is the worst comment of all time just wanted to brag a bit ;)
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When you begin dating them, do you require them to take a break from Tinder? How do you know you are in a serious relationship.
Not trying to be an ass, but curious since I have never been on these apps and the stories I hear seem unreal.
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