Update: Girl Advice

So made a previous post on advice on how to approach someone I was interested in. Finally got the chance to do so today and took quite the L. After asking if she was open to having coffee and exchanging numbers, she quite quickly said she was busy the week after spring break but after that we could talk and then - out of embarrassment I suppose - literally ran off. Kinda bummed. I guess departures from my pragmatic, risk averse self can invite to situations of personal humiliation. 

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Didn’t read original post but It’s literally a numbers game, don’t worry about it. At least you know the answer, rather than staying up all night sweating about something that never was

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Is this the "shy, soft-mannered" girl from your class? Just act as if this never happened. Interact with her as if she's just any other student in the class and move on to the next one.

 

That’s okay. You did good, you probably didn’t have to ask for her number right away, you could have just talked and gotten to know her a little bit more. Maybe you just came in too strong. Don’t let it get to you.

 

It's not humiliation. She wont care, no one else saw it, and you will learn from it. If you want to become a casanova you have to be willing to take L's champ. Just learn from them, keep head up, and move on.

Also use it to fuel your fire at the gym. 

 
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Kind of surprised that the users above are acting like the courting process has rigid timelines or some formulaic reaction and that she rejected you. Human personality and reactions to novel events are far more complicated than some scripted cause and effect. 

She may very well be already stressed with midterms and your out of the blue gesture would have been difficult for her to process immediately given the situation. The fact that she blushed is a positive sign that she may like you, and the running away is just so she can collect her thoughts and think about what just happened. Your in college so there's a chance she hasn't dated many guys before, if any, which would in part explain her awkward reactions. Please don't treat this like some type of interview or pop quiz with only one right way to act. Give her the time she needs to study for her midterms, and let her revisit the topic at the timeline she stated. 

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