I'm not sure if many or any of you will resonate with this but for the longest time I've had serious frustrations with friends and family not empathizing with me. I find this kind of ironic because both groups love to confide in their most vulnerable secrets with me because I'm good with validating people's feelings. However, whenever I try to be honest and vent my own problems, they either don't seem to understand or turn off into a "oh that sucks" apathetic attitude. I can understand that they may not fully get my situations but I just feel a lack of effort in general to validate that I'm having a hard time with something.
My theory is that because my friends rely on me as a stabilizing force, they don't view my problems as distressing because they think I can always figure it out on my own and it's weird to see me truly vulnerable. Still, I think it's important for even strong people to have a safe place to be weak so they can confront underlying problems and be balanced.
Has anyone dealt with this? I can imagine a person in PE venting to their banker friends about the job and them not giving a shit at all because "you're in a good place." I'm thinking of confronting a couple of them but not sure how to approach it. Any advice?