How much spare time do you really have with a 40-50 hour week / what do you do with it?

I am mostly similar in that I like working, but I sure as hell am not working on the day job when I get home, work on my own shit. Also, I have hobbies that I am into, bike packing, climbing, etc. So in my off time, I plan my limited PTO carefully, and figure out how to build a life that I am in control of.

You are the odd one out... you would rather work than go to the gym and improve your health and physical appearance and socialize with people (especially women).

Proud to be in the 40-50 club... somtimes 30-35 if the skiing or golfing is good.. occasionally 50-60 during tax time (right now)... Typically in by 8:15 out by 5:30 home by 6.

In the winter that leaves me ample time to cook and eat with the girlfriend, lift, play a bit of piano and get a good amount of reading or some other odd ended activity or chore done. And by the time the weekend comes around I'm always up to wake up early to get fresh tracks after the sub few hour drive to local ski resorts.

Outside of winter it's basically the same thing... but with a lot more golf... I'm not tiger by any means, but it's definitely a nice stress reliever to get out and hit the greens. Basically just switch skiing with golf, hiking or little weekend trips out and about.

I imagine this schedule will change more as a family comes about, but at this point in my life I've got 0 complaints.

It's fine to work really hard as a young person, but if you cannot imagine what you might do with your free time, you probably want to do some serious soul-searching before you hit the workplace. Family, socializing, health, and hobbies, those are four categories off the top of my head.

I'm in the 40-50 club, although it's getting more difficult to define working hours vs. non-working. Typical day probably looks like the following:

5:30 AM or 6:00 AM Wake Up. Down some caffeine. Check my phone for texts and social media, delete spam emails, respond to any work emails that don't require actual work and just need a response, etc. Maybe have some sex. Odd aside - the older I get, the more I like morning sex. By the time I get home for work I'm spent.

6:30 AM or 7:00 AM Go to the gym, except for Mondays because there's an early staff meeting and I need a rest day anyhow. Work out for 45 minutes to an hour. Longer workouts are for weekends.

8:00 AM ish Down a quick protein shake and some fruit, shower, and get ready.

8:30 AM or 9:00 AM Get to work. Make a list for the day. Know that it'll be blown to shit, but it's more so I don't forget things.

6:00 PM or 7:00 PM Leave for home. This can be as early as 4 on a nice summer day when I want to get a tee time in or as late as 9-10 if some shit hit the fan. Anything that late is pretty stupid though - I'm operating at far from peak efficiency.

6:30 PM or 7:30 PM Hopefully my girlfriend took the dog out, but if not, I'll do that. Change into comfortable clothes. Eat something for dinner - usually prepped from the weekend before. Watch a youtube video or two or otherwise fuck around on the internet like I am now. It's 8 PM. Usually every other night I'll run the dishwasher or do laundry. By do laundry I mean I'll wash it, dry it, and leave it in the dryer, which my girlfriend LOVES. Whatever - I put dishes away at least.

8:00 PM to 10 PM or 11 PM During this time I'll read, watch Netflix, watch a movie, watch a sporting event, play a video game, read a couple of good articles, read a couple of trash articles, or whatever else. These 2-3 hours are perfect for forgetting about work, disconnecting, and recharging my batteries for the next day. Usually at some point phone addiction will kick in and I'll check social media / work emails. If anything is pressing or only needs a quick response, I'll give it. No issues there. Most nights I'm out before midnight.

So, in summary, I fuck around for an hour in the mornings while I'm waking up, I work out for an hour, give or take, I take the odd break or two and browse the internet at work like a normal person, I eat dinner and do chores, and then I spend a couple of hours to myself or with my girlfriend. I suppose in theory I could jump out of bed and hit the gym immediately, or just not spend any time with my girlfriend or by myself to clear my mind, but I barely have enough time for my hobbies as it is. I only golf about once a month, don't quite read a book a month, still have shows and movies I haven't watched, have a couple of video games sitting next to my TV that I haven't played, have a stack of The Economist, Harvard Business Journal, and ULI Magazine magazines that are half read, and haven't played pickup sports in a few months now.

If work is your favorite hobby, and work relationships are your main relationships, then more power to you. It's just not the case for me. I work pretty damn hard when I'm at work and I'm open and free to emails and phone calls whenever I'm awake. If the company wants any more from me they'd have to compensate me dramatically more.

I like filling up free time with reading/studying, especially anything phil related.

Work out, cook healthy meals, and the great thing about hobbies is that there's a ton of opportunity for huge gains in skill early on when you begin learning. If you're the type who likes to learn new skills and is ok with not completely mastering them, you can become a very well-rounded person and maybe even discover a new passion

Week day: Before Work: workout, walk dogs After Work: cook, walk/train dogs, read, tv, occasional Happy Hour

Weekend: Anything I want

Not much. After work, I head to the gym for a 50-60min workout. Including walking there, showering, dressing, walking home, I get home around 9pm. When ordering dinner, I save time, but when cooking, that takes 30-40min + eating. So now its 10am. I relax for an hour, and then study for the CFA for an hour. Now it's midnight, I go to bed to get 7.5 hours of sleep.

Kinda sucks when you think about it, but nothing you can do about it. Weekends, ~4-5 hours of CFA again, and the rest of the time is mine generally. Still better than grinding 80 hours a week in banking though, so I don't have much to complain about

6:30AM: Wake up, takes me about 20min to get ready and leave 6:50AM-8:00AM: Commute via car and train to work, usually read or sleep on the train (currently reading "What the Dog Saw") 8:00AM-5:30/6:00PM: Work (RE Development) 5:30/6:00PM-7:00PM: Commute same as above 7:00PM-10:00PM: Usually gym for an hour, eat dinner and meal prep, shower, hang out with the gf, watch netflix, try and do some house chores, play some xbox, just general decompress from the day before bed and starting over.

The above is a typical day, sometimes I will hit a happy hour after work to keep up with friends and my network. Or hitting a sporting event on occasion. This all will change in the near future once my pup arrives as training and walks will take place in the early morning and evening.

Seem to be one of the few with kids.

6:00-7:00 - Wake up. Wife does most of the heavy lifting getting the kids ready for the day while I have shower, drink coffee

7:00-8:00 - Least fun part of the day. Drive kids to school and head to work. I do use this time to crush listen to some podcasts and explain to my daughter for the 100th time that Jojo Siwa doesn't make it on my radio.

8:00-5:30ish - Work of course

5:30 - 8:00 - Pickup kids (if wife can't). Hang out with the family. Clean up. Put kids down.

8:00 - 11:30 - Read/Study. I tend to enroll in random shit to force me to get out and do something. I'm not one to self learn anything.