Making friends in a New City

What's up monkeys. I'm from the northeast but don't have a lot of college connections in NYC, and of the people I do know here most either a) have girlfriends b) can't hang c) are girls. I need like minded, degenerate, yet career oriented boys to slug brews with and make shit happen this summer. It's ridiculous that I'm making a burner account to post this on WSO. You know how hard it is to make new guy friends? I had a girl ask me to bring friends out tonight and I was like damn I have no friends. I can't be the only normal person with this issue, Covid kinda threw a wrench in everything. I'm a pretty outgoing person too. My job is remote and I have one coworker at my level who doesn't live here. I have friends moving to the city eventually, but eventually isn't gonna cut it - bar curfew is over now. I'm leaving town every other weekend to hang with friends in other cities. It's not a sustainable model. I'm trying to play more pickup sports I guess... This shouldn't be this hard. Any advice? I know I'm gonna get trolled a bit here but whatever. Thank you all.

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  • Intern in PE - Growth
Jun 11, 2021 - 8:13am

I feel you my man, am new in this city, the only cool analyst lives like an hour away and I`m smack right in the hottest party quarter of the city. Fucking sucks. Worst thing is, on Tuesday there´s a big game and I got not a single soul to pound some cold ones and sing the national anthem with.

  • Associate 1 in RE - Comm
Jun 11, 2021 - 9:48am

I've been through this. Best answer is to learn to be comfortable by yourself. Doesn't mean you should sit at home - it just means you should not be embarrassed about going to do things you enjoy by yourself.

Not saying go to dinner or the bar by yourself - but genuine hobbies. Sports is one like you mentioned. Maybe WSO meetups, maybe it's a workout group in morning, a running / cycling group. Or Volunteering somewhere. Or networking events for your industry.

Counter-intuitive but the way to meet drinking buddies is not through drinking. It's through bonding over some other common connection.

Also you should still hang with your girlfriends assuming they're genuine friends. Just keep doing things

Jun 11, 2021 - 1:40pm

Same issue. I leave NYC on the weekends to come back to Philly to hang out with friends and do shit. Can't do that forever, I'm only an intern this summer so it's not too bad. You're not the only one, it's no fun doing stuff by yourself. There is one other intern I've become friendly with at the office but he can't really hang out after work. I guess the best advice is to pick up some hobbies, boxing/mma could be fun, car meets (if you're a car guy), there is a lot of stuff to do in the city, but you just have to force yourself to go out by yourself and try to have a good time. I'm sure you'll meet new friends in time.

Jun 12, 2021 - 12:59am

What I've noticed is the best way to make new friends is to join some sort of club or activity or do something that requires traveling in packs. For travel I mean cars, motorcycles, bikes, skateboards stuff like this. I had a dinky motorcycle when I was younger and within a couple months had made a lot of new friends. It was very interesting.

Jun 12, 2021 - 4:43pm

Dude - I feel you on this. So difficult with COVID right now. The other day I sat at the bar by my lonesome and ended up in a full blown conversation with two other random people sitting beside me. It'll get better for us, man.

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