Social experiences as a single adult that come close to rivaling college life.

When I say social life, I mean social life UNRELATED to dating. I mean like friendships, making new friends, and having fun social experiences with a group of people in a similar situation as you. Again, this is completely unrelated to dating so please save all stories around women, dating, and sex for another thread, this is unrelated to that. Pay attention to bold.

I also said single adult so this means no kids or wife or anything.

College is hyped up, in terms of social life, as being the "best 4 years of your life". You are around people away from home for the first time, looking to have fun, around the same age as you, and you are living in the same vicinity as them. Then you get olde

No doubt, tough to rival!

Here are some things I find can come close to it after experiencing it a bit myself and talking to other members on this site about it, add to the list if you guys like.

  1. Traveling in large tour groups to fun countries, ideally ones that have somewhat of a age cut off and are more targeted towards single people than couples, but there is always an odd couple or two that come.
  2. Working in a really fun industry where partying happens a lot and the crowd is geared towards fun, partying, and not settling down. Music, film, and nightlife are all great examples of these industries.
  3. Moving to a young and really trendy area of a major city where everyone fresh out of college in their 20s moves to. I hear Williamsburg in Brooklyn is kind of famous for this but other areas might also fit the bill. The issue is that everyone here just sticks with their college crews and never ventures out.
  4. Cross your fingers and hope society becomes slower to mature and cities become packed with 20 and 30 somethings partying and socializing like college kids without wanting to settle down.

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Feb 21, 2019

why disqualify us married early folks? i had a couple single years between college and marriage. ever stack coke, mushrooms, and niacin?

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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Feb 23, 2019

Go on...

Feb 23, 2019

What age get married?

Feb 23, 2019

ask your sister

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

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Feb 25, 2019

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Feb 26, 2019

That sounds diabolical..

Feb 21, 2019

Not disagreeing with what you said, but I want to throw one thing out there since you seem really focused on age brackets. It sounds weird to put it this way, but you gradually realize as you mature that people significantly older than you- like a generation or more- are just people like you. And you can get to be close friends with them like you can with people your own age. I now have solid friends who are 30+ years older than I am, and it's legitimately enjoyable to hang out and drink beers with them and talk about things. Now, those aren't the people you are going to be out at 3 am with, but there are different kinds of social experiences.

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Feb 21, 2019

dude im with you. i dont have any friends but the youngest dude i talk to regularly is 38. oldest probably 60s. old people are the shit imo. way more fun to talk to. like oh yeah bro let's discuss your fucking leased audi and what kanye tweeted last. cool. this motherfucker over here has a photo album of dams he built and a wine cellar go fuck yourself

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

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Feb 22, 2019

Not to mention it helps with developing relationships as you rise in your professional career - easier to relate to senior folks and clients when you have genuine friends their age.

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Feb 21, 2019

Most fun I've had was definitely after school with the guys I work with.

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Feb 22, 2019

I love hearing of stories like these.

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Feb 22, 2019

Have you tried doing something out of you comfort zone.
Go to Vegas and party like a king and make friends that way.
Go golfing with your MD or your boss. See if you can break into his friend group.
Travel to Ibiza and party with the models.
Go to Russia and become "The Machine".

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Feb 22, 2019

Parties are one of the essentials to socializing.

Feb 22, 2019

An event that I believe may rival some of the college fun that I had is Burning Man. I know that it's sold out a bit, but I think it would be an awesome / exciting experience if you went with the right people.

Feb 23, 2019

The challenge is finding the right people to go with.

Feb 23, 2019

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Feb 26, 2019

Post grad is awesome, anyone saying otherwise is doing it wrong. But I will say that the thing I miss most from college is the regular camaraderie. It used to be that you got back to class and were immediately with the guys or you all woke up on sunday reminiscing on the night before and asking where brunch would be that day. Now, you have a great night with your guys but you met up somewhere and then wake up in your apartment.

Not too high, not too low

Feb 26, 2019

Yeah I never got in on the camaraderie and am looking for that right now, my college years were a miserable wreck and I am not the only one on this forum either. I posted this thread looking for what after college can rival college in terms of camaraderie.

Feb 28, 2019

I'm in the same boat as you. My college experience sucks.

Feb 26, 2019

Echoing what @BeaconStreet and @GoldenCinderblock said... meeting and having friends of a wide range of ages often adds an entire other layer of life experiences and adventures, and school isn't the only place to connect with like-minded people - I have a very good friend who is 75 [retired military, loves to travels] and he went to Ecuador a couple of years ago and did his own "Motorcycle Diaries" type trip with a guy in his 40s who he met while working in their town's tree committee.

Feb 26, 2019

im part of a tree committee as well

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

Feb 26, 2019

I disagree on the friends of all ages part. There are things in life that you just cannot do with older friends like partying a lot or having a fun weekend. I mean for "growth" in terms of profession yes but for fun experiences you can look back on and laugh at, older friends who are settled down cannot offer that.

Some of us do not want dinner parties that end at 10 PM and hear about the experiences of other people after they have had kids.

Mar 1, 2019

You think older people can't rage?

Mar 2, 2019

Not all that well tbh.

Feb 26, 2019

I travel a lot for pleasure. I find it the single most rewarding aspect of my life after my business. Sometimes I go big and stay in fancy places, others in a hostel for $3 a night deep in Asia and sometimes I just find a quiet place in the woods. You will meet people out there who you can connect with and will open your mind. Pursue the things you enjoy or try the things you think you will enjoy and you will find substance.

I cannot think of a more college like atmosphere after college than staying in hostels across the map. Wake up, do some adventuring, head back and join in on the nightly social event. Remember those first couple of weeks of college where everyone is introducing themselves to each other? It's just like that, but even better.

We all long to go back, do it all again. Give it a try, put yourself out there.

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Feb 26, 2019

This is actually something I have been wanting to do again for quite some time, I did it once and it was the best moment of my life.

Is there an age limit to it though?

Like I feel if a 30 year old dude did it, it might seem odd.

Also, yeah, I long to go back to a college experience I never had :'(

Feb 26, 2019

Some hostels have an age limit, but they're the minority. My buddy and I joke about this guy we met in Stockholm all the time. We were mid twenties and him 55ish at the time. The three of us hung out for two afternoons and late into the night getting hammered and sharing life stories. Another guy (62) we met in Naples, we talked for hours about skiing, diving, wine and women. Any age difference was in appearance only.

Any reservations you may have; just ignore them and go.

Feb 26, 2019

the ring

What concert costs 45 cents? 50 Cent feat. Nickelback.

Feb 28, 2019

Dude you've been making these posts for years its getting weird.

My advice, go work in tech or something with tons of young people. There are 110 people in my office and 95% of them are 23-28 yrs old.

Also, go on a solo travel trip. Take a 5 day trip somewhere out of country and go through a couple hostels. Talk to some locals and hippy backpack travel kids. It's fun.

Mar 1, 2019

Yeah I'm detecting hints of Brady4mvp. Not saying they're the same person at all - just similar circumstances.

To OP: take the advice from all these threads you've started and start putting yourself out there. If you still can't do that, maybe go see a therapist. This isn't an insult, lots of successful people go to them.

I don't feel like going into too much detail about how seeing a pshycologist works but I bet a good one could get to the root of your problem after 5-10 meetings if you are 100% open and honest about your behavior and what thoughts pass through your head.

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Mar 2, 2019

Its always you on these threads so did I hit a nerve or something?

Also, you want me to change careers just for the social life aspect of it? Even if so, coworkers are not usually meant to be friends.

Mar 3, 2019

OP:

Mar 3, 2019

More to life than pussy bro

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