Dating a Bartender Chick

WARNING: Somewhat NSFW if monitor easily seen by peers.

So there's this bartender chick that I have an in with, long story short it's overtly indicative she want's String's D (actually verified, because we hooked up the first evening we hung out without hardly any badgering from me, which is what I normally have to do for one night stands); and possibly seeks access to my low 6 figure salary (I'd be OK with that, somewhat).

So bottom line, who here - NOT in college (although if you are, please feel free to share any exciting hook-up stories w/ slut bag bartenders, although I'm going to guess right off the bat you're lying, but that's OK long as it's entertaining) - works on avg. >70 hrs a week and has dated a bartender, casually to somewhat seriously for >45 days.

Simply, if you dated a bartender chick, did it blow, no more draining than a normal chick or decently awesome while lasted? And, would you recommend for or against, and few reasons why based on experience.

For add. detail if helpful, quick "+" / "-" bullets:
"+"
1. She'd fairly easily be in the top 3 hottest chicks I've dated thus far (already in top 5 for hookup). Unreal freaking real body
2. I thought her boobs were fake at first because they looked so awesome, but they're definitely not
3. She claims to really never do drugs, and her BFF/rommie verified this to a 3rd party
4. Was really cool around all my uncouth bro's, and they all gave me the thumbs up (granted this was based off of one night w/ alot of alcohol involved)
5. I wouldn't say she's "smart" (in the way dudes describe chicks to one another), but she's not stupid and is pretty easy to talk long as the convo revolves around pretty harmless topics
6. Very good blow jobs

"-"
1. From my extensive experience in both at dive bars and strip clubs, her profession is one click away from striper
2. I casually dated a striper once for a little less than 3 weeks, and they're f***ing psycho to the nth degree. Est. bartenders would be somewhere around n less 2 to n less 3 on the psychotic chick meter
2. Granted I said she wasn't stupid, but can see getting frequently annoyed by her simplistic view on sh*t vs my hyper critical and analytical bent on pretty much everything in personal conversation. ie, think I'd unintentionally piss her off a lot for no reason
3. Even if this deal actually worked well, I can't realistically see being with a chick like her on a go forward basis. May be a scumbag finance dude, but don't want to f' this chick over knowing that's the case at time 0
4. She intentionally has a Samsung Galaxy (sorry, that bugs me)
5. I'm pretty agnostic to what a potential GF is pursuing career wise, but it erk's me to be w/ someone w/ no dedicated goal
6. Concerned the blowie's will dissipate if we began to date. Say this because previous GF's continued accordingly, didn't really get that vibe from her

That was f'ing long, but feel free to weigh, and at least hopefully slightly entertaining for a morning read.

 

Dude...relax with the list making. I've gone on dates with a few bartenders, some were cool, some were bitchy. They're just normal everyday people man.

My drinkin' problem left today, she packed up all her bags and walked away.
 

yea man, below....jobs dont represent the people.....especially these days, I know some really smart people doing some jobs that people here would look down on

Kenny Powers:

Dude...relax with the list making. I've gone on dates with a few bartenders, some were cool, some were bitchy. They're just normal everyday people man.

 
frooter:

yea man, below....jobs dont represent the people.....especially these days, I know some really smart people doing some jobs that people here would look down on

Kenny Powers:

Dude...relax with the list making. I've gone on dates with a few bartenders, some were cool, some were bitchy. They're just normal everyday people man.

Mostly, but to play devil's advocate there are some kinds of jobs that require a certain personality to succeed in. For example...politicians. With one notable exception(which is only possible due to his timing being perfect) straight shooters don't do very well there.

 
Disincentivy:

A bartender is one click away from being a stripper?

Let me update my notes. BRB

No, he said striper. Obviously, he means they are one click away from being hospital volunteers.

 
Amphipathic:
shorttheworld:

i usually go for medical girls. flexible stable careers, good earners, the science nerdiness is a turn on and they tend to be more caring on average

This.

Good advice

Commercial Real Estate Developer
 
Prospect022:

I'm in college so maybe my take doesn't matter much but I don't see much of a point in getting in an extended relationship with someone if you have no intentions of being with them on a "go forward" basis.

You missed the entire point of college. Re-take the SAT's, cancel your credits, get a mulligan and start over as a freshmen. You should be ashamed of yourself.

 
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Stringer Bell:

WARNING: Somewhat NSFW if monitor easily seen by peers.

So there's this bartender chick that I have an in with, long story short it's overtly indicative she want's String's D (actually verified, because we hooked up the first evening we hung out without hardly any badgering from me, which is what I normally have to do for one night stands); and possibly seeks access to my low 6 figure salary (I'd be OK with that, somewhat).

So bottom line, who here - NOT in college (although if you are, please feel free to share any exciting hook-up stories w/ slut bag bartenders, although I'm going to guess right off the bat you're lying, but that's OK long as it's entertaining) - works on avg. >70 hrs a week and has dated a bartender, casually to somewhat seriously for >45 days.

I'm going in on this

Stringer Bell:

Simply, if you dated a bartender chick, did it blow, no more draining than a normal chick or decently awesome while lasted? And, would you recommend for or against, and few reasons why based on experience.

I never dated a bartender, but this in the internet and dammit I am going to give my opinion.

Stringer Bell:

For add. detail if helpful, quick "+" / "-" bullets:
"+"
1. She'd fairly easily be in the top 3 hottest chicks I've dated thus far (already in top 5 for hookup). Unreal freaking real body

Sounds like a great reason to hook up. *fist bump*
Stringer Bell:
2. I thought her boobs were fake at first because they looked so awesome, but they're definitely not
Fake boobs have longevity. This is a minus. Imagine me correcting it with a red pen.
Stringer Bell:
3. She claims to really never do drugs, and her BFF/rommie verified this to a 3rd party
She never REALLY does drugs or she never does drugs? That's a...weird way to put that.
Stringer Bell:
4. Was really cool around all my uncouth bro's, and they all gave me the thumbs up (granted this was based off of one night w/ alot of alcohol involved)
That's definitely a plus. Girls who suck around your friends suck.
Stringer Bell:
5. I wouldn't say she's "smart" (in the way dudes describe chicks to one another), but she's not stupid and is pretty easy to talk long as the convo revolves around pretty harmless topics
To each their own. Only you can know the answer
Stringer Bell:
6. Very good blow jobs

Definitely a plus. Definitely also means she's sucked a lot of dick.

Stringer Bell:

"-"
1. From my extensive experience in both at dive bars and strip clubs, her profession is one click away from striper

Sometimes, even, it's combined
Stringer Bell:
2. I casually dated a striper once for a little less than 3 weeks,
Wait, what the fuck?
Stringer Bell:
and they're f***ing psycho to the nth degree.
You don't become a stripper without a long list of daddy issues.
Stringer Bell:
2. Granted I said she wasn't stupid, but can see getting frequently annoyed by her simplistic view on sh*t vs my hyper critical and analytical bent on pretty much everything in personal conversation. ie, think I'd unintentionally piss her off a lot for no reason
So wait, is this a plus or a minus? You listed it twice.
Stringer Bell:
3. Even if this deal actually worked well, I can't realistically see being with a chick like her on a go forward basis.
I think we're getting somewhere
Stringer Bell:
4. She intentionally has a Samsung Galaxy (sorry, that bugs me)
Fuck those people
Stringer Bell:
5. I'm pretty agnostic to what a potential GF is pursuing career wise, but it erk's me to be w/ someone w/ no dedicated goal
Yep. Imagine waking up every morning to go to work on little sleep while she's lounging about
Stringer Bell:
6. Concerned the blowie's will dissipate if we began to date. Say this because previous GF's continued accordingly, didn't really get that vibe from her

If you call them "blowie's" ...

Stringer Bell:

That was f'ing long, but feel free to weigh, and at least hopefully slightly entertaining for a morning read.

In short, I think you already know the answer. Chill with her, get your dick licked, but don't make this anything serious. Bartender girl isn't wife material.

Also, don't date strippers, dude...

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CRE:
Prospect022:

Anyone care to elaborate on the anti Samung Galaxy sentiment?

Android people suck

;)

Lol still in the iPhone circle jerk? Don't worry, more and more people are realizing that they want out every day. You'll get there soon.

 

Why are you over-thinking a fuck buddy so much? Sounds like you're in love.

''You can fool some of the people all of the time, and those are the ones you need to concentrate on.'' — President George W. Bush 0.5 bb
 
Dubya:

Why are you over-thinking a fuck buddy so much? Sounds like you're in love.

This x 100 as well. I'm basing this on actually dating her, being exclusive, etc. If you're just fucking her, go for it

Commercial Real Estate Developer
 

I manage a bar part time and there are definitely all types. Some girls just want to party, others really are wife material. You have to get to know her dude, women are far less defined by their jobs than men.

Get busy living
 
UFOinsider:

I manage a bar part time and there are definitely all types. Some girls just want to party, others really are wife material. You have to get to know her dude, women are far less defined by their jobs than men.

There are a lot of instances of people first meeting in a club/bar who end up getting married. Basically, a banker's dream.

 

I've got a pretty, ahem, informed viewpoint on this. STAY AWAY!

The biggest problem I've had with bartender chicks is that they are constantly complaining about every little detail in life. I'm talking everything -- it is like high school all over again. Complaints about co-workers, patrons, money, family, friends, friends' kids, you name it. On top of this, every current/past co-worker of hers will be constantly sending her dirty texts and trying to hook up with her. This can get incredibly annoying if you're just trying to relax after working long hours.

On top of this, her hours are going to conflict with yours. Depending on the bar she works at, she'll be working the night shift 5+ days a week. She'll usually get Sundays or Mondays off, which really doesn't do you much good if you are looking to go out on the town together. Unless you feel like visiting her and sitting by yourself at the bar while she works, you won't get much time together. That or she'll be asking you to go out with her and her co-workers when they get off work at 12am to 2am on a Tuesday night -- which is hardly sustainable if you're in an office job. If you're looking to have an actual relationship with this girl rather than a late night hook-up thing, this will make life more challenging.

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I go to a school with something around 25-40% Jewish students. One of my roommates was hooking up with a bartender for a bit, he'd wind up waiting around at the bar till close to take her home. So during the Jewish holiday Sukkot, so since it was late and empty they hooked up in one of the Sukkahs (huts put up for the holiday) and he wound up getting a bj in it.

Long story short: He got a suckoff in a Sukkah during Sukkot

 

Just going to throw this out there:

I don't want my future wife to have a career defined by partying and drinking. Not exactly the bring home to the parents type or the take out to dinner with clients type either.

I know those two things don't apply to everyone and other people don't necessarily have the same hangups, but I have a feeling I'm not alone on these boards in feeling this way either.

Commercial Real Estate Developer
 
BTbanker:

So...

=IF(OR(AND(College?="No", Age">=22", Hrs">70" OR(status="casual", status="somewhat_serious"), time
_frame">45"), Patalogical_Liar="Yes"), "TellYourStory", "FuckOff")

Please resubmit with the following changes:

"Pathological"

Commercial Real Estate Developer
 
CRE:
BTbanker:

So...

=IF(OR(AND(College?="No", Age">=22", Hrs">70" OR(status="casual", status="somewhat_serious"), time
_frame">45"), Patalogical_Liar="Yes"), "TellYourStory", "FuckOff")

Please resubmit with the following changes:

"Pathological"

Jesus, I was wondering why I was getting #NAME?.
 

From my experience, not a safe bet. If it's a non-committed non-exclusive relationship (for lack of better term) you're after, then why not. Otherwise, you have to realize, as much as any non-ugly chick gets constantly macked on at a bar or club, a waitress/bartender/bottle girl gets hit on at least 100x more. It shouldn't matter in the short run since am sure confidence isn't a problem with a person in banking who can get manage to casually date a barmaid, however, there will always be someone marginally more confident/better looking/richer or whatever which managed to woo her for those few minutes of introduction, and, because she may or may not be tipsy, she'll just say fuck it and go for it.

 

She sounds like a cool chick. Not sure how old she is but people change and grow. Maybe you'll somewhat inspire her (career wise) and you two might even grow together. Go for it. Maybe a month from now she'll be that kind of chick you see yourself going forward with on the long run. My best relationship involved being inspired and challenged by the man and growing together in a way that we both changed for the better ( or at least I'd love to think so.)

Also, she's hot and your boys like her.

And she's hot, your boys like her.

 

Yea, dating bartenders never ends well. They all drink heavily at work, they probably won't cheat on you with a customer, but they probably will cheat on you with a coworker.

"You stop being an asshole when it sucks to be you." -IlliniProgrammer "Your grammar made me wish I'd been aborted." -happypantsmcgee
 

Again - What type of bar does she work at? This is absolutely relevant when thinking about how often these types of hookups happen, how quickly the next guy will come along, and potentially, how many other guys she is talking to at this moment (you did say shes only hung out with your friends ONE TIME...)

 

Whoa, this stupid post escalated quickly; really need think some shit out better. Note to self, don't do internet rambles overly whacked out / animated on early morning caffeine.

Thanks for the input, and those giving me shit, probably deserve it, no resentment harbored. Although I constructed w/ entertainment value in mind, the list, indeed, is kinda bitch a play I suppose; however this is what anonymous internet forums are intended for.

Just as an update, I think i'm making encouraging progress in effort to get her to send some tit / ass pic's latter this afternoon. Little steps first. While on the subject, yay or nay on dic pic's if requested? Just pull a Brett Farve and send a google image? Could be risky.

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Stringer Bell:

Whoa, this stupid post escalated quickly; really need think some shit out better. Note to self, don't do internet rambles overly whacked out / animated on early morning caffeine.

It actually made my morning

Stringer Bell:

Just as an update, I think i'm making encouraging progress in effort to get her to send some tit / ass pic's latter this afternoon. Little steps first. While on the subject, yay or nay on dic pic's if requested? Just pull a Brett Farve and send a google image? Could be risky.

Don't dick pic it. Throw some abs though if you got em

Commercial Real Estate Developer
 
Stringer Bell:

Whoa, this stupid post escalated quickly; really need think some shit out better. Note to self, don't do internet rambles overly whacked out / animated on early morning caffeine.

Thanks for the input, and those giving me shit, probably deserve it, no resentment harbored. Although I constructed w/ entertainment value in mind, the list, indeed, is kinda bitch a play I suppose; however this is what anonymous internet forums are intended for.

it's all good. i don't think anybody read this and took it seriously. it made for an amusing read.

 

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