The Great Strategic Game of Life (2/2)

In the first post in this series I was talking about big strategic decisions in life. I made the point that maybe small decisions drain a lot of time and energy from us, and that could make us lose track of the big picture.

Some comments pointed out that the big picture is nothing but a sum of the small parts. I beg to disagree. If your option space becomes too narrow and all you can think of are small decisions such as which desk to apply for in a S&T internship, you lack the time to see some choices that are available to you, like a start-up or a different industry. But that requires you to believe that transformational shifts are not forbidden in life. Anyway, I owed you a few life stories, so here we go.

Story 1: Once upon a time, there was a classmate of mine that was really smart. Well, she wasn't amazing at classes or exams. But she did OK, and on top of that, she was charismatic, knew how to make friends and how to network like no one else I've met. She didn't come from money and had a hard time paying her way through college, an extra motivation tool.

As soon as she could, she got a part-time job in a BB bank, and performed brilliantly. She went from Analyst to Director in less than 10 years, no b-school. Yes, market was great, especially in the first years, but her story was unique by any standards. She was really obstinate about getting there. And she did it.

Now, for the bad part, she had probably 3 or 4 weeks off since then. She has no close friends anymore, besides work acquaintances, who she herself admits she can't really trust. Conversely, she isn't seen as the most trustworthy person. She's been everywhere in the world, but only for work. Maybe a couple of free afternoons in those cities, and that's pretty much it for traveling. She's loaded, of course.

Story 2: Once upon a time, there was a systems engineer in a media company. He went up real fast. He grew in the company in the age of huge recording contracts, when system and infrastructure needs were massive. He was promoted to a regional C-level office, with a 2-3M first-year comp (roughly a third of his entire net worth accumulated over 15 years), and a good perspective of a CEO chair later on.

Times went sour for the industry, and his company was entertaining merger talks. The deal was lined up quickly and he soon learned that his seat was gone. He had a month or so left and a $1M severance. He tried to reposition within the music industry at a high position, bummer. So what did he do?

He knew his knowledge could be valuable in other industries, but he didn't know where to start. He brought his wife and kids to visit their dream house, and bought it. He was now deep underwater. He started working 100-hour weeks, drafting business plans, buying several thousand dollars worth of data, and he opened himself a job. Regional CEO for a tech company in round C financing. Comp was 200k plus shares. It IPOed and his current worth is in the low 9 digits.

Story 3: This is the shortest one. A really bright high school classmate, born to a very wealthy family. Went to work for a F500 company, finance department. Never really took any risks, stuck to 9-5, never cared to network that much, very slow progression. There are only two things that really distinguish her: (1) she has a lot of free time, and enjoys every minute of it. She travels the world, eats well, lives well. But that all comes with a cost. (2) She's severely cash constrained.

Being born in a golden crib fosters expensive habits. Expensive habits don't really go well with a low comp, especially at the mid 30s. She is postponing her wedding for almost 5 years, because for personal reasons she refuses to take a wedding party (one that is socially adequate for her) as a gift from her family.

Bottom line: Risk taking has little to do with recklessness. It is a choice, and it has a lot to do with motivation and life goals. But make sure you understand them well, and you have a good plan B.

People sometimes come with that old bullshit that money isn't important, but really, I am not writing for a charity website. The monkey ambition par excellence is making a shitload of money and becoming a BSD. That being said, yes, go for it. And, yes, you can measure success and cash.

The final point here just that being worth a ton of cash doesn't make you a winner. You can only be sure that you "won it" when you look back and you are absolutely sure that it was all worth it. Everyone says you need to be passionate about what you do, and that is true. I hope these stories illustrate why: the cost is just too fucking high if you aren't.

 
Best Response
SenhorFinance:
The final point here just that being worth a ton of cash doesn't make you a winner. You can only be sure that you "won it" when you look back and you are absolutely sure that it was all worth it. Everyone says you need to be passionate about what you do, and that is true. I hope these stories illustrate why: the cost is just too fucking high if you aren't.

As all monkeys here are passionate about making a lot of money there is no real need to worry?

Apart from that, at the age of 23 (and working for 1.5 years) I often (and sometimes too much) find myself wondering about this kind of stuff. A recent quote I read "If you love your job you're not working a single day of your life" pretty much sums it up.

For those who want some more hippie philosophical thinking: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bronnie-ware/top-5-regrets-of-the-dyin_b_…

 

Read this today on Farnam Street:

Nassim Taleb writes:

A trivial and potent heuristic to figure out success: a) you are absolutely successful if and only if you don’t envy anyone;

b) quite successful if those you envy you don’t know in person;

c) miserably unsuccessful if those you envy you encounter or think about daily.

Absolute success is mostly found among ascetic persons.

Not a big fan of a lot of Taleb's stuff, but I enjoyed this.

 
andyinsandiego:
Read this today on Farnam Street:
Nassim Taleb writes:

A trivial and potent heuristic to figure out success: a) you are absolutely successful if and only if you don’t envy anyone;

b) quite successful if those you envy you don’t know in person;

c) miserably unsuccessful if those you envy you encounter or think about daily.

Absolute success is mostly found among ascetic persons.

Not a big fan of a lot of Taleb's stuff, but I enjoyed this.

Very interesting; thanks for that. Also, great post overall. Always good to get someone else's perspective.

There is no spoon
 

+1 SB. Solid post. Posts like these make me feel that I need to be in a state of constant improvement. When you're working 12 hours a day consistently (IBD has it much worse of course), I question the little things I do. Should I watch TV? Should I give up watching NFL completely and do something memorable like rock climbing or shark diving? Everytime I take a bite out out of the cheeseburger, I ruin my healthy diet for the day, etc. Not having much free time is a curse, but could also be a blessing in disguise, if it helps you realize life is short.

 

Thanks for the great post. The last paragraph says it all. It's hard to think about this stuff when you're in college or recently graduated because we're so mindfucked by society.

Only way to hedge the uncertainties in life is to live in the moment! I just quit the ibank (analyst) and am now getting laid again! Woohoo! What if I worked all the time to make MD, then got erectile dysfunction, then even with my MD money, I couldn't even pay for sex. See? Great example, huh? If you don't use it, you lose it. But realistically, it's a balancing act: try to get laid some now and some later. Personally, now that I'm free, I'm just going to try and get laid as much as possible, then see what happens. I'll keep you guys posted.

 
karypto:
My god not a single person believes in hard work? If you were the electoral college...

It's not a question of hard work. It's a question of what to work hard at. What is worth working hard for? But I guess you can always focus on your sacred career and delay answering the HARD questions in life.

Fitzgerald said it well: "He was going to work so as to forget that there was nothing worth working for." Think about it.

 
alphamale:
karypto:
My god not a single person believes in hard work? If you were the electoral college...
It's not a question of hard work. It's a question of what to work hard at. What is worth working hard for? But I guess you can always focus on your sacred career and delay answering the HARD questions in life.

Fitzgerald said it well: "He was going to work so as to forget that there was nothing worth working for." Think about it.

It's worth working hard for yourself. Be it self improvement or wisdom through experience. If you work for debt services, realize you are the only one who can get yourself out. Ultimately it's you who needs to make something out of yourself with debt or without debt. Be it teaching English in SE Asia or sourcing deals in PE. If I did not care what others thought of me, I would...

 

Aut odit maxime consectetur sit. Distinctio eaque explicabo accusantium alias rem molestias quod et. Blanditiis est ea doloremque voluptates blanditiis.

Reprehenderit ad numquam sint distinctio. Dolores iusto facere consectetur consectetur ut expedita. Voluptatum beatae aspernatur consequuntur sapiente ipsum et non repellat. Accusamus sit labore consectetur sed vel molestias iusto nobis. Et quidem ut est error est praesentium est. In nobis magnam ex voluptatem. Ipsa aut ratione omnis numquam harum et omnis.

Minus aut labore molestiae est. Occaecati ab quod aliquam nam libero amet quam. Quia praesentium est commodi et.

Laudantium voluptatem perspiciatis et corrupti. Corrupti rerum tempora dolor consequatur suscipit. Et suscipit placeat quae iure consectetur laboriosam. Asperiores quos id recusandae dignissimos sint eveniet maxime.

Career Advancement Opportunities

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Jefferies & Company 02 99.4%
  • Goldman Sachs 19 98.8%
  • Harris Williams & Co. (++) 98.3%
  • Lazard Freres 02 97.7%
  • JPMorgan Chase 03 97.1%

Overall Employee Satisfaction

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Harris Williams & Co. 18 99.4%
  • JPMorgan Chase 10 98.8%
  • Lazard Freres 05 98.3%
  • Morgan Stanley 07 97.7%
  • William Blair 03 97.1%

Professional Growth Opportunities

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Lazard Freres 01 99.4%
  • Jefferies & Company 02 98.8%
  • Goldman Sachs 17 98.3%
  • Moelis & Company 07 97.7%
  • JPMorgan Chase 05 97.1%

Total Avg Compensation

March 2024 Investment Banking

  • Director/MD (5) $648
  • Vice President (19) $385
  • Associates (86) $261
  • 3rd+ Year Analyst (13) $181
  • Intern/Summer Associate (33) $170
  • 2nd Year Analyst (66) $168
  • 1st Year Analyst (202) $159
  • Intern/Summer Analyst (144) $101
notes
16 IB Interviews Notes

“... there’s no excuse to not take advantage of the resources out there available to you. Best value for your $ are the...”

Leaderboard

1
redever's picture
redever
99.2
2
Secyh62's picture
Secyh62
99.0
3
Betsy Massar's picture
Betsy Massar
99.0
4
BankonBanking's picture
BankonBanking
99.0
5
dosk17's picture
dosk17
98.9
6
DrApeman's picture
DrApeman
98.9
7
kanon's picture
kanon
98.9
8
CompBanker's picture
CompBanker
98.9
9
GameTheory's picture
GameTheory
98.9
10
Jamoldo's picture
Jamoldo
98.8
success
From 10 rejections to 1 dream investment banking internship

“... I believe it was the single biggest reason why I ended up with an offer...”