Reintroducing being a gentleman to society
Maybe a year ago I got suggested a post on instagram by a creator trying to reintroduce polite manners/dressing well/social etiquette to daily behavior and now there's a number of pages I follow advocating the classically masculine lifestyle.
I've long aligned with this school of thinking, and while I understand it is normal and acceptable to wear athletic clothes whenever not at work, and even athletic Q-zips and ABC pants to work every day, and I will not judge anyone for doing so; I have started to find a large amount of satisfaction and even progress in my life by elevating beyond this. I had an MD who also seems to take pride in his appearance notice and his respect for me seems to have meaningfully gone up (no-homo); and out at bars and even caffes I really feel elevated; partially probably placebo but the boost in confidence has got me dates with girls I'd previously not talk to.
Also this extends beyond just clothing; mannerisms, the way you speak, obvious things like saying please/thank you always, grooming, and becoming friends with the waitress/bartender at places you frequent and tipping generously, etc. It's starting to snowball in my life and I feel like it's improving my QOL substantially.
If not natural/overdone and you seem to try too hard to be 'classically masculine' it will likely backfire but I would say gradually embracing bits and pieces of this lifestyle has resulted in progress beyond what I thought it would (to be fair I expected nothing). Maybe this is obvious to you because you went to an East Coast prep school since you were 11 years old or grew up in European high society; but being from California this is a foreign concept for most people.
Just thought I would share.
what goes around comes around. your conscious actions will always yield results.
as Carl Jung said “when you dedicate yourself to your authentic work and path, unseen forces and people, or "unknown friends," will emerge to support you, not through your direct effort but because your consistent actions and integrity draw them to you”
No doubt. Do you suggest any readings by Yung? This message is resonating with me
cant point out a book specifically but watch his interview from 1957 on youtube, you gotta find the pieces but it is absolutely great.
if you like him check out Marcus Aurelius and his thoughts. not the same topic, but you are very likely to enjoy it.
and eventually read (a very hard read after page 70ish) “Knowledge of the Higher Worlds and Its Attainment” by Rudolf Steiner.
Man and his Symbols, The Archetypes and Collective Unconcious
Thank you - I am going to check out the interview tonight. I recently read Meditations and also finished the 48 Laws (darker but found it useful).
Also, for fun - I rewatched the Godfather series and I genuinely extracted so much real life value from those movies. I'm finding it incredibly satisfying to go down this road
i rewatched it for the 3rd time last week, its a masterpiece . if you find the full version with deleted scenes send the link here pls.
Mind sharing some of the pages you mentioned in the post?
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These pages are somewhat satirical/parodies but they have real underlying messages and tips on dress / act / etc that I apply.
Also read - How to Win Friends & Influence People, 48 laws of power, Atomic Habits
Watch - Godfather Trilogy, Peaky Blinders, honestly old James Bond films too
Could you start by knocking on a door to see if someone's there? No one in these United States seems to know how to knock anymore.
When I call people out for not knocking and just trying to slam open the door when I'm in the restroom, they just look down, pout, and not say anything like I've offended them or something. WTF is going on.
Absolutely, bringing back the essence of being a gentleman is all about small, thoughtful actions that show respect and consideration. Even simple gestures, like holding a door open or offering help without being asked, can make a big difference. It’s less about grand statements and more about consistently showing kindness, patience, and integrity in everyday interactions.
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