Am I gay??
Hey boys of WSO, girls if there are any on this site in the first place, please skip this post as this one isn't for you.
Ok so boys, am I gay if I like trans porn?? I mean I know this isn't a platform for such discussions but where else can I find so many weirdos for some clarity. So would love to hear your thoughts.
I mean I like watching trans women but am also attracted to women in real life. The thought of kissing another guy just gives me the ick. But, I find straight porn very boring and don’t think I could jerk off to that.
I hope you guys can see my dilemma. Would appreciate any thoughts.
What the fuck
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if you have to ask, yes
There are no chicks with dicks, only dudes with tits. So yes, thuper gay.
If you are actually straight, the only reason you're venturing into that territory is because you've become such a porn degen it's desensitized your addled brain to straight porn and you're digging around for novelty to get that dopamine hit. I empathize because I had my own problems with porn when I was younger.
Do yourself a favor and quit with that stuff. You're only hurting yourself over the long run.
- https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ - Your brain on porn, a scientific breakdown of why you shouldn't use it should that be what it takes to resonate
- https://www.covenanteyes.com/ - Just 1 of many potential options for quitting
Clicked on the thread bc of the funny name but am gladly surprised to see your serious response.
I think this is a huge issue with young men in modern society and explains how OnlyFans has gotten so big.
I personally have had intense struggles of both porn and sex addiction. It sounds “awesome” to have lots of sex, and I can’t lie that it was fun to begin with, but it was definitely not healthy for me. I lost my virginity junior year college (first two years was focused on my sport). Once I quit the sport that was the basis of my entire existence since I was 4 years old, I became a degenerate.
Went from not drinking or drugs to out of control. Drinking to near blackout (remembered most nights but would drink so much I couldn’t walk). Drugs and alcohol naturally lead to sex imo - sex is fun, and in my immature mind I couldn’t have any of my vices in a limited nature.
This is why I try not to drink much anymore - if I drink outside say a business dinner, it’s with a specific group of friends. I simply cannot go to a bar, get drinks, and go home. Inevitably I’ll end up doing coke @ 2am and going home with a girl I’ve only met a couple hours before.
Anyways, back to the sex issue. Naturally I sucked in bed my first few times. Got a bit better but I remember the exact moment I needed something a bit “more”. Was hooking up with a girl I had been going after for a few months - solid 8/10 and I couldn’t get hard. I was sober at the time and she told me to hit her. I was like absolutely not and we took a break and got drunk then tried it again. She was joking about being spanked with a belt so we decided to try it, and after a few baby taps I put a little effort into it and something changed in my mind that I haven’t been able to turn off.
Nothing wrong with aggressive sex if everyone agrees - I actually think it’s part of human nature due to evolution. Issue is after a few months of spanking, choking, etc., I needed more. As my actual sexual desires had changed, so did the porn I watched.
Deep down, I feel (and would argue I know) it’s wrong to swing a belt as hard as you can, but I want to. One girl I was with for a few months basically wanted me to beat her up during sex - furthest I went was intense choking and full on belt whippings on legs/butt. I actually thought about going to see our old sports psychologist because I was scared about what I was doing. Easily could’ve been arrested if she decided to say I attacked her or something.
The porn eventually led me to the world of trans porn. At first I was like this is wrong, but as my boundaries and morals grew less structured, I began to think it was fine. I’ll admit I even whacked it to tranny porn a few times.
Since college I’ve flipped between periods of not hooking up with randoms to fucking anyone above a 5 I can get to go home with me. Definitely part of the whole “I’ve never really been happy”. I’ve discussed this with a few friends of mine and majority have said “I don’t see the issue you’re getting laid quit being a pussy.”
Reached out to an older friend who’s married (mid 30’s, Christian, just had a baby) and he said that nothings “wrong” with me but that ive changed my brain due to the porn/sex addiction. We had many conversations about issues facing men today and I’ve thought long and hard about what we discussed and tried implementing some things, but it’s been extremely difficult.
Honestly am in a very similar boat between the sports, sex, degeneracy, etc
Curious how others have handled it - I’ve limited exposure to non work drinks because it always ends up the same
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Knock it off w/ the trans porn and porn in general. There's a mountain of research showing that porn is deeply addictive, unhealthy for the brain, and can seriously impair your ability to produce dopamine and other organic chemicals that cause pleasure. Yes, there are guys who can watch porn once in a while, or even every day, and they're not going to fall into a damaging porn addiction that becomes increasingly depraved. The fact that you are starting to watch trans porn, because regular porn isn't quite doing it for you anymore, is a guarantee that you're not one of those guys.
I have a lot of regrets in life, but the one thing I regret most is the prioritizing of the images in my head over the images infront of my eyes. The girls in books and later movies were so much realer to me than my own classmates, spergy as I was, and they were so much more sexy. And my God, what they could do and they wanted it all the time and only with me! Me! Susi sitting next to me in math class calling me stupid, that was not a real girl! The girls in my books, they were so much better! And so it went... Until I came at a point where I really, truly, was about to lose myself in a reality created by my own desires. It "felt good" - and yet it was the most horrible state Man can be in.
It is said that it is not God that puts you into Hell, but your own desires and will. I was in that pit of my own making and I can tell you, right here, right now: No matter what you think you'll get out of it, it is not worth it. At all. No matter how sweet the temptation, the rush, the self-lessness in lust, you will be left an empty shell, the candle in your heart flickering and vanishing into darkness.
It's good to love. It's good to join as two hearts. And it may even not be half-bad to have a good woman in your arms. But that is reality. The other thing, this Kraken in your soul, is not. If you don't believe in demons, then think again, because they believe in you - and they really fucking hate you. Don't give them the satisfaction. Don't make victims of lost souls performing for other lost souls. Don't make crooked men rich. Don't live in a mind palace designed only to enslave you and your fellow brothers. Don't lose your soul by searching for loss of ego.
Seek reality. Literally touch grass. Talk to a girl, really, truly, talk to her. Look at her, she's a human, just like you. She's real. Look into her eyes. You are the same, created the same. Love her, kiss her, and never let her go. Reclaim your life, reclaim your love. Live, and breathe freely again.
I wish you all the best. DM me if you'd like to talk to someone who has suffered as you have suffered.
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