Dating a Girl You Like vs Dating a Girl You "Lust"
Background: Most girls I've ever dated, I got with them because I really wanted to fuck. Didn't necessarily have similar interests, hobbies, personalities, values, etc. The main motivation for the relationship was sex, and if the sex wasn't good, there wasn't that much else going for the relationship. No surprise, I've never had a serious long-term relationship.
Met a girl through a hobby group 4-5 weeks ago. She's nice, from the same hometown as me, in good shape, good job, no weird physical flaws. She is cute, and when we're out with friends, she gets hit on by other guys. She's definitely into me / waiting for me to ask her out (for the purpose of the post, let's not debate. When I know, I know)
Problem: I don't really "lust" after her. I like her enough to the point that I think about her after we hang out, I feel jealous when I see other guys taking interest, keep thinking about asking her out, etc. But she doesn't seem like a super sexual being to me. More like a cute, girl-next-door type that I like as a person (although she does have a good body...)
I'm a bit worried that I'll fuck her and then not be super into her afterwards. But I like her a lot as a friend and I would hate to do that to her. Plus, would potentially make things awkward within the friend group.
On the flip side, whenever I pursue a girl who I do "lust" after, the sexual attraction eventually fades and I'm left with a mediocre relationship that ends quickly. So maybe it's a good idea to try it with this girl? I don't want to hurt her, but I also don't want to miss out on a potential real / fulfilling relationship with someone I actually like as a person.
Has anyone ever gone through this? Those of you who are married / in serious relationships, did you ever feel this way about your SO when you first met? Did you like them more as a person than as a sex interest?