How to deal with a girl you really clicked with/liked rejecting you?
Long story short, I was dating a girl for 2 months who seemed really into me and me into her. We got along like we knew each other forever. Yesterday, she said that it wouldn't work, and she had to move on. I'm legit crying rn because we seemed so perfect for each other, and I'm not sure I'm ever going to find anyone else like her. How does one cope in this situation? I'm not getting younger every passing day
Don't give a fuck. Don't chase after her. You need to seem more valuable than her. Find another girl and make sure she somehow knows about this. The moment a woman realizes you didn't give a fuck when they left, they will feel uncomfortable. You have to not give a fuck. Then wait a bit and see what happens. Chose whether to get with her again or leave her behind for the next one.
This is a lesson men have to really learn on their own, but you are spot on. Women hate guys that are easy.
Seem indifferent and it drives her crazy
Did you have sex with her?
realistically the only question that matters. If yes, eat the pain, consider it another notch on your belt, and move forward. If not, just take the L.
Jokes aside. You gave decent advice on my thread so will help you (or try to). Don’t let it get to you. If she felt as strongly about it as you then she wouldn’t have left. And credit where it’s due, she didn’t wait to leave -would have been worse six months in or two years in. It was a couple months and didn’t work, move on.
Humans are complicated. Women are very complicated. She could have 100 different things going on in her life you don't know about. Maybe still involved in an old relationship, maybe has personal issues right now and doesn't want to date, family issues, attachment issues, literally hundreds of different things -- just move on, worry about what you can control.
You only have one option here - peace out with her and act like you don’t care. If you’re clingy it will just push her away. If she doesn’t come running back then f-her / there are many more fish in the sea.
Should I message her back? She broke up with me over text. I haven't replied yet.
Should I reply "if you ever reconsider, I'm always here"
message her this exactly and include the link:
“lol ok bye”
Nah brother, don't let bitches think they run the game. Don't let them think they can do shit like that without burning bridges. You're not getting her back - never. So now your reaction is purely a question of honor. As Isaiah said, you send lol ok bye and block her from everywhere. It's going to be painful but it's going to be worth it.
Don't ever say shit like this. In womanese, this translates to "I'm a little pussy. Find another dude and tell him how much better than me he is while he fucks you."
I'm sorry if this sounded harsh but you need to hear it. You may be really honest when you say "if you ever reconsider, I'm always here," but sometimes women won't respect your honesty. Do what Isaiah said. Send "lol ok bye"
That's the most pathetic response I've ever seen and she will lose what little respect she has for you , dead serious
Never ever ever ever chase a girl.
If you do, and succeed, you will forever be the bitch in the relationship as you will care about the relationship more then her, secretly know you are punching above your weight and will always be pushed around because she knows you want this more than she does (i.e. she has the leverage).
If you do, and don’t succeed, you will either be friend zoned by her, be her plan B or just embarrass yourself.
Let her come to you.
If she does, happy days.
If she doesn’t, you haven’t lost anything as unless you lead the relationship it’s not worth it.
Maybe that comes across as too ‘macho’ but that’s just my opinion.
I don’t want to sound harsh her but come on man, crying over a girl you have known for two months?
Go to the gym and squat until u can’t get up from having a s*** the next day, go running until u almost collapse, punch a boxing bag until you can’t anymore… release your anger or frustration in productive ways, stop sitting at home crying and sharing your stories in WSO.
Get out socialising, dive into the dating game, join some social clubs… you will realise she is replaceable just like that.
Keep your chin up king, work on yourself day-in day-out, and don’t ever let a girl make u feel u ain’t enough.
You aren’t getting any younger, but neither is she. And most of a girls value comes from her looks (I mean let be honest here).
Women look for a lot more in a guy than just looks such as confidence, being funny, social status, money/job title… that doesn’t go away with age.
I know with all the girls I’ve dated in the past, not one of them was invited on the date by me because she is funny or has confidence, put it that way.
Females peak between 18-24, then looks slowly go.
Us dude’s peak 24-44 (roughly), largely because thats our working years and we also have the luxury that girls tend to like an older guy.
I hope this helped you OP, or in fact anybody else reading this going through a similar situation.
What is this nuclear cope that men peak in their 40's?
Show me one 44 year old that gets laid more than an 18 year old ASU boy. The average age gap in marriages is 2 years, women like older guys but not older as in 44 year olds.
The purest form of copium is an Eastern European mail order bride...
Di Caprio, for example. also look at Musk and Bezos picking up some much younger girls in their age.
marriages != hookups. it makes sense that people get married to somebody of their age because the goal of marriage is to hopefully live together long-term and build a family. however, if you're a rich good-looking older gentleman, you don't need to get married, you can bang girls of all ages and have fun.
The best way to get over a woman is to find another one.
unfortunately, most of the advice you've gotten above is correct...you cannot chase a girl if you want her to like you....this is the most repelling behavior a man can do.
The best thing a man can do in this situation is to appear fun loving and unaffected. Not in love, not hurt, not bitchy, not angry, not depressed.
You want this girl (and every girl) to see you as a cool fun guy that they would think to call if they wanted to have a fun girls night out (+ you) because you are just so much fun. Anything else is will repel all women that are attractive and have options (we are assuming this is the case).
What would a cool fun guy (who has 10 other cute / hot girls trying to hit you up and asking you on dates) do?
The cool fun guy would text back "no worries...we're still cool...i'm still throwing a party next weekend and you are of course still invited and more than welcome to bring friends (guys+girls)...maybe we can set you up with my friend josh...you're totally his type"
the cool fun guy is not jealous or needy....he is the opposite
lmao trying to set her up with another guy like a pimp after she breaks up with you. That is the nicest, most polite way to say "fuck you"
LMAO
Yea I am on the fence on that response, trying to determine how I'd feel in the same situation haha
Probably depends how genuine offer is. 2 month relationship as OP said is very short, and if you are really into her then trying to set her up with another guy feels a bit soft. But can also see how it comes across as a genuine "ok cool, next" when she tells you
I don't think this works with every girl. At least not girls that want serious relationships. Girls don't want to (seriously) date a guy that truly tries to show he doesn't give a fuck about her, ever. Honestly sounds like a toxic af relationship to just hold back feelings and not show them at all, some Dennis Reynolds sociopathic behaviour. And this hypothetical guy you are describing sounds like a douche.
The point is not to never give a fuck about them. The point is to not give a fuck when they leave. At that point, trying to get them back will make them lose respect for you.
Agree with 90% of this, but on the breakup piece:
1. Absolutely agree you need to act bullet proof even if you arent. That means if you run into her it's completely cool, you're still social/charismatic/etc. But dont go inviting her to parties and shit (I get the purpose is to show you dont care) IF you are still torn up about it. No need to do that to yourself to prove a point
2. Disagree with the 'we can set you up with my friend Josh' line. Think it takes "I dont give a shit" a bit too far and in a weirder direction.
Did she ever say why?
If it's cause you work too much or you were rude to her or something like that then there is a chance you can promise to be better.
If it's cause she just doesn't like you, then forget about it, it hurts, but find someone new.
She said I was sweet and really enjoyed the time we spent together. But said she didn’t see it working
I'm surprised no one's told Pizz yet......who's gonna tell him?
Tell him what?
she 100% found someone else........
I rejected this one guy and then he didn't give a fuck, and somehow 8 months later I added him on instagram. Almost like not using my own will. Just happened
That's what the modern society calls "Daddy Issue". Look it up.
“You can lose $ chasing bitches but you can’t lose bitches when you are chasing $” - Benjamin Franklin
Millions and billions of women in the world - trust me you’ll be ok man
Focus on gym and getting swole
happens to the best of us, move on bro
I think you should tally up the cost of dinners/nights out and demand she pay for her allocation in full. Make sure she has paypal.
Watch the movie Swingers.
2 months is not long at all and not really even long enough to be considered a relationship. She was probably hanging out with different guys in the 'trial period' while you were taking your "relationship" status far more seriously than she was. I don't see how you could be this upset about someone you hardly even know. I wouldn’t be surprised if the reason it didn’t work is because she got repelled/scared by your “feel like we’ve known each other forever” vibes. Try to hold your cards closer to the chest next time…also stop trying so hard to find a girl--do other things you enjoy--and you will find the right person naturally, eventually.
This might be it.
Will say it can be hard sometimes. I've been with 100+ women and when I was single was generally dating 3-4 girls at a time, and felt nothing to them for the most part. But every once in a while (maybe 6 months to a year or so) would meet a girl in some setting that I would think was out of my league, put on a pedestal a bit, and then act too needy.
Chicks hate that. But it's hard when it's someone you are really into. Tighter you grip something, the more likely it is to slip between your fingers
Everyone here is acting like a wannabe "alpha male" (lmao wtf "act like you dont care", shut the fuck up, theres no formulaic method to date you code/stem/engineering bitch monkey), there's no formulaic method to dating despite what STEM virgins tell you (because they try applying a formulaic approach to life, hence why they are virgin losers).
Fuck her brains out against her will then ghost her.
Rape?
yep. not the best advice, unless you want to get your brains fucked out in jail.
Don’t be simpin’ let’s get pimpin’
You should definitely move on and forget about this girl. If I were you, I would ignore her text, remove her from all my social media accounts and delete her contact info. Dating someone for two months is a long time. She should have had the courtesy to at least break up with you over the phone to give you an opportunity to better understand her rationale for breaking up or give a better explanation via text of why she thinks it wouldn’t work. When I break up with guys, even if it’s someone I dated for a week, I normally made sure the guy knew why I was breaking things off, unless I don’t think it’s important to them or I think they’re an asshole. I normally do this out of guilt and consideration for the other person.
Thank you
Felt like I was reading about myself there cause that just happened to me too. Everything clicked perfectly. I thought it was real but now it’s like it never even happened. Moving on when you don’t know what went wrong is brutal. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through it. Glad to know it isn’t just me who struggles with this. Remind yourself that you were doing great before her and focus on you and your goals. Goodluck.
Hey bro I hope ur ok too. Sucks real hard.
I should've texted her I have ~$500k in the bank and she aint getting a single dime anymore. She didn't know how well-off I was, but I think she always wondered.
She’s not worth a penny and especially not your time, but even if they are the one, prenup always.
This situation stings. But think about it this way, she lost someone who deeply cared about her and was truly interested in her / seemingly respected her, etc. That's not always easy to come by, especially in this day and age. So really, it's her loss. So you should move on and try someone to find someone who will appreciate you and what you have to offer. It's that simple. :)))))
One day you'll probably look back and laugh and think to yourself, how was I so distraught / crying over THAT??
She even said I was sweet, like wth
That's just her trying to be nice. Some girls can think of you as "sweet" or a "nice guy" but that doesn't mean they want a relationship with you. You can't get too clingy with women. They have to get clingy with you.
it's just how it is. a lot of people don't value others and just use them and move on - both guys and girls.
don't get upset. getting older actually can make you even more desirable candidate as a guy, especially if you're getting richer and learning relationship skills. so you'll get better girls, don't worry.
hit her w/ that ray rice
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