Dating someone at work?

I want no sarcastic answers or rude answers thank you!

What do you guys think about dating someone at work? I am a female second year analyst at a MM bank. I work in M&A and the guy I am crushing one is a second year S&T analyst. I am ambitious and care about my work blablabla, but I have a huge crush on this guy.

I have scehduled a coffee chat with him under the guise of networking but I just want to f*ck his brains out.

Is this advisable? Any advice from the male perspective?

 
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Don't dip your pen in the company ink.

Don't crap where you eat.

Don't get high off your own supply.

What other ones did I miss?

For an actual answer: don't. Just don't. Get as friendly as you want but don't cross that line unless either one of you winds up working somewhere else. Even if you think being in different verticals is enough, your superiors will know his or at least flow in the same circles and despite your best efforts someone will say something even if they think it's innocuous and it'll find it's way back to you two.

Then again, people do get drunk and do goofy things at company events so you'd at least have an excuse to "work out your aggressions" with him that way.

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Reversing this slightly, I'm seeing someone and there's an opening in a different group in my firm.  They use me as a resource, but we're not in the same vertical until you hit the guy below the CEO.  I think this person would be a good fit, and while a finance n00b, I'd make sure the work done was top notch.  (the job is literally answering client questions, and while that role is only allowed to do basic things and use stock answers, if they come to me I can create things on the fly for them.)  It'd also be a big pay jump, and we're serious enough that I'm beginning to think of the income gap.  It doesn't feel right having a little red sports car and a Ducati while my S/O doesn't own a car and can't drive. (yes, Brooklyn, OK, I kinda get it)

The only difference between Asset Management and Investment Research is assets. I generally see somebody I know on TV on Bloomberg/CNBC etc. once or twice a week. This sounds cool, until I remind myself that I see somebody I know on ESPN five days a week.
 
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It doesn't feel right having a little red sports car 

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

It's a ND, not a 1.6L NA with Daisies TYVM.  Also: the NA looks best in green.  I know, an ex totaled 0.7% of the BRG NAs imported to the US.

The only difference between Asset Management and Investment Research is assets. I generally see somebody I know on TV on Bloomberg/CNBC etc. once or twice a week. This sounds cool, until I remind myself that I see somebody I know on ESPN five days a week.
 

Probably will be looked down upon because of Chinese Wall. Could find yourself entangled with Compliance. I’m not against workplace relationships generally speaking but this is an awful group pairing.

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I wouldn’t do it but I’ve never wanted to “fuck someone’s brains out at work” lol. So if that happens than I’m sure my answer would be different. Though one time, there was an art history professor. Anyway, use your best judgment I’m sure you understand the risks here. Not sure if you saw the post about the guy who told his boss about the girl he had thing for at work... don’t do that.

 

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