Do you care if your girlfriend smokes?

I come from a strictly non-smoking, non-drinking family. In fact, I've literally never actually seen my parents drink at the dinner table before. And they don't smoke either. I guess that background has a significant influence on me. Personally, I refuse to ask out/date any girls that smokes. It's just something I don't want to be part of my life. Now you might say I'm shallow because it's the "inside" and personality that counts. But hey, everyone's got their own bias. This is one of mine.

What about you? Do you care?

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kidflashNeed a girl who smokes so she won't give me shit about my smoking.

tons of non-smoker (girls) go out with smokers.

yaaa. but in my experience, right around 2-3 months they start bugging you to quit.
 

don't care unless she's coughing up a lung or talking like she's been smoking for 150 years

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I dated a smoker once for a few months (study abroad -- almost every chick seemed to be a smoker). Huge turn off that made kissing unpleasant. I would never do it again.

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A lot of the models, singers and actresses that you guys wank to on a daily basis are smokers... Are you guys going to stop wanking? I doubt it.

If you're dating a girl and she smokes, let her know that you don't like it because of how she smells and tastes. She might choose her addiction over you, or it might give her the boost to give it up. Either way, there is no point in being ideological about it. It's just one negative point.

As for me, I do think that it's a bad habit / addition. I really don't like the way cigarettes taste or smell, so if I can smell / taste it on a girl than it's a bit of a turn off / negative point, but I'm not going to pass over a beautiful / fun girl because she happens to have a pack of cigarettes. I can always ask her not to smoke near me / before we meet.

 
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RelinquisA lot of the models, singers and actresses that you guys wank to on a daily basis are smokers... Are you guys going to stop wanking? I doubt it.

I think you are missing a very important point, not sure if because of lack of experience with real life physical connections or...Yeah can't think of any other reason, but here goes: Fantasizing about someone on a computer/TV screen does NOT require you to smell their stinky breath or taste their ashy lips.

RelinquisIf you're dating a girl and she smokes, let her know that you don't like it because of how she smells and tastes. She might choose her addiction over you, or it might give her the boost to give it up. Either way, there is no point in being ideological about it. It's just one negative point.

Sure, because we date people so we can pinpoint their negative aspects and explicitly tell them those habits bother us which in turn puts them in a spot to make an ultimatum choice...

RelinquisAs for me, I do think that it's a bad habit / addition. I really don't like the way cigarettes taste or smell, so if I can smell / taste it on a girl than it's a bit of a turn off / negative point, but I'm not going to pass over a beautiful / fun girl because she happens to have a pack of cigarettes. I can always ask her not to smoke near me / before we meet.

Yes, please ask her to change her smoking schedule and curb her addiction and urges a few hours before she sees you and while she is with you because it bothers you but you don't want to live with it but omg you still want her because she is beautiful and fun. She will happily oblige and she might as well spray her house with industrial strength clorox before you go visit her and buy new sets of linen for those nights that you want to spend with her.

You baffle me, Relinquis

P.S: Not a smoker

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RelinquisA lot of the models, singers and actresses that you guys wank to on a daily basis are smokers... Are you guys going to stop wanking? I doubt it.

I think you are missing a very important point, not sure if because of lack of experience with real life physical connections or...Yeah can't think of any other reason, but here goes: Fantasizing about someone on a computer/TV screen does NOT require you to smell their stinky breath or taste their ashy lips.

RelinquisIf you're dating a girl and she smokes, let her know that you don't like it because of how she smells and tastes. She might choose her addiction over you, or it might give her the boost to give it up. Either way, there is no point in being ideological about it. It's just one negative point.

Sure, because we date people so we can pinpoint their negative aspects and explicitly tell them those habits bother us which in turn puts them in a spot to make an ultimatum choice...

RelinquisAs for me, I do think that it's a bad habit / addition. I really don't like the way cigarettes taste or smell, so if I can smell / taste it on a girl than it's a bit of a turn off / negative point, but I'm not going to pass over a beautiful / fun girl because she happens to have a pack of cigarettes. I can always ask her not to smoke near me / before we meet.

Yes, please ask her to change her smoking schedule and curb her addiction and urges a few hours before she sees you and while she is with you because it bothers you but you don't want to live with it but omg you still want her because she is beautiful and fun. She will happily oblige and she might as well spray her house with industrial strength clorox before you go visit her and buy new sets of linen for those nights that you want to spend with her.

You baffle me, Relinquis

P.S: Not a smoker

I don't like kissing smokers. It tastes bad. I like kissing girlfriends. Ergo, if i meet someone i like and we are seeing one another I'm going to ask her to curb her smoking around me, load up on mints and generally not expose me to that part of her life. I don't have to be mean about it and it doesn't need to be an ultimatum. I can't see how that's worse than just dumping a girl or refusing to see her because she is a smoker, or would you prefer that I was a passive boy and suffered in silence? Not my style.

I can reject someone's bad habit when it affects me directly, without rejecting them. It's not like smoking is an integral part of one's identity, or that I expect the women i'm involved with to be perfect. That would be quite boring.

I've never asked someone to quite smoking outright. I have had girls quit smoking around me, and sometimes they have quit altogether. Most women smokers I know, want to quit. Or at least that's what they tell me. Having said that most girls I meet don't smoke. I feel that it is seen as a bit unenlightened these days at least within my social circle.

 
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happypantsmcgeeIrrelevant. She wouldn't be my girlfriend if she smoked.
So you would pass on a great girl just because she lit up a cigarette the first time you guys hang out?
Just because she smokes does not make her a smoker. Sorry, I should have qualified that a bit. If a girl smokes when she is hammered and its very rare thats completely different, to me, than being a smoker. I would not date someone that smoked multiple cigs a day as I find it gross and counter to taking care of yourself which I think is very important. If a girl had a cig the first time I met her and we were out drinking I would ask her about it and go from there.
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i like gals who smoke, if you hate it stay away from it., trust me everything kills you these days, pain pills, too much mcdonalds, beer, soda, too much of anything kills u, i dont care!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you dont like it go away so simple, everyone has too be negative so sad

 

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