This might not be very relevant to banking but here's the situation:
I'm a junior at a target/semi-target. I am stuck here in the U.S. for the winter with travel restriction, and my school has a long winter break (~10 weeks). My winter plan is to keep working at my current startup (semester internship) for at least two more weeks - finishing strong - do some investing project or research offered by my school, and study for the GRE (or GMAT) to get a good score before the next semester begins so that I don't have to worry about it next summer (I'm planning on going to grad school, potentially right after undergrad). I am still searching for banking internships (had a late start), but my academic background has opened up many other potential career paths, so I am not too too worried about not landing something next summer (fingers crossed, pray for me).
But my gf (who is also intl. and staying here) wants to go ski somewhere for at least a month, and she got really upset after I told her that I might not have this luxurious amount of time for skiing. She told me she felt I'm not trying enough in dating her... and kinda asked me that... essentially why are we dating.
I have always been a hardworking person, which has paid off pretty well in many situations. I do get questioned sometimes by my friends for always grinding and not having time to relax and to have fun. But I am a firm believer that I need to work extremely hard in my younger years to prepare the best version of myself and set up long-term success at an early age. My gf said she understands, but I can tell she thinks I am lame. I love her and would love to go ski with her everyday, but I simply cannot afford the amount of time not doing work.
My fellow ladies and lads on WSO... please tell me if I am being a little too selfish and how could I navigate the situation...
Peace.
No, you're not. As long as you are still giving her time and attention (date, movie night, etc.)
MBAs typically aren’t directly after undergrad.
yeah I understand. I might get a master's in financial engineering, data science, or computer science (since I feel like whatever career path I choose, there will be a higher emphasis on data analytics in the future). My undergrad degree is very quantitative with a touch of (minor in) collaborative innovation.
Oh ok - yeah that works
Quant and software engineer are really good career paths. I’m on the engineering side. I plan on getting my MS in CS in a couple of years. Back to your original question- if you make time for her, she should understand. A month fo nothing but skiing/ having fun sounds really difficult to manage in
Do GRE not GMAT for this
Life is too short not to have fun man. Maybe see if you can compromise and go for a week or two instead of a whole month. I doubt in the long run an extra two weeks of grinding over winter break will make a meaningful difference, and when you’re old and look back on your college days you’ll remember the ski trip you took not the two weeks you spent grinding on some bs internship or project
I agree with the above suggestion of trying to find a compromise with regards to the duration of the holiday. Take the following with a grain of salt (I am just a stranger on a finance forum after all), but the above quote from your post made it sound like there is more going on? I am more than sure that you'll be able to figure out this particular holiday, but if you are generally giving her the impression that you're not into the relationship, it might not be a bad idea to talk about that.
appreciated and will take action immediately, dear God Mother. Now could you please tell me who is still after me...
How much time do you give her, outside the skiing part?
A decent amount
Can you give examples?
life's short
but not if you're paralyzed from a ski accident
it really drags on then
point being: marry her
I'll pm you with the wedding invitation
When you’re 90 and on your deathbed, are you going to look back and think “damn, sure am fucking glad I spend that whole Winter back in 2021 sitting down and studying mindless equations and verbal reasoning for a test that nobody really gives a shit about, instead of taking a few weeks out for the skiing vacation of a lifetime with the person I loved!”
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Remember there must be an equilibrium between your professional life/the goals you’re working towards and your personal life (spend quality time with the people you love). Imho, keep working hard and talk with your gf about what matters to you, communicate.
Go skiing.
You will never have a month off, especially with your girlfriend, once you start work.
2 additional weeks of an internship is absolutely not worth it, GMAT can very easily be done during the spring semester. These are terrible reasons to skip one of your last chances at an extended period of freedom.
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