Mad at my People Skill
So, so I was at a big volunteering event just now. It was more a practice than anything but there were about 45+ of us. My intention was so see how well I could network and establish relationship. Well, it didn't go well. I spoke with about 5-6 strangers and the conversation was alright but nothing too interesting. The problem lies in not knowing what topic to talk about. I m a high school students and everyone there was as well. It was awkward because I did not know their name and I did not know how to address them or get there attention to talk. The people that I talked with, well I couldn't really establish anything and pretty much I won't ever hear back from them again. I need some ideas/tips because I have another event like this tomorrow...
What is the purpose of networking with high school students? Why don't you just try to make friends? It's pretty much the same thing but without the weirdness.
When I mean network, I mean making friends. Don't they mean the same stuff? It's good practice and who knows, knowing more people is definitely an asset.
Wait, what? Highschool student? Networking event? Why?
Whoever threw MS at a highschooler is an asshole.
Yes, networking is tough. Quants and programmers have to do less of it than salespeople and consultants. It's not always easy to keep a conversation going.
You get practice at this stuff and you get better. Some people read the sports page just so they can carry on a conversation with ~40% of the guys out there.
practice, practice and practice. no one gets good at something before struggling like the rest!
the goods ones keep practicing wh
Fuck, I wish I knew what to tell you to help you, but I don't even know how to verbalize what I mean. I was super socially awkward when I was younger and I'm extremely outgoing/charismatic/the opposite of socially awkward now.
It kind of just came with age and becoming confident in myself. The only thing I can really tell you is to stop caring so much, which I think is good advice, but is hard to just go and do... so it's shitty advice. But that's what it comes down to. You stop caring so much what everyone thinks and you suddenly loosen up and are more interesting to talk to.
The attitude that leads to confidence (which leads to good people skills), I think, is outcome indifference. When you're fretting over whether someone will like you or whatever, it's because you want something from them, directly or indirectly: A job, a favor, sex, friendship, whatever Once you're comfortable with where you are and where you're going and your ability to get there regardless of any single individual, your attitude really changes and it's noticeable. But again, that's not really advice...
Since you're in high school, I'd join a sports team to build people skills. You don't see a lot of socially awkward athletes. You should play sports for a variety of other reasons anyway.
Also, do NOT go see a shrink and start taking antianxiety meds. They will seriously, seriously fuck up your whole life 90% of the time. There are people who need them, but if you use them as a crutch, they'll fuck your memory and emotional health sideways.
I like this approach, SB
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