Meeting someone you treated like sh it

I am meeting my boyfriend's sister for the first time

WELL she turns out to be someone I know in my early college days and I treated her like crap. we didnt like each other thats for sure but i was a real bitch and made her like miserable.. i was so so mean to her. at the time i just said she doesnt like me, so i can do this but looking back i see i was out of control and im sorry.

how do you deal with meeting someone you treated badly before? and then potentially answering questions by someone you really care about (the bf) about this?

i bet this sort of stuff happens in banking a lot.....

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This is why it's always good to be nice to people.

That said, everyone grows as human beings- I'm sure you have, too. I certainly have over the past few years. If she brings it up, just try and be honest and if you can say something like, "Yeah, I was really immature back then. Sorry for being a jerk" that can start the process of patching things up.

Most people just want to know that you've changed for the better, and if it's a genuine change, they'll be happy for you and the old wounds will eventually heal. Other human beings tend to be a lot more gracious than we give them credit for.

 
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That said, everyone grows as human beings- I'm sure you have, too. I certainly have over the past few years. If she brings it up, just try and be honest and if you can say something like, "Yeah, I was really immature back then. Sorry for being a jerk" that can start the process of patching things up.

Most people just want to know that you've changed for the better, and if it's a genuine change, they'll be happy for you and the old wounds will eventually heal. Other human beings tend to be a lot more gracious than we give them credit for.

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Isn't this the script to an upcoming Hollywood film with Kristen Bell?

"Greed, in all of its forms; greed for life, for money, for love, for knowledge has marked the upward surge of mankind. And greed, you mark my words, will not only save Teldar Paper, but that other malfunctioning corporation called the USA."
 
Gekko21Isn't this the script to an upcoming Hollywood film with Kristen Bell?

Yeah, OP is basically the antagonist in this movie:

"If you can count your money, you don't have a billion dollars." - J. Paul Getty
 
Edmundo BravermanUh...guys? I'm thinking the OP is a chick.

Just saying.

Friday stupidity round questions.....what does OP mean?

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What sort of treatment are we talking about here? Like you were roommates and you were nailing dudes all the time and wouldn't let her study? Or you were in her sorority and called her a fat slut? Because if she was, sometimes the truth hurts and no apology necessary. If it was the former, make sure your bfs room shares a wall with hers and really go to town. Bring her back some memories.

 
SAC

On a side note, the brunette in the movie clip posted above, Odette Yustman is gorgeous.

Agreed, I think she looks like a classy Megan Fox.

"If you can count your money, you don't have a billion dollars." - J. Paul Getty
 
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SAC

On a side note, the brunette in the movie clip posted above, Odette Yustman is gorgeous.

Agreed, I think she looks like a classy Megan Fox.

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Thanks anthony

you have to give it for people in this industry, there are abreviations for nearly everything

On this note i bid everyone a GN

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