Possibly pregnant girlfriend: am I finished?
I am a sophomore at a target business school and I had big plans for my future to travel around the world to work in different fields and companies for a few years after graduation. Universe said nope. My girlfriend and I are concerned that she may be pregnant because she has a few symptoms of that (even if the last time we met was a week ago) and her family is very religious so we would be forced to keep it.
I think the chance that it actually happened is very slim because we always took precautions, but this made me think of what would happen to my career in that case. Of course, it would be impossible to travel as much as I wanted, but do you think that there are still good chances of having a very good career even with a child at such a young age? I am concerned even because I have around 70k in student debt and this means that combined with a son I would need to make a lot of money to live comfortably after all the payments, meaning that I would never be able to accept a less paying but more fulfilling job.
I am scared.
my brother in christ has she at least taken a pregnancy test
no, but she has literally all of the symptoms that come out when you search early pregnancy symptoms on Google
The prospect of having kids can be terrifying, especially when it isn't planned. However, I know plenty of people that have pretty lucrative careers and are generally happy people that had unplanned kids. Life rarely goes according to plan, and having kids just means changing the plan a bit. You can still have a fine career if that's what you want. It might take longer, and you might have an extra step to take now and then, but you'll be fine.
I haven't broken into the financial industry yet, so I can't attest to HOW to do it yet, but my fiancee got pregnant about three months after we met, and I can assure you we were in no way ready to be parents mentally or financially. We have been together for almost seven years now and have a five-year-old and an eighteen-month-old. It took work. If you want to be successful, you’ll have to sacrifice some family time, and your partner will have to be on the same page as you. It's doable, though, and if you didn't have a why before, you'll have it after you have kids.
yes I agree, but we are still in college and I have never even had a real job before, that's what makes everything scarier. Maybe I should reconsider my priorities
Buddy, I was a 23-year-old bartender making beer money and had never even considered going to college when my then gf got pregnant. I'm now a designer at an engineering firm, working on my business degree and trying to break into the financial industry. I won't tell you it isn't hard, but the world doesn't explode just because you have kids. I had to get a few jobs I didn't love because I needed to support my new family, and I had to put a couple of things on hold for a bit, but life got stable again. You can do whatever you want. Just don't be too proud to take a job you feel is beneath you. Money is money when it comes down to it, and you can gain knowledge in almost any situation if you look for it.
If you're at a target business school, you'll be totally fine. There are a ton of people in this country living good lives with kids fairly early on that don't have target degrees.You just may need to re-think your work life balance goals ahead. I'm not saying things aren't going to be tough but your life is not over.
Side note: I hate the propaganda fed to young adults these days. If you don't abort your kid, your life is over. Propaganda is so strong that even people attending Ivy League schools think that. Absolutely ridiculous. Life will be tougher and that's it. Not the end of the world.
In fact, as somone who probably had to work pretty hard to get into a target school, I don't doubt your ability at all to grind at a job and be a good dad at the same time. You're a smart, young and ambitious guy. Sure, it feels scary but you got this.
I had too many pregnancy scares to count with my ex, the more you feed into the fear the worse it gets. Get 3 pregnancy tests make her take them all. If she’s pregnant get it aborted
Lol, relax bro. Its just a kid. Enjoy being a young father.
congratulations! Having a baby is something most people can only dream of.
Being a younger father/parent is also more positive than you think.
You have a good support network,you will be fine. Be there for her and support her.
Now, go to the off-topic forum and ask for the most prestigious nursery & kindergarten.
"Most people can only dream of" lmao?? Id be curious to see of humans who've been born in the last 75 years what proportion ended up having kids id hazard a guess it's the overwhelming majority
And that might be true for your circle. Unfortunately, I know that the majority of my friends/family don't have kids because they waited too long, or there were other complications. They simply can't have children. In general terms, birth rates are down in many Western nations.
My grandparents generation fought a world war at 18, then started having kids in their early 20s. Then a lot of them got older and were responsible for the creation of the LBO and other common financial machinations. You will be fine boyo.
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