Red Flags In a Girl

Saw the post earlier on the dude asking about a girl who has a 100+ body count. Obviously lot of girls will lie about it when you ask but it reminds of me equity research -- you don't always have perfect information but you're looking for clues that will paint a full picture (look up mosaic theory if interested). Red flags for me include:

  1. Daddy issues -- The classic but well proven. Biggest way she gets fulfillment is from smashing random dudes to make up for the attention her father never gave her

  2. Heavy partier -- If she's out and about every weekend at bars / clubs, good chance that's a 1x a week hookup or more

  3. Is "one of the guys" / has lots of male friends -- she'll never actually be one of the guys but she wins this reputation by sleeping with a lot of dudes, all her guy 'friends' are those hoping to sleep with her

  4. Smokes weed on the reg -- low quality, nuff said

  5. Travel frequently (non-work), esp alone -- I solo traveled across Europe is code for "I f*cked my way across Europe

  6. Has cheated before -- You can find this out from friends / friends of friends often times, though I understand it's sometimes not feasible to know

  7. Slutty friends -- quote that you are the sum of the 6 people you spent the most time with rings true. If she's got slutty friends but says she herself has a low body count / acts like a good girl, gtfo. All of us are prone to emulating behaviors from our friends & we seek like-minded individuals -- this is one of the easiest red flags to identify because you will meet her friends

What are your other red flags for filtering out girls with super high body counts & poor values?

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May 16, 2022 - 3:47pm
thehalifaxgroup, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Excessive spending -- find that girls who don't have impulse control on this also have in impulse control when it comes to letting guys run train on them. Personal experience ;)

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May 16, 2022 - 3:48pm
hedgehog9, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Based af. Especially on the points of slutty friends and solo travel lmao, those are probably the best indicators and easier to learn about. 

No one has to take this advice but ignoring these red flags are far likelier to hurt you in the long run vs. taking a moment to think about them

May 16, 2022 - 4:20pm
iercurenc, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Define solo travel. Know a girl who traveled to a different state alone to work during her gap year during COVID.

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May 16, 2022 - 4:18pm
monkeyuser69420, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Although I agree, these aren't specific to women. I'd argue these are red flags for anyone. Also- I think (4) needs a further explanation; I don't see anything wrong with healthy, moderated, (preferably) low-budget travel in early years.

May 16, 2022 - 9:19pm
therealgekko, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Drinking is a tough one. While ideally a girl doesn't drink (that's about as bright a green flag as I've seen), drinking is so normalized that this is a very high standard.

Maybe with "loves to drink alcohol" I think the point you're trying to get at is 'loves to party' -- that's a big red flag if she's out drinking every weekend. A once in a while shenanigan or just drinking glasses of wine with meals is normal though I feel

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May 16, 2022 - 3:55pm
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Wowwwwwww another thread where the office boys are bashing tattoos and smoking weed. Shocker. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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May 16, 2022 - 3:58pm
Sequoia, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Eh much love to you Isaiah but while guys smoking weed is pretty regular (most guys I know have), every single girl I know that smokes weed regularly has a dummy high body count (same with tattoos). I just don't view that as wife material. Even you I believe want to find a Catholic girl who's either a virgin or has a low body count when you marry. Just saying, regular weed smoking for a girl is just incompatible with this 99% of the time

May 16, 2022 - 4:02pm
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Yeah optimally a Catholic girl. 99% is way off though.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

May 16, 2022 - 3:56pm
kodi, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I see women as 100% equal to men (and all other genders) and, while I don't think a persons' value is only depending on education or degrees. It is a red flag for me when she never had to work hard for anything. Could be lack of a degree, or being spoiled/a trust fund girl or a general attitude that the world owes her something. I get there are cases where a family decides that the wife (or husband) should be a stay at home parent, and I am not saying this is a bad idea.
A girl should find her purpose in life that goes beyond her looks. This could be a degree, or a higher cause, or maybe even launching her own business.

Hard work builds character. When people are rewarded without making the effort, it may reduce confidence, may promote dependency, and robs individuals of their personal dignity.

May 16, 2022 - 3:59pm
Sequoia, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Absolutely, men and women are equal

Agreed that's a good one, working for something denotes struggle and character vs. having things handed to you on a silver platter

May 16, 2022 - 4:03pm
lkjhg, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Mentally/emotionally unstable or on SSRIs

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May 16, 2022 - 4:12pm
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:
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Mentally/emotionally unstable or on SSRIs

Mentally/emotionally unstable is one thing, but there are a lot of people who are on SSRIs that are level headed and take care of their shit. You can't bag someone just because they have a mental illness - it's how you cope with what you have - not your baseline genetics. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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May 16, 2022 - 4:17pm
kodi, what's your opinion? Comment below:

A medical condition is not someone's fault. With enough experience, maturity and character - an adult male can date a girl with a mental health condition. It might be more difficult, but if this is a real relationship it might work out.

Humans who have a health condition have the right to be happy too.

May 16, 2022 - 4:27pm
papertiger, what's your opinion? Comment below:

1. High maintenance

Asks for gifts as apologies, wears branded things and won't settle (perfumes bras etc). 

2. High ego and sense of self-worth

Uses the word "I" a lot

3. Willing to walk away from anything and everything to satisfy own ego

Suppose you order a $40 drink. It doesn't come on time but she walks away yelling at the waiter why it's late and says let's leave they don't deserve it.

4. Excessively high opinion of herself

Has a Twitter (Unless she's the son of a somebody or actually is a somebody this proves she thinks her voice counts)

Claims to be hot, cutie patootie

5. Self-destructive ego

Temper tantrums over small things

Not willing to let go

Won't forgive or let something slide

6. Bad eating habits, waking up late

Points to lack of discipline

May 16, 2022 - 4:29pm
IncomingIBDreject, what's your opinion? Comment below:

You don't actually believe the things you wrote do you (except #6) ?

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May 16, 2022 - 4:54pm
IncomingIBDreject, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I agree with you on #6 but many of these other things are based on subconscious classism that you have but don't realize it. Let me explain:

1) Not having a father figure isn't something that a girl chooses and is unfortunately relatively common in poorer communities. That doesn't immediately mean she's going to be a slut. Sure she may want emotional connection from a man, but that can cut the opposite way meaning she's far more loyal to one guy as opposed to a girl who can just sleep with anyone and move on without emotion or feeling. It's much more of a coin toss here than you realize.

2) Weed/Tattoos is something that is considered socially acceptable in poorer communities and often these shops are readily available. I personally wouldn't want a girl who smokes because of the smell, but there's not much more to it than that. The idea that someone partakes in activities that are a bit on the edge but normal for their community isn't an indicator of anything. Tattoos aren't taken the same way in poorer communities like they would be in UMC. It's more or less some artwork and that's about it.

3) I also strongly disagree with the friends thing. It sounds great on paper, but people who grew up in poorer areas don't exactly have the greatest choices when it comes to friends. Whoever is there whether it be an escort, gang member or junkie is your friend and that's that. In other words poor people do not have the ability to control their friends like rich people do. I say this only because I know people who I grew up with who are in jail for terrible crimes, but that doesn't mean I'm going to go commit the same crimes and go to jail. 


4) Again with the traveling alone part if the girl has never met her dad and her mom is dead of an OD, who exactly is she supposed to travel with? When your well to do you have your prep school buddies or sorority/fraternity to go travel with but such resources don't exist for poor people

The only thing I really agree with you on is the cheating part because past performance does indicate a good part of  future behavior when it comes to loyalty. 

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May 16, 2022 - 6:08pm
Anonymous Monkey, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Hilarious thinking about all the incels and virgins on this site using this criteria to filter their list of 0 prospects.  If you're personally bringing nothing to the table, this is all just lazy conjecture and a convenient excuse to shit on women.

"That woman is beautiful. Nevermind the fact that she has absolutely zero interest in me, the main reason we're not together is because she has 5 friends who are men"

May 16, 2022 - 6:10pm
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Agree somewhat. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

May 16, 2022 - 8:18pm
thehalifaxgroup, what's your opinion? Comment below:

You really are an autist lol. No one is saying to avoid women in general, just low quality women. Plenty of great high quality women out there

These red flags are just general guidelines with solid reasoning behind them. If you really want to marry the girl with a 50+ body count, go ahead. No one is stopping you

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May 16, 2022 - 8:25pm
Anonymous Monkey, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I think you've heard others use autist as an insult but aren't exactly sure of how to use it yourself.

May 16, 2022 - 6:59pm
DreamforIB, what's your opinion? Comment below:

My biggest one is when they are looking for entertainment on your dime all the time. They never compromise and are looking for nights out all the time. If so get rid of her.

May 16, 2022 - 7:37pm
________., what's your opinion? Comment below:

Disagree with 1. and 3.

You can't choose who your father is so some girls do indeed have daddy issues.  Doesn't make them a bad person.

As for girls with a lot of male friends, I would not really worry about that.  The "friends" never ever get to bang from what I've seen.

May 16, 2022 - 8:16pm
Sequoia, what's your opinion? Comment below:

On 1 -- agreed that they don't get to choose their fathers and it doesn't necessarily make them a bad person either, that's not the argument. Even if this is the case, I just wouldn't want to be in a relationship with them. Imagine this -- a stripper had a shitty father that walked out. Is this the stripper's fault? No. Is this stripper a bad person? Not necessarily, maybe or maybe not. That said, do I personally want to wife up this stripper knowing what these types of issues have shaped her into? Hard no.

On 3 -- Depends on to what extent. Does she have guy friends? This alone is not a red flag. Is the "one of the guys?" The latter is a very different thing I would argue 

May 16, 2022 - 9:19pm
IncomingIBDreject, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Re 1: That's your preference but you've not proven that the stripper would actually be a poor wife or disloyal. Not to get into the weeds too much here but the title in itself can range from dancer to escort. You want to avoid escorts at all costs, but dancers at a couples club are much more of a coin toss. 

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May 16, 2022 - 8:33pm
bimsen, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Why does nobody mention dating apps? For me probably the #1 red flag when meeting a girl. In nearly all of the cases I know this means that she either has a high bodycount, a big ego and/or a low self esteem. Haven't met a single ‚wifey material' girl who uses dating apps on the regular..

May 16, 2022 - 9:19pm
Sequoia, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Found the future c*uckhold. Who said I hated these things in women? I just don't want them in a woman I'm in a LTR with. It's a free country, if your ideal woman is a girl who's been with 70+ guys and has major daddy issues then who am I to stop you -- enjoy!

May 16, 2022 - 9:19pm
thehalifaxgroup, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Love it when guys try to justify their women having been with 100+ dudes, "change with the times dude, if you don't think your girl should be with at least 100 guys then you're an incel." What a clown

May 16, 2022 - 9:19pm
chief_hoss, what's your opinion? Comment below:

seems to be a lot of people here looking for the most vanilla, uninteresting, one-dimensional partner possible

May 16, 2022 - 9:19pm
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May 16, 2022 - 9:19pm
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