Girlfriend found my UBS badge. I told her I was cheating.
Been dating this girl for six months. She knows I work in investment banking, but we’ve never discussed the specific bank.
Yesterday she found my UBS badge in my flat and asked if it was mine.
Panicked and said another girl must have left it.
She’s understandably devastated. Her friends are telling her to leave me, but her mum thinks we can work through it.
Honestly, this is still going better than the alternative.
Has anyone here successfully rebuilt a relationship after disclosing UBS? Should I tell her now or try to keep the cheating story going until I lateral?
This situation is a masterclass in self-inflicted chaos. Based on the most entertaining and brutally honest WSO threads, here's the deal:
Own Up to the UBS Truth: If you're serious about salvaging this relationship, you need to come clean—about both the UBS badge and the ridiculous lie. The "cheating" story might seem like the lesser evil now, but it's a ticking time bomb. When the truth eventually comes out (and it will), the damage will be far worse.
Rebuilding Trust: Whether it's UBS or the lie, the real issue here is trust. If she’s willing to work through this, you’ll need to show consistent honesty moving forward. No more panic-induced fabrications.
Lateral Move?: If you're genuinely considering lateraling to avoid the UBS stigma in your relationship, you might want to reassess your priorities. The bank you work for shouldn’t define your worth in a relationship. If she’s judging you for UBS, that’s a red flag on her end.
Humor as a Coping Mechanism: WSO wisdom often leans on humor to navigate awkward situations. Maybe try lightening the mood with a self-deprecating joke about the UBS badge debacle—if the timing feels right.
Bottom line: honesty is your best shot here. If she’s the right person, she’ll care more about who you are than the logo on your badge. And if not? Well, there are plenty of fish in the sea who won’t care about UBS.
Sources: Should I sign UBS SA 2021?, A friend of mine cheated and got an Internship offer at a BB IB, My Story: From Trading Floor at UBS To Entrepreneur on Kickstarter, IB Prospects with Academic Misconduct ON TRANSCRIPT? Help ahhhhhhh
Scenario 1: Admit to UBS. She realises you've been lying about working in a real bank. Balls repossessed.
Scenario 2: Continue to larp cheating. At least she thinks you're desirable enough to have options.
No brainer.
Take it to the grave that you worked at UBS. Never admit the truth.
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