Sliding into a girls DMs on LinkedIn

Has this been done before? Is it appropriate? I assume no but wondering how and if I should even attempt to approach this. She's a SA and I'm FT, so I can’t really hit her up to learn more about her job (not the same bank). I sent her a connect request to which she accepted but nothing beyond that

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You risk ending up in her LinkedIn post as she shows the screenshots of men sliding into her LinkedIn DMs, showing what women have to deal with in a male-dominated industry, and how they have to keep pushing barriers

 
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I had a girl DM me on there as she was looking to “meet other young professionals in the city.” Not thinking much of it, I replied and we set up a time to grab coffee. Went out for coffee and learned that she was the co-founder of this start-up. A week later we went out for dinner and did some bar hopping, then ended the night at my place.

Went on to hook up for a few months until she decided to get back with her ex. Fun while it lasted, but I wouldn’t go shooting shots on LinkedIn.

 

You could’ve literally just said the ending of the last sentence because none of that preamble was relevant

 

The fact she sent me a snap of her shirt for a white lies party which read, “I don’t use LinkedIn as a dating app” told me I wasn’t the first

 

Have done this twice and once had a girl slide into my DMs. Always ended favorably, no one getting roasted on LinkedIn (super immature post to make, IMO). 
 

Play it safe and make it sound professional. The latest girl I did this - we met in person but I failed to close prior to end of the night. She looked me up on LI, I sent her a message and she thought I was trying to break into her industry by asking her for coffee. Realized ~30 minutes into the coffee chat (first date, actually) that I did not care about working in her industry.

 

Tbh, I would look her up on Facebook or Instagram to make sure she isn’t taken and then slide into her DMs on said apps. Keep LinkedIn interactions professional. This approach also makes your intentions clear.

 

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