Turned down a spot on Forbes list, may turn down my girlfriend next
Was unknowingly nominated and selected to be on a Forbes list this year (think 30 under 30 or 40 under 40). Turned it down because I feel it's a jinx trap; most people that make those lists fizzle out. You become a target for envious people to pray for your downfall. Sure, some people continue to progress, but most have peaked.
Selection criteria is too vague/subjective and the whole thing feels superficial. There were a lot more people deserving than me that didn't even get nominated. Actually, I think such "accolades" are distractions because you (falsely) start to believe you're ahead of the game and no one likes a humblebragger either.
My girlfriend thinks I'm crazy for saying "no". Apparently it could've "lead to more opportunities from all the recognition". Don't get me wrong, I like attention as much as the next prestige whore, but I'm also kind of shy, especially when getting smoke blown up my ass. From personal experience, being mysterious has helped me as much as being attention seeking.
When I was younger, I was flabbergasted to learn that my one of my boss's boss's boss was an "unofficial" billionaire. Guy would literally donate tens of millions dollars multiple times a year, including to his non-target college in the middle of nowhere. These places allegedly had no idea where the money was coming from, however since I was in the finance department, I could see trail clearly.
While I hardly dealt with this generous donor, to this day, I still cannot understand how a person can avoid the temptation of showing off, bragging and stroking one's own ego like that guy. But I try my best to emulate him daily (though I do hate when people assume I'm unsuccessful or a bum when they see my beat up car, small house or my wired earpods). Reality is, I get way more happiness out of being financially free/stress free and spend immensely on my baseball card collection.
Thinking about dumping my girlfriend since she's too much into appearances, optics and keeping up with the Joneses. Don't need that stress in married life. Is it better stay humble/modest/low-key or should you capitalize/take advantage of recognition? Please share thoughts- thanks.