Delicate Family Situation - Need Some Advice

My parents recently divorced, and I intend to drop my dad's last name (my last name is currently hyphenated). I won't go into the specific details, but my dad and I are not close and probably never will be. At the same time, he is my dad, and I have no idea how he will react when he finds out that I've dropped his last name. Does anyone have any advice for how I can broach the subject and still remain cordial?

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I was on very bad terms with my old man, I didn't take anybody's lip when younger and we had generally different understandings of things. I would advise to talk some sense to your old man, you share the same blood and you should stick together. My dad remarried as well, and got a little daughter, but i am still his only son. So one night I picked up my phone and talked things straight. He's quite a stubborn person, but I played the only-son card well, and we have been good for past 2-3 years now, and it feels great.

 

My parents are divorced too and I added my mothers name before they split. Yeah he was mad, but who cares? It's your life not his. Do you! Haven't spoken to him in years too.

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