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You’re right, this assumes everything goes well and she doesn’t reject me lol (I have reason to believe she won’t). But I wouldn’t want to then fuck it up with her if I can’t dedicate enough time.

She could be wifey material. Give it a shot.

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Focus on getting the relationship before you worry about how you will manage time, while in the hypothetical relationship.

Some things need to be managed by considering the specific (actual) details being relevant at the time.

Especially in NYC, you can't really assume the relationship, merely because you have interest. Life isn't that simple or straightforward. In NYC, you have to assume that she will be considering many possible options, so there will be competition, perhaps overwhelming competition, which may prove a struggle.

Also, remember, in NYC, you will be competing with every other man in the city, including those with significant resources and experience around the scene. That only adds to your difficulty.

If you haven't closed the deal already, I think it's more of a wishful hope at this point. Focus on getting the relationship first.

I like that you are thinking ahead about allocation of time, but I think you need to get thr relationship first.

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