Do you pay all travelling expenses for your girls (guys)?

Disclaimer: very RE related topic here.

Bonus season is here, meaning we all bout to splurge on a bunch of useless shit. Just doing a survey to see if my fellow RE bros take care of the travelling bills when you're on long int'l trips with yo girls.

Should guys pay for all travelling expenses? Should we pay if you're not officially dating the chicks? Should you pay if the chick also has a high-finance job and can afford the trip herself? What's the rule of thumb here?

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I think it depends on how much you make vs your partner. If you are balling like LeBron while your gf is a teacher, it isn't really fair for you to split expenses 50/50. Maybe you pick up the travel and she can pick up the meals

 
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As a man with morals that could stand the test of time, dating two women (one is long-distance) and managing a portfolio of FWBs, I only pay for food and drinks. I give Bday presents to all. One time both girlfriends got the same LV purse.

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We usually split it. We both have good jobs and split expenses anyhow though, so that's not abnormal.

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We alternate paying for things, probably ends up being 60-65% me, which is fine. I make more, and it's not the money that's important, it's that everyone party to the relationship is contributing to it.

The one exception is weddings. If it's someone from her social circle getting married, she's paying for my flight/hotel/most expenses. I'll do the same for my folks.

 

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