Protecting Relationships
Hi all,
Long story, I have some strong relationships in my market which have taken a long time to cultivate. My boss doesn’t seem to care who’s relationships they are, and he routinely will cut me out on conversations with them. It bothers me, and it’s very important to me that I’m not “cut out.” Curious to hear if anyone else has dealt with this and how. Thanks.
Tell your relationships to put you back in. If they are that strong, call them on the side and tell them to add you in.
I can do that, but that just feels awkward….
Why?
Look, a lot of this is reciprocal. If your contact is willing to cut you out that easily, then something else is going on or that person is an ass and isn't a "relationship" worth keeping.
It’s less of an active cutting out from my contacts standpoint. As I said, it’s my boss taking action, not my contact.
And to your “Why?” …because it’s awkward. Being possessive over a relationship is inherently awkward. Further, to ask my contact to not act in their best interest by working with someone more senior in the company (assuming I’m fine with it) would be a unreasonable ask from my standpoint.
My question was more around addressing that with my boss, and I should have been more clear.
Hm. I guess the short response is that no one but you can answer for your feelings.
I wouldn't feel uncomfortable telling a coworker "hey, I put a lot of time and effort into cultivating this relationship for the firm, I'd like to be included when we speak with him/her." I think that's a pretty mature and reasonable ask. Especially since the obvious implication is that you won't put that time and effort in if someone is going to go behind your back, which is also fair. Make the relationships and don't introduce them to your boss if they won't respect that boundary, or at least attempt to.
Why would it be awkward? It’s your contact which you have a good relationship with (I hope). If so, pick up the phone on the side and tell them to bring you back in. If you want to protect your relationship, and your boss won’t bring you back in, this is how you do it.
Either you care enough to do something about it or you don't care enough and should stop complaining on the internet.
Not complaining. Seeking tactful advice on how to address.
Maxime ea quibusdam quae voluptate occaecati dolor qui velit. Minima quisquam blanditiis veritatis non non.
Atque harum modi delectus tenetur. Non sint tempore facilis eos illo. Quas ea quia dolor nesciunt. Corrupti quo accusantium et magni nisi. Temporibus non ut tenetur. Temporibus eos aut aliquid cumque similique repellendus et. Quia repudiandae sint modi.
See All Comments - 100% Free
WSO depends on everyone being able to pitch in when they know something. Unlock with your email and get bonus: 6 financial modeling lessons free ($199 value)
or Unlock with your social account...